Dildos & Vibrators
One of the most popular types of vibrators for BDSM are wand-style body massagers. A cordless version is perfect to affix to someone's body with rope bondage or bondage tape. Vibrators can be used for pleasure or consensual forced orgasm play. Don’t forget, they aren’t just for vulvas and vaginas; penises like vibration too. It’s also a good idea to also have some non-vibrating insertables handy, like a butt plug or curved toy like the Njoy Pure Wand, which is suitable for G-spots or prostates. (Get a whole list of G-spot wonders in 5 Top Toys for Finding - and Pleasing - Your G-Spot.)
A Riding Crop
Riding crops are versatile impact play implements that can be mild or deliver quite a sting depending on how you wield them. Smack genitals and nipples very gently with the crop or go a little harder and hit the back of the thighs and behind. If your crop is long and sturdy enough, you may be able to use the middle section as a cane.
A Cane
Canes come in a variety of materials including wood, acrylic and plastic. They can also be quite painful. Think of the stories you’ve heard about people being hit with a switch; a cane works the same way. They aren’t for the faint of heart. Not a lot of force is needed to inflict pain and leave marks on someone with a cane. The best places to strike with a cane are the butt and thighs. Caning the bottom of the feet is also an option and is called bastinado. In a pinch, the plastic stick used to open and close venetian blinds can be used as a makeshift cane.
A Flogger
Different kinds of floggers produce different kinds of sensations. Floggers with a lot of wide, soft falls will be the most gentle and feel similar to a deep tissue massage. They are often described as “thuddy.” Deer skin and suede will be the most gentle followed by heavier leathers and faux-leather. For a stinging, more painful feeling, go for floggers with thinner, stiffer falls. Floggers made from rubber or nylon cords are particularly brutal.
A Paddle
Paddles are a personal favorite of mine because they offer such a wide range of sensations. You can find them made from wood, metal, plastic, leather, faux leather and many other materials that each give different sensations. Some have soft padding on one side for a more sensual feel. If you are on a budget, visit the dollar or kitchen store. Wooden spoons, heavy spatulas, and hair brushes make reasonably good budget paddles. If you want something softer, sliding a car washing mitt over your paddle or directly over your hand will do the trick. (Learn more about selecting the right material for you in What's the difference between a wood, leather or silicone spanking paddle?)
In addition to these 10 items, don’t forget the basic sexy-time standbys like condoms, medical gloves, lube, medical safety scissors, baby wipes, and puppy pads/waterproof blanket/towel.
Also remember that these are the basics that will be the foundation of your kinky toolkit. Once you get a feel for what types of play you and your partners like, you can add more advanced items like a neon wand, TENS unit, or fancier impact instruments and restraint systems.
Lastly, the most important thing to include in your arsenal is your imagination. The best scenes aren’t made by fancy tools alone. Your creativity and willingness to explore are the most essential elements you need to make your kinky scenes passionate and memorable.