When it comes to anal sex positions, Bellucci, the studio head for Step House, personally likes Doggy Style. "Doggy is usually the best position for first-timers, as well as for more experienced anal practitioners," says the content creator. For Bellucci, it's easier to find a good angle, especially when she starts and needs a few minutes to get relaxed and into the zone.
READ: Doggy Style Position: How to ACTUALLY Make it Feel Good.
Incorporate Sex Toys
Madam Carmen says vibrators, such as bullets, eggs and wands, provide extra sensory stimulation during anal sex. "Entry and stretching strokes can feel very intense for the anal novice, so it would help to give them a pleasurable distraction," she says. In addition, she adds, the sensation from the vibrator can overpower the feeling of penetration while providing orgasmic relief.
For other sensory stimuli, Madam Carmen recommends exploring and incorporating temperature play. "This can look like using warm oils, placing glass and metal toys in hot water or the freezer," she says.
Stop Or Pause at Any Point
Consent can be revoked or renegotiated at any time. But, unfortunately, many people don't understand that you can be in the middle of an act with somebody -- like anal sex -- and can put a full stop at any time.
Gold says what feels pleasurable for one person may feel differently for another. "The key is to go slow, communicate with your partner and use plenty of lube. And if something hurts, feels off, or you simply change your mind, it's OK to stop." She says there may be some discomfort initially, but straight-up pain is a red flag.
"Remember that you can stop at any time, and giving consent to anal sex at one moment does not constitute an obligation to continue," says Gold. "If you're not feeling it, stop. You can always resume later." She notes that not everyone will come to embrace anal sex no matter how many times they try, which is perfectly fine as well.
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Remember, You're Not a Porn Star!
Knight would like to point out that porn is entertainment; it is directed and edited content.
"What occurs on set is talked about in detail and consented to by all performers," she says. "Most performers wear butt plugs prior to a scene to prepare, and if there is enough time, you can have a moment off-camera with your co-star to rehearse and see if everything feels comfortable."
It usually takes Gold about an hour to open her ass to make an anal scene with a big cock -- and that's because she's done anal sex multiple times and can directly penetrate with a not-so-small toy without a problem.
"I use different size toys while watching a movie, Youtube videos, or TikTok. Just entertain yourself and masturbate your ass. It will eventually open up and be ready for the next big toy or big cock," she says.
If penetration is done by a penis, Gold notes it needs to be extremely hard since the anus is a very tight hole. "It also needs to stay hard for the multiple-hour duration of the shoot," she says. "For this reason, guys may use penile injections to make their cock rock-hard and stay that way for hours." However, she cautions that using these injections can cause dependency, which can have future implications, such as trouble getting a natural erection.
Knight notes what you see in a porn video does not include all the mishaps, breaks to clean up, and other "bloopers" that happen during an actual anal sex session. "Porn videos, most of the time, don't depict all that happens during anal sex: What happens between cuts, water breaks, laughing, cleaning any kind of mess, etcetera," she says.
Doshi advises against people trying to recreate anal sex positions depicted in porn in real life. She says what looks comfortable on video can be extremely uncomfortable in front of a camera.
So, as Gold says, don't use porn as the benchmark for your personal anal experience. "In films, when the actor instantly penetrates with ease and things appear so clean, it's because of hours of preparation."
"Just do what you are comfortable with and you'll have a good anal experience, but pushing your body is when you set yourself up for failure," says St. Clair.
READ: Why You Should Start Watching Porn and Not Feel Ashamed of It.
The Bottom Line on Butt Love
The rectum and anus are filled with so many rich nerve endings waiting to be fingered, fucked, plugged, pegged and probed. Why deny yourself pleasure from this source?
If you're weirded out about having stuff in your butt, you may want to reconsider and face your fears. (And if you've tried it and still don't like it, that's OK. You get a gold star for giving it a shot!)
Take it slow, use lots of lube, and use a barrier method for protection -- because many STIs can be spread via unprotected anal. And if something doesn't feel quite right, stop immediately. Anal sex should never, ever hurt. There's nothing worse than having a painful experience to make someone decide never to try butt sex again. Because when it's done right, it can be glorious.
Want some kinky sex positions to make the most of your anal play? Check out our sex positions page!
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