I've been married for 10 years. I'm into the idea of BDSM. What should I talk about first with my wife?

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Q:

I've been married to my wife for 10 years. She's really sexually conservative. I'm into the idea of BDSM. What are some things that we should talk about first? What type of beginner toys should we use?

A:

There are some definite things that you need to talk about: how you’ll communicate with each other and the limits of things you both will or won’t do are very important. It’s one thing to be tied up with silk scarves and quite another to get tied up with hard, metal handcuffs. Communication is absolutely key to a good experience.

As far as beginner’s toys, you could start with blindfolds. You could use something to tickle her. You should start out by going for the more titillating sensation. You can use a rubber paddle…and you don’t have to hit her hard. You should look online for things that are made from softer materials and things that might appeal to her more. Those are the things that you will want to start with.

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