No matter which variation you choose, don't forget about the power of pillows, sex props, or sex furniture. Depending on where the Flat Doggy Style position is undertaken, the receiving partner may find various bones of their body being pretty too firmly into the floor underneath them. Pillows or folded blankets can definitely alleviate that!
If you're trying to explore the Flat Doggy Style position with the receiver's elevated hips, you might consider using a Liberator Wedge underneath the hips. This can help comfortably raise the hips and reduce strain on the receiver's lower back and legs. As the elevated-hips variation leaves the penetrating partner pushing into their partner horizontally, the additional support of a soft, padded surface ensures the receiving partner isn't stuck trying to resist the lowering of the hips by strength alone.
Don't forget to experiment with leg placement as well. The penetrating partner can kneel in-between the receiver's open knees for deeper penetration, while straddling the receiving partner's closed legs may be a good fit for those looking for shallow penetration. Either way, this position can leave the penetrating partner with a lot of control over the depth and pace. If a certain penetration depth can be painful for the receiving partner, we recommend utilizing some of these suggestions -- and the OhNut -- to ensure both partners can go into this position worry-free.
Even with these modifications, you may find that the Flat Doggy Style sex position isn't necessarily a fantastic fit for you and your partner. The position can put pressure on the receiver's knees and lower back -- and can make it harder for the receiver to breathe. For the penetrating partner, there is a lot of weight placed on the knees, and it may require a sturdy core and lots of upper-body strength. If the Flat Doggy Style position isn't comfortable for either you or your partner, don't try to "tough it out". Remember: Intercourse is all about pleasure and connection. There are thousands of other sex positions out there that will be a much better fit for your body!
Flat Doggy Style position is also one of the best sex positions out there if penetration isn't on the table. The position presses the "penetrating" partner up against the receiving partner's soft, squishy butt for delicious outercourse. Simultaneously, it leaves the "receiving" partner's hands free for self-pleasure. Alternatively, an additional sex toy can be placed underneath the receiving partner for additional pleasure. The angles of the Flat Doggy Style position lend themselves well to clothes-on sex by grinding against one another for pleasure. No penetration required here!
If you live with any kind of chronic pain or complex disabilities, such as Cerebral Palsy, we recognize that this position may be off the table and extremely difficult and/or impossible as the penetrating or receiving partner. However, if you are disabled with limited mobility, and are comfortable with the topping partner, this position may be something you want to explore. You could even take penetration off the table entirely and just focus.