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Rape is a form of sexual assault involving sexual activity without the victim's consent. Rape is often assumed to be perpetrated by physical force or violence, but it may also be carried out by coercion,... (Read on)

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When you have anal sex for the first time you should go very slowly and use lots of lube. A lot of the time, it’s the mental hang up that people have about anal sex that makes... (Read on)
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Dyscalligynia is a condition characterized by a negative reaction to beautiful women. In many cases, this reaction could even be described as anger or hatred.... Read more 


Dysmorphophilia is a fetish or sexual preference for people with physical or mental impairments. People with dysmorphophilia, known as dysmorphophiles, may become... Read more 


Electrophilia is a sexual fetish that revolves around electricity and electrical stimulation. People with electrophilia, known as electrophiles, enjoy fantasizing... Read more 


Endytophilia is a fetish for clothed sexual activity. People with endytophilia, known as endytophiles, may prefer to have sex with clothed or partially-clothed... Read more 


Eproctolagniac is a term for a person who becomes sexually aroused by flatulence. An eproctolagniac may be aroused by their own flatulence, or the flatulence of... Read more 
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