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Frisky Friday: Kinklab Neon Wand

Published: APRIL 5, 2024 | Updated: APRIL 12, 2024

Today, let's talk about the world of electrosex.


At its most basic description, electro sex is the inclusion of electricity—specifically electric impulses—during sexual activity. Obviously, that isn't the sexiest of descriptions, but at its base, that's exactly what electro sex is:

You're using electricity, through safe devices, to elicit sexual arousal and sexual enjoyment.

So, what exactly does electro sex feel like? Does electro sex hurt? The answer is no—and yes. Electro sex toys designed for sexual purposes are intentionally dialed down in their intensity to ensure a safe, sexual, and fun experience—even for people who are brand new to e-stimulation.


To this end, electro sex toys are designed to provide a range of sensations—from the softest tickle all the way up to a current that will make you jump.

The intensity level you choose to play with is entirely up to you. You can use the softest levels of electro sex toys for a gentle experience, or, as you gain experience, you can add more power for sensations that can border on painful.

We get it, though: the idea of adding electrosex in the bedroom can seem like trying to relearn sex all over again.


Pulse widths? Impulse frequencies? Electrodes? What the heck is all of THAT?

It can feel like trying to take an advanced-level course in electronics.

That's why we're really fond of the Kinklab Neon Wand. Unlike estim powerbox toys (which are amazing in their own right - but definitely have a learning curve!), the Kinklab Neon Wand was designed to be a beginner-friendly way to try out electrosex.


Instead of attaching to the skin with hundreds of customization options, the Neon Wand is held in the hand and has a simple twist-dial at the base that controls the intensity. It's as simple as holding a wizard's wand.

Simply read the manual, pick a glass tip, slide it in the toy, plug it in, adjust the intensity, and literally poke your partner with the tip of the wand. The electricity then "jumps" the gap between the tip and your partner's skin for a little "zap!" that feels like fingernails erotically traced along sensitive flesh. (Neon Wands are NOT designed for insertion of any kind, but they are designed for surface-level play.)

Down the line, if you choose to take your electrosex journey even further, the Neon Wand partners with fun, easy-to-use accessories like a body contact probe, electrosex whip, and electrosex paddle!


It has made e-stimulation much more approachable to people who've been fantasizing about giving it a try! Is that you?

How to Use the Neon Wand

Okay, okay. You might be thinking that a Neon Wand is simply too complicated for you, someone who loves sex toys but knows nothing about estim, to control. Let us surprise you a bit; the Neon Wand is surprisingly simple to use!

(Once you do it once or twice, you'll think nothing of it on each subsequent use!)



  • Insert the glass electrode into the Neon Wand.
  • Check the dial on the bottom of the Neon Wand to ensure the Neon Wand is off.
  • Plug the Neon Wand into the wall.
  • Gently twist the power dial on the base of the Neon Wand. You'll hear the "click" as it switches on - and that noise will shortly follow with a slight "buzz" in the air. That's electricity that you're hearing!
  • Lower the power dial on the base of the Neon Wand until you're at the lowest possible intensity.
  • Touch the Neon Wand Sex Toy to a less-sensitive part of your partner's body (or your body, if playing solo!). The thigh or forearm can be a good trial spot.
  • Once your partner has approved the intensity level, gently drag the Neon Wand along your partner's skin to produce the electrosex sensations.
  • When you're done, turn the dial all the way to the off position - then unplug the Kinklab Neon Wand.

We want zero confusion here - and want you to know exactly what you're in for. We promise, it's easier to use than you'd think was possible.

Accessories for You and your Boo

Whether you want to pick them up now or come back for them later, we figure we should let you know about the future pleasure potential of your Neon Wand.

You see, the Neon Wand is deliciously pleasurable straight out of the box - and you can spend years just enjoying it on its own.

But when you want new ways to play with electrosex, the Neon Wand is compatible with a whole host of accessories. Accessories like:

Kinklab Neon Wand Power Tripper: This unlocks hands-free use of the Neon Wand. You plug the Power Tripper into the Neon Wand like one of the electrodes, and it allows you to use the body contact plate to turn your entire body in a Neon Wand.

We recommend reading the product description on the Power Tripper page to learn more about it, but there's a reason because it's the most-purchased attachment for the Neon Wand: it's awesome.

Kinklab Neon Wand Thunderclap: This electro-conductive paddle is used alongside the Power Tripper and Neon Wand for a literally-electrifying spanking. Sparks fly with each slap!

Kinklab Neon Wand Flex Capacitor: If you want even more intensity out of the Neon Wand, we recommend this attachment. It plugs into the tip of the Neon Wand just like an electrode - but due to its pinpoint design, the sensations it provides are very intense.

Kinklab Electro Whip: Love flogging? The Electro Whip partners impact play with electrosex in the best of ways. This conductive flogger simply plugs into the tip of the Neon Wand like any other attachment for the flexibility of a flogger in seconds.

Each one of the accessories expands your pleasure potential - and gives you new ways to play!

Which one is going to be awesome for you?

Want to Learn More?

Here at Kinkly, we're never going to dissuade you from learning something new!

While we think the Kinklab Neon Wand is one of the easiest ways to explore electrosex for the first time, we do have even more resources to figure out if the Neon Wand - or estimulation in general! - is for you!

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Mistress Kay

Mistress Kay has a fondness for all things sexual. With a house that's quickly running out of room for all of her reading and vibrating pleasures, she spends her free time reading, writing, and learning about the sexual universe with her partners. She can be reached at Kinky World.

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