How can I learn to become a good master?
Of course, I am loath to dissuade anyone from sexual experimentation and kinky activities, as these can be invaluable in teaching you more about what you and your partner likes in terms of bedroom role-play. Even if you're unsure about your orientation, that's OK. Keep experimenting and enjoying finding out more about who you are!
If you know that Dominance is a life calling for you, simply keep in mind the top three priorities: consent, safety and fun. After those, it all comes down to the personal preferences of you and your chosen submissive or partner, so enjoy the learning process.
Also, don't be afraid to connect with the larger BDSM community either through the Internet or in your local area. Ask other Dominant men and women for technical tips for practical purposes, such as bondage, CBT, chastity, verbal humiliation and more. You can of course find in-depth advice on specific fetish and BDSM activities through researched and expert articles online as well.
So, the short answer to your question? If you're a Dominant, that's what you are. You can become a better master through continued learning, an open mind, and experimentation.
Written by Cara Sutra
Cara Sutra writes at her own sexuality magazine, carasutra.com as well as acting as professional copywriter for many high-profile adult industry publications, both online and in print. Her magazine style website is a combination of her personal sex blog, sex, relationship and fetish advice articles, erotic fiction, sex industry news as well as a large number of adult product and sex toy reviews.Full Bio