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Albert Ellis

Albert Ellis is an American psychologist best known for developing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy in 1955. He is considered the founder of cognitive-behavioral... Read more 

Cum In Mouth

Cum in mouth is a service offered by sex workers who allow their clients to ejaculate into their mouth. The term is usually shortened to CIM on sex worker's menus... Read more 

Penile Fracture

Penile fracture refers to an injury of the penis where there is a rupture in one of the fibrous openings of the corposa cavenosa, the cavernous muscle of the penis.... Read more 


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Ball Hood

A ball hood is an inflatable hood that is worn over a person's head through a zipped or buckled opening around the neck. It is a bondage and sensory deprivation... Read more 
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