Did you know that Kinkly has an entire sex position database? (One of the best on the internet, honestly!)
While that database can be sorted by "oral sex" positions, you'll quickly find that not all oral sex positions translate themselves to rimming. The butt is in a different spot, angle-wise, and most people find that they might need their hands to help spread the cheeks on bodacious individuals. (Though something like the Exposed Booty Tape can help there!)
So if you're ready to give rimming a try, these beginner-friendly positions can help make your trip into rimjobs a bit more approachable. Don't worry about trying to make any random oral sex position into a rimjob one - just choose one from this list for an easier time.
Plus, it makes it much easier to focus on the "job" at hand!
Before you hop straight into the top rimjob positions for rimming beginners, I want to make sure you're fully prepared with all the information you need to make it safe and fun.
Because you're licking an area that may include fecal matter and bacteria, there are some risks to rimming - though you can reduce those risks via safer sex practices!
Learn a bit more about rimming, how to do it safely, and how to make it fun here:
Now you're golden. Let's get to it:
Let's start it off easy with the quintessential rimjob position you've probably seen hundreds of times before: Doggy Oral sex position.
This position looks just like doggy style, only the back partner is giving analingus instead of intercourse.
Good to Know: The giving partner may find it difficult to hold their body weight by gripping the receiver's thighs. If that's the case, feel free to put your hands on the ground, coming into the Up the Middle position, instead.
Try It With: Body tape, like the Exposed Booty Tape (seriously, this stuff is amazing!), can lend a helping hand because the giver's hands will likely be busy trying to support themselves instead of spreading the cheeks.
Using a wall makes the Back Tackle position more beginner-friendly for everyone involved. The receiving partner simply stands facing a wall to use the wall for support while the giving partner goes to town.
Make sure to communicate if the two of you are new to standing sex positions. Most people are surprised by how weak they feel when standing as they start to approach orgasm. The last thing you need is for the receiving partner to collapse, so make sure to take this position to the floor if things are feeling a bit shaky.
Good to Know: Most people will find that their butt cheeks tend to touch while standing up straight like this. To help, the receiving partner can lean forward and place their chest on the wall for support, then reach behind themselves to spread the cheeks. Otherwise, you may try doing this position facing a countertop or bed where the receiving partner can bend over while feeling supported. That can naturally spread the cheeks and put things on display.
Try It With: Hands-free sex toys. This position can keep everyone's hands in high demand. Add additional stimulation via toys that don't require babysitting like the Lovense Lush 3, Hot Octopuss Jett, Lovense Gush, Gender X Rocketeer, or Satisfyer Top Secret+.
A queening chair, as pictured, can be used to easily enjoy all types of oral sex by anyone of any gender - including rimming! The receiving partner simply needs to sit down at a different angle to "present" whatever area you'd both like to pleasure that day.
The queening chair makes rimming easier. The seated receiver is as comfortable as they would be sitting on a chair; no awkward positioning required. With a hammock for the neck inside the chair, the giving partner can customize their exact height to make for strain-free giving and the ability to easily pull away for easy breathing.
I bet you've never thought a box could be so helpful!
Good to Know: While the XR Brands Queening Chair is shown in the image aboe, the Seated Royalty position can be done on any low "chair" that has a hole through the middle like a rimming chair, the XR Bangin' Bench, and more.
Try It With: Bondage! The Queening Chair shown offers built-in bondage points, but if your choice doesn't have built-in bondage, that's OK too! You can use wrist cuffs to restrain the giver's wrists over their stomach, or you can use cuffs with tethers to restrain their wrists to an external point.
The Reverse Oral Sex position takes the Doggy Oral position shown above and simply lowers it down to the ground. Doing this removes both partners' needs to support their upper bodies, but it also places more of a strain on both partner's backs to make the angles happen.
The receiver's elevated hips and spread legs naturally spread the cheeks apart to help give the giver space to do their thing. At the same time, this position leaves the giver's head free to move, so they can breathe whenever they need to, making rimming more approachable to someone who hasn't done it before.
Good to Know: This position places the giver's butt at an upward angle, so if you're using a dental dam for safer sex purposes, gravity can help to keep it in place.
Try It With: Sex furniture! Both partners can really benefit from adding wedge-shaped sex furniture to this position. It can help prop up the receiver's chest and prop up the giver's hips. If you're into a bit of bondage, the Liberator Black Label Wedge even includes two bondage points to bind either partner's limbs to the shape.
Lying flat on a bed can be difficult for rimming because the butt is placed pretty firmly against the surface of the bed. How are you supposed to get a head down there?! But also, lying down is one of the most comfortable positions for most, and it's probably the thing you do most in your bed.
The Red Carpet Rimming position solves that by simply elevating the hips away from the surface of the bed with a Liberator Jaz. You can try to stack pillows to get a similar effect, but we recommend sex furniture for this one; pillows tend to compress under a lot of weight. Instead, sex furniture can lift the hips high and keep them there, allowing the giver full access to make that magical rimjob happen.
As an added bonus, spreading the knees apart, as shown above, will naturally pull the cheeks apart for full access to all of the sensitive areas around your anal entrance.
Good to Know: The Liberator Jaz cushion is shown underneath the hips in the image above, but you may want to experiment with different sex furniture shapes depending on how heavy the receiver is and what neck angle feels relaxing for the giver. The Dame Pillo, Liberator Wedge (regular or plus!), or Liberator Hipster could all work here.
Try It With: A grindable vibrator for the giving partner. This position places the giving partner flat on a surface and in the perfect position to grind against something stimulating. A hands-free, grindable vibrator like the Wild Flower Enby 2, Rocks-Off Ruby Glow, or Orion VibePad 2 can provide great stimulation without requiring anyone's hands.
With a few changes in angles, the Ear Muff Position can be a great sex position for rimming too. The giving partner simply needs to change their body positioning, placing their feet closer to the receiver's head, to get the head where it needs to be to lick the anal entrance instead.
Just make sure to keep communication lines open! Especially if the receiving partner lowers their upper leg, it may be hard for the giving partner to back away to take breaths as needed. A traditional "double tap" on the receiver's thigh can help communicate when the giver needs extra space to easily breathe.
Good to Know: Depending on the receiver's angle, you might want to place a pillow up against the back of the receiver's leg to support any excess head weight that may not be supported by the receiver's thigh. This can help keep the giver's neck neutral and unstrained.
Try It With: Any toy the receiver wants to play with. This, more than many other rimming positions, leaves the receiving partner's hands entirely empty. They can easily use their favorite sex toys on themselves. With all of the space available, you can easily get into some of the larger options like wand massagers or large, automated penis strokers. Just make sure to keep the giver's head in mind; you don't want to accidentally miss the mark and end up vibrating the giver's head!
Put that ottoman or bed to good use with the Aerial Analingus position. This position sees the receiving partner kneeling on top of the elevated surface, presenting their bum. This places their butt at the right height for the giver to simply kneel and give a rimjob.
Good to Know: Is the giving partner still feeling some neck or back strain? Try a different surface. You can easily experiment with different surface heights to change up how it feels for the giving partner.
Try It With: A pillow! Depending on wherever you've chosen to play, you might want to add a pillow underneath the giver's knees. This position can put a lot of weight on the giver's knees.
With a few modifications, this complicated-looking sex position can be a great fit for comfortable rimming.
Instead of being seated, the giver will want to be laying down with their head elevated. From there, the sex swing can be lowered until the receiving partner is hovering over the giver's head. At this point, the receiver will likely need to extend their legs and rest them on the floor; your sex swing will probably resemble a very low seat at this point.
All of this comes together for a height that's perfect for rimming with minimal strain. The giving partner can easily lay back and use their mouth to pleasure the receiver without neck strain. As this position leaves the giver's hands free, they have the ability to spread their partner's cheeks, too, if that will help.
Good to Know: Depending on the sex swing you own, the sex swing may be able to spread the cheeks "for" you. When the receiver is sitting on the swing, intentionally spread the booty meat apart before sitting down. Your sex swing may hold that spread position in place now that your entire bodyweight is resting on top of the seat!
Try It With: An anal toy for the giving partner. With the giver preoccupied with giving, why not use a hands-free anal toy to help pleasure them? Since the giver is lying down, it can be easy to add in a butt plug, prostate massager, or anal beads to add more pleasure without adding more effort. To add in even more fun, depending on your swing, the receiving partner may be able to control the toy if you have a remote-controlled option like the Thump-It, Cocktail, Vector+, or the Vibrating Jewel.
Mistress Kay has a fondness for all things sexual. With a house that's quickly running out of room for all of her reading and vibrating pleasures, she spends her free time reading, writing, and learning about the sexual universe with her partners. She can be reached at Kinky World.
