The pleasure of prostate play has been compared to the enjoyable sensations of G-spot play. Are you ready to experience that for yourself? If you have a penis, you have a prostate. While it can be hard for some people to reach that deep area without help, manufacturers have created sex toys especially designed for stimulation of this erogenous zone.
Prostate massagers aren't usually designed to be used like standard dildos. You're free to use them in whatever way feels pleasurable to you. Most prostate massagers are specifically designed with a curved shape so that they toy hits the prostate juuuuust right.
While you can find many guides about how to enjoy prostate stimulation, getting the hang of it takes some time and practice for most people. But that's half the fun! Just be sure to lube up, relax and take the time to get comfortable with your toy and sensations it provides.
Speaking of prostate toys, finding the right one for you can be a bit of a daunting task for the first time. While you'll need to find the perfect toy that works for your own needs, the following eight tips will help you pick out the best prostate toy from the large selection available out there.
Consider the Size
The first thing most beginners are going to want to think about when it comes to a prostate toy is size. While prostate massagers are usually designed for their shape and not their size, there are still variations in sizes. Beginners will want to stick to something slimmer; probably around 1 inch in diameter or less in size. If you think you'd prefer a larger toy, consider one with a broader diameter. If you're unsure of what you'd like, stick to the thinner side of things until you work it out. It's much better to have a toy that's slightly underwhelming than one that's too uncomfortable for you to use at all.
Think About Hands-Free
Many prostate toys were designed to provide hands-free orgasms - the Holy Grail of sexual stimulation - to people with penises. Using a rocking motion, the inserted toy can do the massaging without assistance. Be aware that it make take a bit of patience and practice to reach the stage where you can orgasm without your hands. If you get impatient, you can always get a toy with a remote control and some vibration to finish the job.
Judge the Handle
While most prostate toys tend to have a similar curve to them (that's designed to hit the prostate in the first place), these toys will vary widely in what handle they happen to have attached to them. Some toys will have a circular handle while others may have a flat base. How you prefer to hold your prostate toy will make a difference in which handle works best for you. Consider your body and physical limitations and considering what will work for you.
Muse about Public Use
Butt plugs are often the anal toy of choice for use in public situations, but it can be fun to take a prostate toy out and about too. With a prostate toy's design and some people's ability to orgasm hands-free, this allows users to play on a whole new level while in public. If this is something you want to do (and as always, please respect those around you), make sure that you choose a sex toy that doesn't have a noticeable or painful base to sit on. Toys with a flat base will do best for users who want to take their fun out into the world. LELO's HUGO is great for public play. You can even hand your partner the remote! If remote control isn't for you, you can also check out the less expensive LELO BRUNO.
Think of Vibrations
Not all people find vibrations on the prostate to be pleasurable, and not all toys are equipped to provide vibrations. If vibrations are something you think you'd enjoy, consider finding a prostate massager that vibrates. Most vibrating prostate massagers just include a small hole that can fit a removable vibrating bullet to add vibrations to the toy itself. If you're unsure if vibrations will be a good addition to your P-spot play, consider a toy with a removable bullet. However, if you think vibrations will be amazing, purchase a prostate toy with vibrations built-in because the vibrations will be much more powerful and orgasmic.
Contemplate Perineal Stimulation
Stimulation of the perineal area (known as the "taint" by some) tends to go hand-in-hand with P-spot orgasm. For that reason, a lot of prostate toys have a small tab built into the base of the toy to stimulate this area. However, some users find that sensation uncomfortable. Try pressing on that area during your next sexual exploration. If you find that you enjoy the sensation, look for prostate toys that will bring that stroking into action.
Reflect About Dildos
While not usually considered a standard type of prostate toy, a correctly-curved G-spot or P-spot dildo can make a wonderful addition to your prostate stimulation collection. Not only can they be easier for a partner to handle (because of the wider base), but they can also usually be strapped into a strap-on harness for enjoyable couple's fun. Not only that, but if the budget is tight, a non-porous dildo can be boiled or bleached for sterilization to allow a single toy to work for multiple purposes in the bedroom.
Read the Reviews
Before making your purchase, your final step should be to read reviews about prostate massagers. While you might have to do a bit of internet searching in order to find good, unbiased, and detailed reviews, having a good idea of how a particular prostate stimulator worked for other people can give you a sense you how it will work for you. If reviews from people who claim to be new to prostate stimulation say that they couldn't make that toy work for them, you might be better off finding a toy that's better-suited for beginners to this type of stimulation. Once you get used to the sensation and how it all feels, then you can explore advanced types of enjoyment with your toys
Now that you know what to look for in your prostate toy, it's time that you make your purchase. Remember to take your time and enjoy the pleasurable journey as you explore this new, erotic area of your body. Relax, enjoy yourself, and give it a few different tries before you attempt a new prostate toy. Our bodies don't always respond to the same sensations the same way every day. Enjoy your new sexual exploration!
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