BDSM
8 Bondage Sex Positions from Simple to Extreme!
Published: JUNE 9, 2017
| Updated: JULY 18, 2022 04:55:42
Get into the "B" in BDSM with these classic bondage sex positions.
Bondage is a very common kink. But here's something else you may not know about it: It’s also one of the first things people try when they’re considering getting kinky. It is the “B” in BDSM after all!
It’s also something you must be sure to do carefully - so read up on safety considerations and negotiation before you dive in. Once you know how to play safe, try out the following fun bondage sex positions.
Read: The Ins and Outs of Rope Bondage
Spread Eagle Bondage Position
![Spread Eagle Bondage Position. Person lying on bed with writs and ankles bound to corners of bed frame.]()
Most people are familiar with the Spread Eagle Position, but adding bondage to the mix can make it more exciting. By securing someone’s wrists and ankles to the four corners of the bed (whether they’re face up or face down), you can have complete access to the front or back of their body. The vulnerability this pose creates can make it very exciting for both parties and it allows for a variety of sexy or kinky activities - like with blindfolds or impact play.
One thing to remember - whenever someone’s arms are above their heart, circulation can become a problem, so make sure to check in. And make sure the restraints on wrists and ankles aren’t too tight. (Try an under-the-bed restraint system. It provides soft ties and adjustable restraints to help keep your captive safe and comfortable.)
Bent Over Bondage Position
![Bent Over Bondage Position. Person standing, bent over with wrists bound to ankles.]()
Want to test your balance and flexibility? Try holding a bent-over position during sex or kink. This can be either a wide stance, like downward-facing dog, or a narrow stance with your hands near your feet. If needed, using an ottoman or sex furniture (like the Liberator Flip-Ramp) can provide an elevated surface to provide a gripping point for better balance.
Either way, you might need your partner's help to keep you up. But since hands tightly gripping your hips are part of the fun, getting an assist shouldn’t be a problem.
Using a spreader bar is a simple and effective way to bind someone for this pose.
Read: 8 Hot Sex Positions That Are Better With a Spreader Bar
Chair Bondage Position
![Chair Bondage Sex Position: Person sitting in a chair is bound by ankles, wrist and throat and is wearing a blinfold and gag]()
Recalling the classic "damsel in distress" popularized by Betty Page, chair bondage is a fabulous entry-level position bondage sex position.
Because the bound person is sitting, this position is easy to maintain. However, it can limit sexual access unless you use bondage furniture or a chair modified with a hole in the seat, but there is still plenty of fun to be had without genitals. This position can work for oral sex or a variety of forms of kink.
As an entry-level sex position, it can also go well with more mild sensation play, providing a full kink experience that’s still beginner friendly.
A typical form of furniture bondage is simply wrists tied to the arms of a chair and ankles tied to the legs of a chair, but it also lends itself to a variety of other positions - your imagination is the limit.
For this position, try some using some simple bondage rope or secure your partner using wrist and ankle cuffs.
Armbinder Gag Bondage Position
![Armbinder Gag Sex Position: Person with arms bound above head and gagged with binding material]()
Tying the arms behind the neck creates instant vulnerability and is also easier on the shoulders than having your hands tied at your lower back. The Armbind Gag position is fantastic because it doesn’t require a great deal of flexibility, but it still takes away control.
A fun addition is to add a gag - which can be build in to the position if you’re using rope or can be added separately if you’re using other forms of bondage.
A gag can be an exciting sensation as filling someone’s mouth is incredibly intimate. It also adds drool to the mix which can be part of the fun.
Always remember when you’re gagging someone to have non verbal safewords in case the bound partner needs to stop play.
Leapfrog Bondage Position
![Leapfrog Bondage Position. Person in a doggy style position with wrists and ankles bound, gagged.]()
Feeling flexible? The Leapfrog position is easy to get into and provides several options for access. Once someone’s wrists and ankles are bound together, you can even turn them onto their back to change things up while you’re playing.