Thank you for asking this question. Lube isn’t just for partnered sex; it can also be a way to prevent chafing and discomfort during masturbation. And contrary to all the jokes about lotion on bedside tables, body lotion doesn’t usually work very well as lube because it wears off quickly.
If you’re self-conscious about having something explicitly marketed as sex lube in your bathroom or bedroom, Albolene, which is marketed as a facial cleanser, can actually be used as lube (and has been by many people for many decades). Coconut oil is another household item that works as lube. Unlike other oils like olive oil, which can actually cause damage to the skin barrier, coconut oil has antibacterial, anti-fungal, and anti-inflammatory properties. Virgin coconut oil is best.
Just note that that oil breaks down latex barriers (like condoms or dental dams) so if you are moving to partnered sex, wash really well and use a different lube with your latex.
What about lubes created specifically for sexual purposes? It depends what your priorities are. If you want something long-lasting that won’t wear off, silicone lubes like Shine Silicone Lube or Überlube are your best bet. You just may need to wash it off afterward, and make sure not to get it on your sheets (it stains) or your floor (it’s slippery!) Also, avoid this kind of lube if you are using any silicone toys; it can break down the material.
If your lube’s longevity is not a huge priority for you (and it doesn’t have to be because you can just add more), water-based lubes like Sassy Sliquid or Dame Alu are easier to clean up and compatible with all kinds of toys. If you start to feel dry again after applying it, you can add water, saliva, or more lube.
Most lubes you can find at your local drugstore are water-based or silicone-based and will work fine. Just avoid using shower products like soap and shampoo; some of these can irritate your genitals.
In fact, it’s best not to masturbate in the shower with lube at all; water will wash it off anyway, though silicone lube has a higher chance of withstanding the water.
Have fun!
