Yes, those are real concerns, but try not to over-focus on them and forget the benefits. By being vulnerable, you can gain freedom, greater physical and emotional pleasure, and finding partners who truly love and celebrate you as you are.
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2. You aren't the only person who feels afraid.
A lie we often tell ourselves is that we are the only ones who feel afraid and ashamed in life and in bed. We think our partner has no fears, has a perfect body, or harbours no secret desires. This is, of course, completely untrue. By reminding ourselves that everyone is dealing with these insecurities, we can find common ground and courage in speaking up for our needs.
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3. You really have nothing to lose.
This is probably the hardest one to believe, but it is true. Going back to the fears we mentioned in tip number one, let's think about if any of those things came true. If the person you are with puts you down, mocks you or rejects you after you disclose your truth, then they weren't right for you anyway. Who wants to physically intimate with someone you can't be emotionally close to? Even if your community of friends puts you down for your sexual truth, there are so many people out there who will love and support you.
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The challenge of facing our fears is the moment that we break through and achieve an entirely new reality for our lives that we never thought possible. By being vulnerable we can find new experiences that allow us to be bold, courageous, and to live more authentically.