Ambiamory is a relationship orientation that sits somewhere on the middle of a relationship spectrum, between monogamy and polyamory. Just as bisexual people can enjoy being in heterosexual or homosexual relationships, Ambiamorous people can be happy in monogamous or polyamorous relationships.
The term ambiamory should not be confused with biamory, which is the ability to fall in love with and have relationships with both genders.
Ambiamorous people may find themselves in monogamous or polyamorous relationships, depending on the situation. They might fall in love with a person who is monogamous or polyamorous and decide to adhere to that person’s relationship preference.
They might also start out in one kind of relationship which changes due to circumstances, like a partner becoming jealous and wanting to close the relationship or on the flip side wanting to explore other relationships. People may also transition from polyamorous to monogamous after breakups as they give themselves time to grieve or take time to find someone new. As ambiamorous people can feel comfortable in monogamous or polyamorous relationships, they are more likely to find transitioning from one relationship style to another easier than people who feel hardwired as monogamous or polyamorous.
Ambiamorous people may also prefer having polyamorous or monogamous relationships at various points in their lives. For example, a young ambiamorous person may practice polyamory until they have children, when it feels more natural to be monogamous. He or she may resume polyamorous relationships once the children move out and there’s less need to focus on immediate family.
While little research has been done on the subject, early investigation supports the theories of ambiamorous people that there is a spectrum running from monogamy to polyamory. This research suggests that just like gender and sexuality, there is a spectrum of relationship preferences rather than a binary.
