Few things excite me quite like having my nipples pinched and slowly twisted. I dig a partner who will take his or her time stimulating me with various intensities of touch.
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OMG, the sight of my nipple in a partner's mouth is a total panty dropper. Nuzzle up and suckle while I tread on all sorts of strange (but super-hot) fantasyland. My nipple plus your mouth is the making for sexy time magic.
Increase the Intensity
To keep the tension and pleasure mounting, twirl your fingers around both nipples simultaneously. At this point, you will begin to notice your partner's genitals have become acutely aware of this sensation and breathing will become heavier. The more sensitive and turned on your partner becomes, increase the pressure of circling, pinching, pulling, sucking on both nipples.
I'm a big fan of biting. It's one of those tactile sensations that can start with slow pressure, then build up to whatever pain threshold is desired. I happen to like pain and pressure, so generally, the harder, the better. Take note of your partner’s cues, and make sure they have space and safe words to communicate, in case pain or pressure becomes too much.
Experiment With Nipple Clamps
As much as I like taking my nipples from "Ooh!" to "Ouch" with clamps or clothespins, these toys can be intimidating, especially if you're just starting to wade into the nipple play pool. Find a toy you like, then gradually warm up, so the recipient can ease into whatever level of intensity feels best. Likewise, for the release. Think slow and steady, rough and tumble or anywhere in between.
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Play With wax
Recently, a partner turned me onto the ways of what hot candle wax drizzled on nipples can do. Spoiler alert: It sent wave after wave of intense pleasure straight to my genitals. Who knew? Regulate the temperature of the wax by how high you hold the candle above the breasts – you don’t want to burn your partner.
Don’t Rule out a Nipplegasm
Some people are lucky enough to orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. It may take some time to ride the almighty waves of nipple pleasure; think 10-20 minutes of stimulation. Remember to be patient and enjoy the experience of intimate touch. It can take you to Big O places (above the belt) you never imagined.
The next time you hop into bed for sexy time, be sure to give your partner's nipples some extra special attention (pending they're a willing recipient). We're so hard-wired to think all our pleasure must come from penetration or clitoral stimulation, that we overlook other vital nerves. It's high time this often-overlooked source of pleasure deserves some love and attention.