For many facets of BDSM, the journey (aka the kinky fun) is just as important as the destination (sexual fulfillment or a closer relationship with your partner.)
When it comes to bondage, there are many, many ways to take the journey. From play handcuffs to intricate shibari rope bondage that can take hours of sensuous knot tying, you can opt for quick and dirty or slow and sexy!
Incorporating bondage tape opens opportunities for a sexy hostage/captor scene where the kidnapped ”victim” must do whatever it takes to be released, but it certainly isn’t limited to that. Bondage tape is an easy way to experiment with all kinds of steamy scenarios.
Of course, just like with any sex activity, but particularly when there is an undercurrent of coercion or implied violence, each partner must be on the same page and have granted consent for the type of play. If you are the one doing the taping, keep an eye on your partner’s extremities. Dark red or purple skin is a danger sign and means you must loosen the reins or risk doing lasting damage.
Being restrained can trigger panic or discomfort, so have an agreed upon “escape route.” Have a safeword or gesture planned to stop or change the scene and make sure you have safety shears available for a quick exit. It is important to understand that your regular old kitchen scissors aren’t sufficient. They may not be sharp enough and a good pair of safety shears, like the ones from Blush, have a blunted end to keep you from stabbing your detainee accidentally. You just really don’t want to be in a position of scaring or hurting your partner unintentionally. It is a super buzzkill and plummets the likelihood of a repeat performance. We are all just aiming for a good time here.
Keep in mind that bondage tape is made to stick only to itself so it shouldn’t pull off hair or hurt your skin. This opens up some fun possibilities like creating a sensory deprivation mask, bondage mittens, or a hobble skirt. Mostly any bondage sex position can be executed using bondage tape for restraints, but to get you started, here are a few of our Kinkly favorites:
Just think of the possibilities: oral, penetrative, some genital clamps, some sex toys, some gentle impact play - let your imagination run wild! (The image here includes a strategically placed wand massager and sexy ball gag!) You can also use bondage tape as a gag, just make sure it doesn't also cover their nose.
The actual tying is pretty simple: just have the bottom stand with their back - or front - against the pole and then use your tape to first restrain their arms (by the side is best as people can black out from having their hands over their heads for too long) and then work your way down.
Bondage tape is inexpensive, reusable, and as pain free as you want it to be. We like:
Kinklab Reusable Bondage Tape
Sportsheets Black Bondage Tape
If you are playing with bondage, tape or otherwise, safety shears are a must. Use:
Blush Safety Shears
Up the excitement with a few toys out of the tickle trunk, like:
Sportsheets Silicon Ball Gag
LELO Smart Wand Medium
Master Series Labia Spreader
Even though we feel these are eight awesome positions, feel free to experiment on your own. Almost any bondage position can be modified for bondage tape. Just be sure to listen to your partner, negotiate fully, get clear consent and have your emergency kit at the ready. Because, really, there are a whole lot of awesome sex positions that could be better with a little bondage - and bondage tape!
The Headboard Missionary Position
The Bondage Chair
The Wide Open Position
The Over-the-Chair Position
The Pole Bondage Position
The Frogtie Bondage Position
The Ball Tie Bondage Sex Position
Some of the Best Bondage Tape (and Accessories)
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