By using the simple power of this slender wedge, you change the entire feel of a partner-on-top sex position. Since the Liberator Wedge elevates the penetrating partner's thighs, it changes the sitting angle for the receiving partner - which can slide the body into an oh-so-delicious spot for internal pleasure.
How to Do It: Place a Liberator Wedge in the middle of the bed. The penetrating partner lays down flat with the underside of their knees resting on the tallest spot on the Liberator Wedge. The Wedge's declining angle should point towards the penetrating partner's butt. Now that the penetrating partner is flat, the receiving partner climbs on top. With the created angles, you're going to find g-spot and p-spot stimulation better if both partners can make eye contact, but if the receiving partner faces the feet, that's a-okay too!
Partners Well With: Clitoral vibrators and penis vibrators (like the Satisfyer Men Wand) to pleasure the receiver. Since the penetrating partner has both hands free (and is at the perfect angle to make the magic happen!), adding in some additional pleasure for the receiver with body-safe sex toys can be a great fit here. Penis strokers, like the Tenga Spinner can be brought in to add some variety to straight penetration.
Modifications: Depending on the receiver's knees, you may choose to kneel (as shown) or squat up on the balls of the feet. Most people find kneeling to be more comfortable, but it's really what works best for your body!
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A bit of a non-standard sex position for sure, but I think Mesmerthighs can be a great fit for quite a few couples - especially those who may have accessibility issues or just want to try something new! Remember those days of hot make-out sessions and lots of grinding? Think of this just like that - only with additional pleasure!
By moving the pleasure to a thigh harness and dildo, you open up quite a few options:
- The receiver can choose their perfect dildo design. This means you can get some really great sensations that may not be otherwise possible. (Like a dildo that swirls!)
- If the penetrating partner has a penis that needs to fill with blood in order to penetrate, this can take all of the "performance" pressure off of the penetrating partner. It's pleasure that's always on demand!
- Intercourse can go on as long as you both want it to; there's no time limit based upon ejaculation.
- Moving penetration off of the hips means more space between the two of you! If you both were having issues finding the perfect angle with genitals conjoined, this can make a better fit.
- Since there's a bit more space between the two of you, it's much easier for the penetrating partner to watch (and enjoy!) the receiving partner's expressions. You won't go cross-eyed trying to see your lover.
- It's much less tiring to move a thigh instead of the entire hip area. A lot of people are also able to get more power behind thigh thrusting compared to hip thrusting. Depending on your body's needs and limitations, this may also work better for your body.
- If the penetrating partner's hips are particularly wide, the receiving partner may not be able to straddle them. Moving the pleasure to the thigh offers a much smaller width to straddle.
- If the two partners have a large weight differential, this can also be great. Since there's more room around a thigh, less weight will likely get rested directly on top of the penetrating partner because the receiver can put more of their body on the bed. This can make things more comfortable if the penetrating partner is much smaller than the receiving partner.
- For those into strap-on sex, especially if a hip harness doesn't fit well, a thigh harness can be a pleasurable alternative!
As you can see, the benefits for a thigh harness and dildo are pretty much endless. Considering thigh harnesses are so affordable nowadays, it can be totally worth picking one up as an additional way to explore pleasure together. Think of it like mutual masturbation - only it's really, really interactive!
How to Do It: Discuss which dildo would be best for using with a thigh harness. After you find your fave, slide it into the thigh harness. Slide the thigh harness up the thigh and get it snugly into position. The harness wearer should then lay down flat on the bed. The receiving partner climbs on top to straddle the thigh with the harness, and slides onto the dildo. The penetrating partner should experiment with leg positions (including bending the knee to put the foot flat on the bed), and the receiving partner should experiment with leaning forwards and backwards to find the best angle. Since both partner's hands are free, this can also be a great time to touch one another.
Partners Well With: Sportsheets Thigh Strap-On Harness and your favorite dildo! Since the position also leaves the hands open for experimentation, this also can be a stellar sex position for using sex toys on one another. You're close enough - but not too close - that you can easily reach one another to pleasure each other. Or maybe you prefer a hot make-out session. Either way, it's doable!
Modifications: I highly recommend wearing the thigh harness as far up your thigh as possible. At the very least, keep it away from the knee. Knees tend to be one of the weaker areas of the body, and it's likely that bodyweight bouncing on top of the knee won't feel great.
As another fun note, your thigh harness can likely wrap around some of your favorite pillows too. You can instantly turn a fluffy pillow into a rideable dildo - like the Liberator Humphrey. Whether using it for solo fun or for a new way to share pleasure with a partner, that can be a huge win!
Read: A Beginner's Guide to Strap-On Sex
Stand and Deliver
Designed for sex anywhere and anytime, the Stand and Deliver position challenges the two of you to look around your home and consider any surface possible for a romp. The surface needs to be long enough to allow the receiver's entire upper body to relax - but also sturdy enough that it can support a lot of bodyweight and movement. Plus, it needs to be about hip height for the penetrating partner!
If you're like me and can't think of any large, wide surfaces in your home that support enough weight to do this position, the easy workaround is the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo. Stacked together, this combo provides an easy "shelf" that can be stacked on top of your body to make this position possible. The shapes' non-slip grip against one another keeps everything in place to ensure you both can relax into the position. I call that a win-win!
How to Do It: The receiving partner should lay down on the surface then pull their legs into the air. The penetrating partner then steps up to the receiving partner, placing their hips against their partner's, for intercourse. The receiving partner can rest their legs on the penetrating partner's shoulders. While this can be done with furniture around your home, the position is shown with the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo (which is available in Plus size Sex Furniture too!)
Pairs Well With: Black Label Shapes. If you're into a bit of bondage with your sex, the Black Label version of the Wedge adds bondage points to include some kinky restraints and impact play fun. Since this position leaves all of your hands open for additional pleasure, this can also be a great position for a penis pleasurer or a powerful vibrator for the receiving partner. Why not add some extra sensations?
Modifications: Depending on the length of the penetrating partner's upper thighs and their ability to put all of their weight on their knees, you may need to move the Stand and Deliver position to the edge of the bed. Just take your whole set up to the edge of the bed - and the penetrating partner can now stand to get a different height to match up with what's needed.
Do I Need the Plus Size Liberator Shapes?
If some of those positions have really sparked your interest, you're probably pretty excited to look into a Liberator sex shape of your own. (Honestly, I highly recommend them, and my Wedge is one of my absolute favorite ways to make intercourse more pleasurable for me!)
However, you might be confused as to whether your body requires the Plus shapes or not. The Plus Liberator versions offer 6 more inches of width on the shape. Otherwise, the shape is exactly the same with the same angle, the same high-density foam, and the same fabrics.
The non-Plus Wedge and Ramp shapes are 24" in width. The Plus versions are 30" in width.
You may also choose to use weight as a deciding factor for whether Plus versions are necessary for you. While Liberator sex shapes have no weight limit, and it's impossible to break them or hurt them by overloading them with weight, higher weights compress the high-density foam a bit more. More foam, however, gives you a little bit extra support to reduce the compression a slight bit.
So, the two big things to consider:
What is the body width of the person who will primarily be laying down on the sex shape? This one requires a bit of measurement. Even if you have an 80" hip, your weight probably doesn't perfectly fall to the sides when you lay down - so that may only translate to a 31" width while laying down. So, lay down, measure out how wide your body is, and use that measurement to decide whether you want the Plus or non-Plus.
You may also want to consider weight. My standard Liberator Wedge has held up 450 pounds with minimal compression (honestly, I think it's magic of some sort). But if you're hoping to put both of your body weights onto a shape or think you may want to put more than 600 pounds onto your shapes at once, consider the Plus versions for added space and extra high-density foam to fall in love with.
Think Plus shapes are for you? Check out your options:
Have a Great Time!
Above all, have a great time. If positions don't work for you and your body, modify them! If those modified versions still aren't great, toss them in the trash and do something else!
Sex is all about having a great time, feeling the pleasure throughout your body, and connecting with yourself and someone you may possibly care about. Even if that love is self-lovin', it's still all about connecting with someone you care about. ;) Have a great time on your sex position journey.