If you’ve been feeling like you’re in a sex slump, not feeling super turned on, or are having trouble getting in the mood, you may want to take a look at your self-care routine. Sometimes getting turned on means getting yourself in the mood.
You may think it’s your partner’s responsibility to get your juices flowing, but that’s not right. You have a part to play in your sex life and you are equally responsible for making your sex life satisfying. Sex is a huge part of happy relationships and everyone should make it a priority.
Jumpstart your sex drive by trying some of these fantastic ways to turn yourself on.
1. Have the Most Luxurious of Luxurious Baths
A bath will make you feel sexy. Even if you think baths aren’t your thing, they can be. There’s an entire episode of Friends devoted to Monica turning Chandler into a “bath-person.” And it totally has merit. A luxurious bath can be enjoyed by anyone. Get some candles and turn on your favorite relaxing playlist. Spotify’s Fleetwood Mac radio station is a great choice.
Invest in some amazing bath products. This Rose B bath bomb from JD Co is organic and smells incredible. Throw on a face mask. This superfood mask from TribeTokes is a godsend. Let yourself soak and relax. Take deep breaths in and out. Soon, your whole body will be relaxed.
2. Stare at Yourself in the Mirror
After your bath, lather yourself with your favorite lotions. Take time to stare at your naked body in the mirror. Instead of focusing on the things you don’t like, admire the things you do like. Name five things you love about your body out loud to yourself.
If might feel a little silly at first, but it works. Getting turned on is a lot easier when you feel sexy and confident in your body.
3. Wear Lingerie Around the House
Get some lingerie that you love. Pick something that makes you feel sexy and hot. Wear it all around the house. Vacuuming, unloading the dishwasher, answering emails - it doesn’t matter. Wear the lingerie and feel the lovely satin or silk against your skin. Sending an email to your aunt while wearing a lacy red nightie may feel scandalous and wrong, but oh, so right.
4. Masturbate Every Single Day
Masturbating and having orgasms will make your sex life better. It may seem counterintuitive, but it’s true. Masturbating can make you want sex with your partner even more.
Orgasms are good for your mental health. When you orgasm, your body releases oxytocin, which can relieve anxiety and make you feel closer to your partner. Masturbation is nature’s gift to humans and we should fully embrace it and love it.
5. Explore Your Body
When you’re giving yourself time for self-love, explore your body fully. You might have a surefire, go-to way of masturbating, but this can get just as stale as a repeated bedroom routine with your partner. Try running your vibrator over your nipples, or up and down your labia. Run your hands over your stomach and thighs. See what feels good.
We’re never fully finished exploring our sexuality. So, enjoy your body and give yourself the space to find new ways to have pleasure.
6. Watch (or Read or Listen to) Some Erotic Material
If you’ve been afraid of porn or just thought it was gross, you’re not alone. Free online porn on sites like RedTube are not an ideal way to get turned on. Instead, turn to something more female-friendly. Erika Lust makes amazing, gorgeous porn through a female lens.
If erotica is more your style, read a sexy story. LushStories has an amazing selection of pint-sized sexy stories that you’ll love.
If you’re a podcast or audiobook buff, no problem! Check out Dipsea. This erotica app gives you access to tons of amazing erotica that you can listen to.
7. Send Your Partner Some Dirty Sexts
Digital foreplay isn’t just for getting your partner turned on, it’s for getting you turned on. Have a sexy fantasy you’ve always wanted to try? Send a teaser to your partner. If there’s something you’d love to try tonight, let your partner know you can’t wait to have their head between your legs later.
Whatever it is, get yourself in the mood by getting a little sexting going. Our brains are our biggest sex organs. Getting your brain on the sex train will help your body follow.
8. Treat Yourself to Something Sexy and New
Getting something new and sexy is such a good way to turn yourself on. Go to your local sex shop (or check one out online. Get something new and exciting. Have you had an interest in trying some light bondage? Get yourself a blindfold. Always wanted a wand vibrator? Get yourself a vibrator.
Having new gear isn’t the answer to everything, but it sure can help. You’ll be itching to try out your new goodies.
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