What is the best type of bondage to try if you’re a beginner?

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What is the best type of bondage to try if you’re a beginner?

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Rather than thinking what is the best type of bondage for a beginner, I would ask what is the best type of bondage for me. I’ve tried to break down bondage into three different categories: restraint, adornment and stimulation.

If you're a beginner who's interested in restraint, I would recommend device bondage, which is bondage using handcuffs or other premade bondage devices that are easy to use, but you'll be able to start playing around with positions and different predicaments that you like to put your partner in, without having to also know how to restrain them in a more advanced manner.

If you're interested in adornment, then head to a lingerie shop or a sex toy shop and ask if they have any corsets, or bondage boots, or harnesses. All of those things do have elements of bondage-like restriction, constriction, even shape shifting of the body. And so, if you're into fashion, that might be a good entry point for you.

The last one, stimulation, my favorite, is sensation bondage, which is using materials, all sorts of different materials, to make your bottom or yourself aware of their skin and the sensory experiences that they're feeling. I think that is a wonderful type of foreplay.

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Mistress Couple is the Head Mistress of La Domaine Esemar, the world’s oldest BDSM training chateau, where she hosts and educates bondage practitioners from all over the globe. Best known for her psychological approach to BDSM, Mistress Couple has been interviewed as an authority in the field by media outlets including Cosmopolitan, VICE, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, Racked, and more.

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