20 Sex-Positive Gifts That Aren't Sex Toys

Got a sex positive friend or family member you'd like to honor but don't want to buy them a sex toy? Just want a little sex-positive present for yourself? We've got you covered.

From kinky calendars and vulva tea candle sets to Pride flags and erotic art prints, here's our list of everything we want this holiday season.

We checked it twice.

We don't care if you were naughty or nice.

Behold, the 20 best sex-positive gifts to shop right now:

Lustery

$8.33/month for 12 monthsImage: LusterySay goodbye to staged scenes and hello to real, relatable couples sharing their unfiltered love stories with Lustery. Crafted by pornographer, author and sex performer Paulita Pappel, Lustery helps couples eager to reignite desire or spark candid conversations about intimacy. Consider it a journey into the genuine, the personal and the deeply human side of intimacy. As far as adult content goes, it's also ethical and affordable.

Queer Kink Wall Calendar

$19.30

Image: Etsy Embrace the vibrant diversity of queerness with the Queer Kink Wall Calendar. Featuring 12 empowering illustrations, this A4-sized calendar celebrates various body shapes, identities and disabilities. Each month unfolds a unique theme, accompanied by a minimalist calendar for personal events. Get creative – color the pages as you wish! Hang it securely with a small picture hook or convenient command hook. Celebrate queerness all year round with this inclusive and customizable calendar.

"The Big Reveal: An Illustrated Manifesto of Drag"

$45.00
Sasha Velour's "The Big Reveal" is more than a book - it's a living portrait that seamlessly weaves together memoir, history and theory to illuminate the art of drag. Velour explores drag's unique expression, rich history and revolutionary essence with captivating illustrations, photos and original artwork. Each chapter peels back the layers of both her personal journey and the global queer history that made it all possible. From the empresses of the past to the cultural phenomenon of "RuPaul's Drag Race," Velour's book offers a thought-provoking manifesto that deepens our understanding of queerness, beauty and liberation.

Vulva Tea Candle Set

$22.00
Source: Puss N Toots Indulge your senses with this set of five citrus-scented vulva tea candles. Treat yourself to the refreshing aroma of real lemon and orange peels steeped in candle wax. Watch as the wax, when melted, elegantly shimmers. Each candle boasts a two-hour burn time, providing a sensual, fragrant experience.

Sugar Wood Pink Party Box

$89.00

Source: Sugar WoodStraight from the heart of Prince Street in New York City, Sugar Wood offers an inclusive, sex-positive dessert experience perfect for any celebration. The Pink Party Box features six waffles shaped like a "woody" or a "kitty" (you can mix and match to your heart's content), plus two signature sauces for drizzling. Waffles are a universally adored treat, and these delicious sweets-on-a-stick are custom-made for a whopping 10 days of peak deliciousness after receipt.

"The Big Book of Queer Stickers"

$27.07Spread LGBTQIA+ pride joyfully with "The Big Book of Queer Stickers" by Ashley Molessa and Chess Needham. This deluxe hardcover book offers more than 500 stickers, including two bonus sheets of holographic designs. Created by Ash + Chess, a queer and trans stationery brand, this collection is a colorful celebration of queer pride. Plus, you'll find blank pages at the back for journaling, doodling, or crafting personalized sticker designs.

Support Sex Workers Beanie

$27.65Source: EtsyStand up for sex workers' rights with this Support Sex Workers beanie. Sex workers deserve equal legal protections, access to healthcare, and freedom from violence and discrimination. Decriminalization can help bring them out of the shadows, offering protection rather than targeting. This unisex, snug-fitting beanie is a simple, yet powerful, accessory to show your support.

LEAK NYC

$34.00 and up
Image: LEAK Discover LEAK, a brand reshaping gender-neutral corsetry, harnesses and bodysuits. Founded by Louis Dorantes and led by creative director Sebastian Hernandez, this Brooklyn-based lingerie workshop fuses premium materials, exquisite craftsmanship and sex positivity. LEAK offers custom pieces and small-batch productions for all sizes and gender identities. Inspired by dance floor aesthetics, they redefine lingerie as clubwear, with their signature bodysuits leading the way.

Boundaries Conversation Deck: What Would You Do?

$14.95
Elevate your boundary-setting skills with the Boundaries Conversation Deck, a 52-card deck, created by Faith G. Harper, a sexologist and professional counselor. Crafted as a companion to the book "Unfuck Your Boundaries," these cards spark thought-provoking conversations about your needs, consent, boundaries and relationships. Whether used for personal growth or in a therapeutic context, these cards provide an engaging tool for exploring boundaries beyond the usual.

Sophia Wallace Unconquerable Necklace

$1,320.00Image: CliteracyIntroducing the latest Unconquerable necklace collection from Sophia Wallace, artist and creator of the Cliteracy project, now meticulously crafted in solid 14k gold. These stunning heirloom pieces are offered in rose, yellow and white gold variations, with the option to enhance the pendant with a deep aqua sapphire. This necklace isn't just beautiful, it's a statement about pleasure - and its power.

Googly Eye Pasties

$5.00