Along with pleasurable sensations for everyone involved, the Spit Roast position provides some fantastic visuals. Not only do both people at the ends get to enjoy themselves, but the partner in the middle gets double the sensation - and the outer people's free hands can add even more sensation to that middle partner within seconds.
To get into the Spit Roast sex position, we recommend starting with one partner and building upon that. The first person will vary based on your dynamic, heights, and body types. For most people, starting with one of the people on the ends of the Spit Roast makes it easier to achieve all of the necessary angles in the end.
For example:
The oral sex receiver kneels on the bed. The middle person gets on their hands and knees in front of the oral sex receiver. The oral sex receiver then adjusts their kneeling height to be a comfortable oral sex height for the oral sex giver.
After the oral sex giver and receiver are in place, the penetrating person can kneel behind the oral sex giver. The giver may need to widen (or close) the gap between their thighs to adjust the height of their hips. The penetrating person can then slide into the oral sex receiver.
This will now complete the Spit Roast position.
Expect to need to make adjustments to the angles after everyone is in position. A body height that's great for oral sex on one side may not be fantastic for penetrating on the opposite side. You'll all want to work together and openly communicate to find the best angles for everyone - while still making the middle partner feels as comfortable as possible.
We completely understand if this position is inaccessible to you due to disability, chronic pain, etc., and we recommend having conversations about disability and access needs prior to attempting this.
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The penetrating person will want to provide smooth, gentle penetration - especially at first. Rough, sharp thrusts can jostle around the middle partner and can make the oral sex experience uncomfortable for everyone involved. Start gently at first and let everyone fall into a comfortable rhythm. Allowing the middle person to move themselves (instead of thrusting into them) is one of the best ways to ensure penetration doesn't get too rough for the oral pleasure on the opposing end.
The Spit Roast is also unique in that two of the partners will not need to have any physical contact with one another if they don't want to. Especially for threesome pairings where both end partners are there to pleasure the person in the middle without an attraction to one another, this can be a big benefit. For those who want to add more involvement, though, it's possible for the two end partners to reach across and touch one another - or even make out.
Due to the upright position of the two end partners in the Spit Roast position, this position works best with penises - whether built-in biological penises or the aftermarket strap-on variety. However, especially if the oral sex receiver is slim bodied, the Spit Roast can still work fantastically to provide oral to a vulva-owner.
We recommend having the oral sex receiver sit down on a comfortable surface like a dining chair, edge of the bed, or couch. The vulva-owner, who will be receiver oral sex, can now lean back and spread their legs to make it easier for the middle person to access all of the vulva for fantastic oral sex.
Alternatively, sex toys can easily provide pleasure for anyone at any point in the Spit Roast. If lining up the angles isn't working (or you want to take a break!), the oral sex giver can instead use a toy to pleasure the partner in front of their face. Instead of penetrating with a dildo strapped into a harness, the from-behind partner can hand hold the middle person's favorite dildo. At any time during the Spit Roast, either of the end partner's free hands can handhold a sex toy to pleasure the middle partner. Toys with a longer reach like a wand massager or a corded penis vibrator can be the best fit during the jostling of this position.
Be sure to keep a few pillows on hand - and be prepared to change up the sex position as need be. The Spit Roast sex position requires everyone's knees to be on the ground with each person's full body weight pressed into those knees. Slipping some pillows underneath knees can help provide some support.
If pillows alone aren't doing the trick, Liberator sex furniture can be a helpful touch too. A Liberator Wedge can be placed between the butt and ankles on the oral sex receiver to help support some of the body weight and remove strain on the thighs. The folded Liberator Flip-Ramp can be placed underneath the middle person's abdomen to help support body weight and remove some of the weight from the hands and knees.
Don't forget about rearranging angles to make things more comfortable if the Spit Roast position, as pictured, gets too strenuous. The partner receiving oral sex can sit down - or use a chair - to still receive oral sex without changing up the position too much. They could also turn-around and get on their own hands and knees - for something that looks like the Doggy Oral Sex position.
The partner providing from-behind penetration can lean against a couch or wall to help support their body - or experiment with raising one knee to place their foot flat on the floor to stretch out their legs and get blood flowing again (like in the Hinge position).
Great for power exchange scenarios, the person in the middle may feel "well used" - which can be fantasy-fulfilling for many! As always, if that's the goal, ensure open communication ahead of time to figure out what words and phrases are arousing to everyone involved to further communicate the middle person's usefulness.
