One of my favorite stories from high school is comparing notes about “health class” with friends who went to another school. At my school, we learned sometimes some people masturbate. At their school they were taught EVERYONE masturbates. [Yes, 20 years later, we still refer to that school as “Masturbation High.”]
Tips to Level Up Your Masturbation Game
While making such sweeping “everyone” generalizations doesn’t sit well with me, it is fair to say that the vast majority of people touch themselves for pleasure. In the 2021 Kinkly Self-Pleasure Survey, respondents reported masturbating anywhere from less than once a month to over 200 times in a month! Additionally, our readers responded that they mostly had begun masturbating when they were teenagers.
For lots of us, that means we’ve had the time and inclination to get good and comfortable with the way we pleasure ourselves. And while I’m fond of saying “it’s a groove, not a rut!” sometimes, it is a bit of a rut.
Even if you are mostly happy with your masturbation habits, there can be room to try something else. And if you aren’t happy in the solo sex arena, something definitely needs to change! Here are some of our top tips to level up your masturbation game!
There are a lot of sex positions out there. Hundreds. Possibly thousands. I’m not sure, I haven’t tried them all yet. But I do know that even a slight adjustment to how you hold your body can mean hitting an unknown pleasure spot or discovering a new angle that sends you straight to planet orgasm. Same thing with sex for one. If you usually starfish across your bed, try flipping over onto your stomach. Kneeling over a sex toy or grinding into a pillow might just rub you the right way. Standing (you could try resting one foot on your bed for a better angle) could lead to a great standing O!
I have a pretty decent collection of sex toys in my tickle trunk. It’s nice to have variety, but there are a couple that I keep handy because I go back to them again and again. Maybe you are the same. The good news is that even old reliable can be spiced up - even if the old reliable is your hand. Invest in some attachments for next level masturbation. The Lovehoney Head Master Trio comes with three sleeves that fit over your shaft to lend a little extra sexy sensation. The brand new Voy from Arcwave allows you to adjust the tightness of the stroker in ways your hand just can't match. And if you are used to a room temperature stroker for your penis, why not upgrade to the Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Rechargeable Vibrating Masturbator? Some extra bells and whistles might make you sing!
Season one of Bridgerton? That sexy someone on OnlyFans? The dog-earred romance novel you’ve been going back to since high school? You likely have a fantasy that never fails to rev your motor. I’m not knocking it! But getting more material for the spank bank is a worthwhile pastime. On top of that, you may see or read something that you would like to try yourself. Give yourself the room to explore what gets your blood flowing downstairs. Great places to search for your masturbation inspiration include ethical porn sites that value their performers, explore some of the audio porn platforms for sexy “bedtime” stories, or take a look through our selection of steamy erotica.
Try a New Sensation
A selection of air suction vibrators available from Lovehoney
Rather than an upgrade for the sex toy you already know and love, why not go all out and try something altogether different? You may have tried a buzzy little bullet vibe against your clit and decided it wasn’t delightful. Maybe you’ll find your jam with a different sensation, say one that mimics lips and a mouth? An air suction vibrator like the Lovehoney Rose Toy Clitoral Suction Stimulator works by surrounding your clit and gently sucking it. The same technology is available with an internal arm to give your g-spot a little love too, as the Lovehoney Indulge G-Spot and Clitoral Suction Stimulator.
Strokers can offer different sensations for penises too. The Blowmotion Stroking Beaded Masturbator emulates the feeling of some oral loving, with two soft lips to slide into and a massage function that glides the internal beads along and around your shaft. You might be flexible, but we bet you’re not give-yourself-a-blowjob flexible!
Lube for Masturbation
Lovehoney Enjoy water-based lube
Lastly, our number one tip to up your masturbation game is lube. If you are a person with a circumsized penis, it’s pretty much a must, but it’s also great for every one else! If you are using a silicone sex toy, make sure the lube you choose is water-based, as silicone lube or any kind of oil will degrade the material of the toy. As far as sex accoutrements go, lube is the cheapest, so don’t be afraid to try a few to see what works for you. Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lube is sex toy friendly and cleans up easily. Even if your solo sex doesn’t include butt play (and especially if it does) you might love the long lasting slickness of a Lovehoney Discover Water-Based Anal Lubricant for a marathon session. It has a gel consistency that some people like better than other, more watery lubes. For a special treat, put the bottle into a cup of hot water to warm the lube, or stick it in the fridge for a while before you use it. Hot summer nights can call for some cool ingenuity!
The Bottom Line
Even those of us who didn’t graduate from Masturbation High know the joy of a good solo sesh. By changing things up, upgrading the things that are already highly pleasurable or finding new inspiration, you are putting yourself on the [treasure] trail to pleasure!
Aurora loves good sex and writing about what it takes to do it. She writes travel and lifestyle for a variety of publications under a different name, with a decidedly more PG bent.