If you want to add chastity to your orgasm control, there are a variety of options for that as well. Personally, I tend to keep things simple. I like having most of this play be mental, and knowing that someone is choosing to do what I say, rather than being “forced” by a toy or device. That kind of control is part of the turn-on for me.
Watch It In Real Time
When the long-distance tease and foreplay has us both eager for something more, I like to video chat with my partner. You can set up a Skype date, but you can also chat within some of the sex toy brand apps. As much as I love playing by text and playing with language, I really love getting to see and hear my play partner during the grand finale. S. shared his side of that as well,
“After a few days, we set a time to video chat. The conversation starts slow, with her asking me to describe with increasing specificity the qualities of my frustration and desire for release. She teases me with a peek down her blouse and asks to see evidence of my arousal. Once I begin masturbating for her, she controls the pace absolutely. She tells me when to speed up, slow down, or stop completely. She will work me closer and closer to orgasm, until we find that paper-thin edge, right there on the brink. She delights in telling me to stop cold just before release. We repeat this pattern numerous times. Each time it gets harder and harder to resist, but I do, until after some begging she gives me permission to come. Having danced at the edge for so long it's unlike any other orgasm I've had.”
She tells me when to speed up, slow down, or stop completely. She will work me closer and closer to orgasm, until we find that paper-thin edge, right there on the brink.
It’s hard to argue with those results!
Edging and orgasm control are great fun to play with in person, too, but the extra intensity they offer makes them ideal for long distance play when the intimacy of being in person is lacking. All you need is a little creativity to get started. App controlled sex toys can help take that play to the next level.