Like every other position, getting into—and then enjoying—the Jockey will depend on you or your partner’s flexibility, body-type, disability level, comfort-level, etc.
We’ve observed it can work wonderfully well for those on the receiving end who may have back issues or physical disabilities, as it frees them from needing to get up on all fours.
Some, however, have found it challenging to maneuver themselves for satisfactory penetration. When that occurs, we suggest employing pillows under the receiver waist or hips. Practice, of course, will make things better—if not perfect.
It’s simplicity itself for everyone involved to put themselves into the Jockey, which is why it remains such a popular position. For the receiver, all they need to do is stretch out on a comfortable surface, employing or not pillows or such to get themselves where they need to be. We understand that getting in this position may require some help if you have physical disabilities. Be prepared to talk about the help you may need before attempting the position rather than in the heat of the moment.
Next, the person on top should do their moves, taking caution to not merely focus on penetration but also in a way that won’t put undue strain on their own back.
The Jockey is not just a favorite for a large number of people due to its comfort for the person on the bottom, as the angle it provides makes it just about perfect for anal intercourse, or frottage—otherwise known as clothed sex—and non-penetrative play. We also love that it’s really accessible for disabled and non-disabled partners alike.
For those out there who like to mix sensual massage with their sexual encounters, the Jockey is wonderfully ideal as the person on top can provide that from shoulders to lower back while also mixing in rubbing their genitals onto—and if you both like it, into—their partner’s posterior.