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8 Masturbation Sex Positions for People With Vulvas

Published: FEBRUARY 14, 2023 | Updated: APRIL 29, 2024
Trying new masturbation sex positions can give you access to yet-untapped erogenous zones, provide better access to your favourite spots, add a shot of adrenaline to your solo sessions and even make partnered sex more enjoyable.

Love the excitement of sex positions, but don't have (or don't want) a current partner to explore with?


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You're in luck! You can explore all new shapes with just your own body!

READ: 25 Hot and Healthy Benefits of Masturbation.

Swapping up your masturbation positions can expose new pleasure spots, make it easier to hit the spots you already love and keep your arm from going numb in that super-bendy go-to position you always use. You know the one.


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Plus, the feeling of new places -- and new locations! -- can provide that erotic, "taboo" thrill that can amp up your solo sessions.

As if that wasn't enough of a benefit, experiencing pleasure in new positions and places can also be beneficial for partnered sex if you choose to have it down the line. Swapping up your usuals can keep the body from "muscle memory" that makes it difficult to orgasm in new positions.

It also gives you a full range of "go to moves" if you're ever masturbating in a new place -- like if you find an amazing hotel, visit your local kink club or end up with a solo quickie when you're out-and-about.


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Ready to explore? Try these eight masturbation sex positions for people with vulvas!

(If you're a penis owner, some of these positions can work really well for you too! Or, try masturbation techniques specifically for people with penises.)

1. The Go Horizontal Position

Illustrated sex position for the Go Horizontal sex position. A person lays on their back. Their legs are spread, and their legs are out flat. They have one hand touching between their legs from the front and the other hand touches between their legs from behind.

It's the standard go-to for many, but that just makes it an even better choice! The Go Horizontal position has you laying on your back, thighs spread, with your hands between your legs to make the magic happen.


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You'll usually find people in this ultra-comfy position on the bed, but you can make it happen anywhere -- including outside in the grass if you're lucky enough to have some private property!

This lounging position can make the Go Horizontal position accessible to most people -- including people who might be having bad pain days. The position, simultaneously, lends itself well to marathon sessions as every part of the body will be fully supported by the surface beneath you.

If you're very flexible, you might be able to use both hands, from both sides, in this position as shown in the illustration! Don't worry if your flexibility doesn't allow you to make that happen, though. There is a lot of fun to be had in Go Horizontal regardless of where you place your hands -- and hands-free sex toys can help, like the:


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Try It With: Anything new! The Go Horizontal position has the benefit of being the standard go-to for many. This means it can be a great place to mix it up when you're feeling adventurous.

Add sensation play with a blindfold or a bit of impact play by spanking the inner thighs. Explore the world of electrosex by dragging the tip of a Neon Wand between the inner thighs to see the sparks fly (literally!). Opt into some solo foreplay with the help of vampire gloves that glide along your bare skin. It's all about what you'd like to experience today!

2. The Sofa King Cool Position

Illustrated sex position for the Sofa King Cool position. A person straddles the arm of a couch.

Arm of the couch? Don't mind if you do! If you have a straddle-able couch arm, the arm of your couch can become the latest location for your masturbation session with the Sofa King Cool position. (Just say the name out loud real fast!)


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Simply straddle the arm of a couch, find a good spot for your body and grind/rub back and forth! It's that simple!

READ: 7 Ways Your Sofa Can Make Sex Better (Including Oral Sex!).

If you want to up the intensity a bit, you can use both hands (which you probably initially put on the arm of the couch to support you) to hold a vibrator in place. You can then grind on top of the vibrator. You can do the same thing with a dildo too! This variation can be especially helpful to slide something between the labia if you find you aren't getting enough friction from the surface of the couch itself. (That may be a problem with wide couch arms!)

The Sofa King Cool position is also a great go-to if you're turned on by the idea of thrusting into someone. The hip motion against the couch arm can mimic thrusting, and this position lends itself well to wearing a strap-on harness with a dildo while hand-holding a penis stroker to thrust into, too!

Just make sure your couch arm can support this -- especially if you're into rough sex! If you have a DIY couch, it may not be designed to support an entire horny person's bodyweight on a single end. Do a few light test runs first!

Try It With: A sex blanket or thick towel. I love powerful orgasms as much as the next person, but I do not love an expensive upholstery cleaning bill. Protect the arm of your couch as much as possible -- especially if you think this might be a "squirting" kind of day.

3. The Your Royal Highness Position

Illustrated sex position for the Your Royal Highness position. A person sits on a chair. Their legs are very widely spread, and they're holding a purple vibrator in their hand.

Use your favorite chair as your masturbation throne for the Your Royal Highness position. The upright position can feel so different from laying down, and it can make it easier to reach between the legs too! The chair's comfortable, supportive surface can also make it easy to relax into the sensations. Thus, Your Royal Highness lends itself well to marathon masturbation sessions!

READ: Tips to Level Up Your Masturbation Game.

Getting used to masturbation while upright can also open up a brand-new world of sex position possibilities! Sit up against a wall -- or sit at your computer desk. Sit up on the couch or sit up against the bed's headboard. If there's a flat surface to sit against, you'll be used to masturbating on it!

Try It With: Hands-free saddle-style chair vibrators! A chair's flat surface makes it easy to sit on top of a vibrator to grind yourself to ecstasy. Think of it like your own "Good Girl" chair.

The Orion VibePad 2, Rocks-Off Ruby Glow, and Wild Flower Enby 2 can help make that happen if hands-free is the way you want to go.

4. The Legs in the Air Position

Illustrated sex position for the Legs in the Air position. A person lays on their back with their hands positioned between their thighs. Their knees are pulled up towards the ceiling while their feet are still on the bed.

Surprisingly simple -- but also surprisingly sensation-changing. Simply laying on your back and tossing your legs into the air can change up all of those decadent masturbation sensations.

Not only does it feel mentally different (a bit more self-focused and vulnerable, maybe?), but the change in leg angle can help tilt the pelvis too -- which can make it easier to hit the g-spot or p-spot with your favorite dildos or rabbit vibrator. Talk about a win-win!

If your legs are feeling the burn with this one, consider doing the Legs in the Air underneath a sturdy table or against a wall. That way, you can rest your legs up against the table or the wall to reduce leg fatigue. Another modification will have you doing the Legs in the Air next to a tall piece of furniture -- like a couch or the Liberator Equus Wave -- to place your ankles and calves up on the surface at a 90-degree angle to help relax your legs.

Try It With: The Sportsheets Sex Sling. The "elevated legs" angle can be found in a lot of intercourse positions (like the Tuck Knee, Viennese Oyster, Eagle, Lesbian Rocking Horse and Happy Baby positions). And the Sportsheets Sex Sling uses your upper back as an "anchor" for the weight of your legs by connecting them. This can help reduce leg fatigue and, depending on what you enjoy, also let you turn the Legs In the Air into a deep hamstring stretch! (Am I the only one who finds light stretching to be somewhat sexual?)

READ: The Beginner's Guide to Anal Stretching.

5. The Browse and Buzz Position

Illustrated sex position for the Tabbed Browser position. The person is laying on their tummy with their hips elevated by laying on top of a Liberator Axis. The Axis is holding a wand massager between the thighs for stimulation while the person uses their free two hands to use a laptop laying in front of them.

I can't be the only person who loves a bit of laptop use with my masturbation, right?

The Browse and Buzz position lets you have your cake and eat it too with the help of some sex furniture. By laying on top of a wand massager in the Liberator Axis, you can get powerful wand massager vibrations in your favorite, grindable spot while simultaneously using your hands for your laptop or favorite book!

READ: Someone Finally Surveyed Women Who Watch Porn.

Because the Liberator Axis is made from high-density foam, its sturdy shape supports your weight and creates for a gentle, gradual slope to lay on. Simultaneously, the Axis fits most wand massagers (including full-size Magic Wands!) to let you use your favorite wand. Do the Browse and Buzz on a bed for the ultimate in plushy softness.

Just don't expect a marathon session out of this one! The Your Royal Highness position mentioned above is probably a better fit for desktop computer masturbation if you're going for the long haul. The lightly inverted position of the Browse and Buzz can be hard to hold for a long time.

If you've just gotta try this sex position without the Axis, try recreating it with a firm pillow, some rope and a wand massager -- but expect to spend some time experimenting with height and firmness to find the best fit!

(And for anyone wanting to achieve the same thing with a penis-owner, the Liberator On a Mission fits a penis stroking toy!)

Try It With: A thrusting toy! This position puts your hips in the air -- which can make it feel extra-delicious when you add some vaginal or anal play! Consider a thrusting toy like the:

6. The Pillow Fuck Position

Horseless Rider Sex Position. A person wearing a pair of panties is straddling a scrunched up pillow. A vibrator inside of their panties is vibrating while they grind against the pillow.

As one of the leading voices educating about masturbation for vulva owners, Betty Dodson became famous for teaching this masturbation position. All you need is a pillow (and probably your favorite vibrator!) and this masturbation position can be done anywhere.

READ: 4 Super-Hot Places to Have Sex in Your House Besides Your Bed.

Just squish up the pillow on a flat, firm surface. (Soft surfaces like beds can make the pillow un-squish) Straddle the pillow, and then rock and grind yourself on its surface.

It's simple and to the point!

If you want even more stimulation, a sex toy -- like the Magic Wand -- can be tucked into the pillow. In addition to vibrations, this can provide a firm, hard surface to grind against. Others may simply want to experiment with pillow firmness -- or folding the pillow up even smaller -- to gain the level of intensity they're looking for.

If you're finding the pillow un-squishes itself during use, bondage restraints (like a few wraps of bondage rope) could help keep it bundled up. You could also use that same bondage rope to anchor the Magic Wand on the pillow for minimal movement.

And don't forget to clean the pillowcase afterwards! A wet pillow is probably a new level of pet peeve I haven't discovered yet. Alternatively, you could try covering your scrunched up pillow with a waterproof sex blanket -- especially if you own expensive pillows or think ejaculation is on the menu.

Try It With: Nipple clamps or air suction toys! Because the Pillow Fuck position leaves both of your hands available -- and provides easy access to your chest -- this can be a great position for nipple play. For hands-free sensations, clip nipple clamps onto the nipples. If you want to be more involved, consider holding an air suction toy around a nipple for new sensations!

7. The Hole Lot of Love Position

Hole Lot of Love sex position. A person straddles the sex furniture piece with a dildo held upright in the piece of furniture. They can now use the toy hands-free.

Prefer penetration? The Hole Lot of Love is probably a better fit for you than the Browse and Buzz or Pillow Fuck position. That's because it uses the Liberator BonBon (or other sex toy mounts like the Liberator Tula or Humphrey) to hold a sex toy upright. If you're a dildo fan, this can allow for hands-free riding. You can ride your favorite vibrator as well!

I'm particularly fond of the Hole Lot of Love for dual stimulation. Slip in your favorite dildo, then use both of your free hands to add extra stimulation. This can be a perfect fit for adding a favorite clitoral vibrator against the clit too!

As an added bonus, the BonBon's high-density foam helps support your bodyweight and thighs. This can reduce that awful, distracting, thigh-quaking that happens as your brain disappears into the pleasure of the moment.

Try It With: Your partner! The Hole Lot of Love sex position looks smokin' hot! Whether you're sending sexy selfies or want to give your partner a personal show, riding a reliably secure dildo looks hot AF -- and minimal interruptions make for an easier time enjoying yourself!

8. The Ride and Ram Position

Illustrated sex position. The receiving partner is on all fours on the ground. They are straddling the Cowgirl sex machine for pleasurable stimulation. Their partner is on all fours behind them, leaning overtop of their back in order to penetrate.

If you're lucky enough to own a saddle-style sex machine like the Cowgirl, the Ride and Ram masturbation position is a fantasy-fulfiller. Simply climb on top of the Cowgirl machine, gently sliding the insertable shaft inside, and lean forward. Not only does this make for a comfy ride, but it also helps expose the g-spot and place the clitoris against the strongest part of the vibrations. It's a win-win all around!

READ: G-Spot Hunting: How to Find It ... and Its Elusive Orgasm.

While the illustration shows the sex position with a partner, there's no need to add a second person. Slip on the blindfold for solo play that focuses on the power tool-level strength of the vibrator and dildo underneath you.

Just make sure you have the house to yourself with the Ride 'em All position. Sex machines are powerful and never-ending, but they aren't quiet!

Try It With: If the idea of double penetration sounds hot in this position, anal toys are totally a go!

Bending over the Cowgirl gives you a lot of room to use the anal toy of your dreams, but I'd recommend a butt plug for easy "set it and forget it" pleasure! If you're looking for one to really add some special sensations to your play, consider the b-Vibe Petite Rimming Plug (for anal entrance rimming sensations), the b-Vibe Snug Plug (for a weighted design), the XR Brands Thump-It (a micro-thrusting plug) or the Rocks-Off Cocktail (for dual anal and vaginal stimulation).

Bonus: The Synchronous Friction Position

Illustrated sex position for the Head to Toe position. Two people are laying, face-up, on a bed. Each person has their head on opposite sides of the bed, with their heads closer to each other's feet than each other's heads. They both have a thigh draped over each other's abdomen.

Turned on by the idea of your partner "walking in" to find you masturbating? If you and your partner both find that erotic, the Synchronous Friction position is probably one of your best go-to options.

Simply start off in the Go Horizontal position -- and let your partner "walk in" on it all. Your partner can then assume a similar position, their head pointed at your feet, while you both cross one leg over each other. This can give you both front row seats to each other's pleasure -- and the proximity needed to make this a mutual masturbation session if you want!

READ: 4 Awesome Reasons to Try Mutual Masturbation.

Try It With: Long-lasting sex toys! The Head-to-Toe position has the benefit of being marathon session-friendly. In fact, it's so marathon friendly that your fingers might start to wear out. That makes this position a really good fit for sex toys that can be swapped in as needed to keep the fun going.

Consider toys with extra-long battery lives like the Lovense Lush 3, Lovense Exomoon, Lovense Hush 2, Lovense Domi 2, Lovense Nora and/or Lovense Hyphy.

Conclusion

Trying new positions for masturbation can give you access to yet-untapped erogenous zones, provide better access to your favourite places to pleasure, add a shot of adrenaline to your solo sessions and even make partnered sex more enjoyable (if you want to have it!). But perhaps the most important reason to try a new masturbation sex position is this:

You deserve to feel good.

Now go jerk off!

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Mistress Kay

Mistress Kay has a fondness for all things sexual. With a house that's quickly running out of room for all of her reading and vibrating pleasures, she spends her free time reading, writing, and learning about the sexual universe with her partners. She can be reached at Kinky World.

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