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The Ultimate Sex-Positive Gift Guide

Published: DECEMBER 4, 2018 | Updated: OCTOBER 25, 2021 09:47:23
24 sex-positive presents for the coolest people on your list.

It’s the merriest time of the season! We're all about sex toys here at Kinkly, and we've created a number of gift guides around them. But, well, sex toy gifts aren't a fit for everyone - and not everyone is into sex. So, here are 24 non-sex-toy gifts to give to your most sex-positive friends. Enjoy!

Cunt Clutch

Reclaim the c-word with this fierce glittery vinyl clutch designed by Julie Mollo, designer, and stylist for Katy Perry.

Cunt Clutch, Julie Mollo
Buy: $28.00 at Babeland


Exhausting Patriarchy Panties

Fighting the patriarchy is exhausting. Speak your mind with these super soft cotton panties.

Fighting the patriarchy is exhausting panties
Buy: $22.00 at Kidd Bell

"Color Me Swoon: The Beefcake Activity Book for Good Color-Inners as well as Beginners"

This coloring book is packed with 125 pages of fun activities and hunky penis-havers just waiting to be colored in.

Color Me Swoon: The Beefcake Activity Book by Mel Ennis
Buy: $14.00 at Amazon

Randy’s Reproductive System Sweater

This statement-making sweater is a must-have for every sex-positive fashionista.

Randy’s Reproductive System Sweater with uterus
Buy: $198.00 at Rachel Antonoff

Queer Eye Fab Five Mug

Show off your love of the Fab Five with this cute mug that pays homage to the guys who make the world a better place, one episode at a time.

Queer Eye Fab Five Mug: Jonathan & Karamo & Antoni & Bobby & Tan
Buy: $10.86 at GiftGang

The Boob Pillowcase

Snuggle up and rest your head on these boob print pillowcases. They're made of fancy 230-thread count Pima cotton so you can bet you'll have sweet dreams.

Boob Pillowcase
Buy: $32.00 at GRAVEL & GOLD

Vadge of Honor Pin

Here’s one of my fave vulva stocking stuffers for my feminist besties.

Vadge of Honor Pin
Buy: $12.00 at People I’ve Loved

Golden Snatch Necklace

Instead of chasing after the Golden Snitch (à la Harry Potter), get your hands on this Golden Snatch necklace. Or, as I like to call it, the Flying Fuck. Whatever you call it, this flying vulva is a fab, empowering conversation piece.

Golden Snatch Necklace
Buy: $43.00 at ScrewUJewelry

Betty Dodson Cuntflower Tee

Best-known as the “Mother of Masturbation,” Dodson has fought to liberate female sexuality for more than four decades. Her books, "Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove" (1974) and "Sex for One; The Joy of Self-Loving" (1987) are feminist classics. Her Bodysex workshops, where she teaches women to overcome sexual shame and connect with their orgasm, are legendary. This soft, stylish tee embodies Dodson’s mantra that masturbation is a meditation on self-love.

Betty Dodson Cuntflower Tee
Buy: $40.00 at BettyDodsonDesigns


Cheeky Wrapping Paper by Pinky Weber

Make sure your presents are opened first with this hilarious, bootylicious wrapping paper.

Cheeky Wrapping Paper by Pinky Weber with butts
Buy: $8.00 at Witchsy

Pronoun Lapel Pin

Pronouns are just as important as learning someone’s name. Using them correctly is a mark of respect and makes for good communication. Own yours (he/she/they) with this cute color wheel-style pin.

Pronoun Lapel Pin: She, He, They
Buy: $10.00 at Babeland

Vibrator Tote Bags

Sex-positive icons, such as Samantha Jones ("Sex and the City") or Abbi ("Broad Street") have made it easier to talk about vibrators as a pleasure. Author and academic Lynn Comella raises sexual consciousness in her book "Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure." Her cute totes, designed by Ryan Olbrysh, are a must.

Tote Bags with Vibrator designs><span class=
Buy: $18.00 at Happy Orange

“Badass” Twiggy Signet Ring by My Story

For the fearless feminist in your life who isn’t afraid to tell it like it is (while acknowledging their privilege and not undermining other people’s experiences, of course) – this ring is for them.

Badass Twiggy Signet Ring by My Story
Buy: $525.00 at Barney’s

“We Are All Babes” Crew

There’s nothing I love more than women supporting other women. I mean, we’re all in this together, right? Empower your favorite gal pal with this cute crew and propel her forward. We’re way more powerful as a kickass collective.

We Are All Babes sweatshirt
Buy: $79.00 at Brunette The Label

Feminist Stickers

Remind the favorite feminist in your life of what a badass she is with stickers like, “I Am Deliberate and Afraid Of Nothing,” a feminist uterus or a “The Future Is Female.”

variety of feminist stickers
Buy: $3.00-$3.50 each at LittleWomanGoods

WANK – An Illustrated Guide of Female Masturbation

This 28-page book, focused on the magnificence that is female masturbation, takes 12 real-life confessions of the way women masturbate and illustrates it in striking line drawings. Basically, this book is all about the eye candy of female pleasure.

WANK – An Illustrated Guide of Female Masturbation
Buy: $4.76 at TheOysterKnife

Erika Lust’s Power Pussy Collection

I can’t pick favorites when it comes to Lust’s Pussy Power Collection. From the “Kink Is The New Black Tee” to her “Monogamy – It’s Overrated” tote, everything from the feminist porn director’s store is pretty fucking amazing. For sexy visual gift recipients, give a subscription to XConfessions, which is some of the best user-inspired, woman-produced porn on the web right now.

Monogamy Is Overrated tote bag
Buy: $38.25 and up, at ErikaLust

Safer sex is sexy sex. An easy way to break the ice on those safer sex conversation is with these straight-to-the-point condoms. Consent is essential. Model good behavior and healthy sexual habits with this fun take on contraception.

Consent Condoms with sayings on them
Buy: 99 cents each at SayItWithACondom

"Ultimate Guide to Bondage: Creating Intimacy through the Art of Restraint" by Mistress Couple

Most people can wrap their brain around vanilla sex. But the world of kink and fetishes is rife with myths, misconceptions and straight-up confusion. This book helps to demystify the world of bondage and is a great starting point for anyone wanting to explore pleasure and play with restraints.

Ultimate Guide to Bondage: Creating Intimacy through the Art of Restraint by Mistress Couple
Buy: $16.95 at Amazon


myLAB Box

It's not the sexiest of a topic, but STDs are on the rise. Not everyone is comfortable going to their local clinic, so give the gift of knowledge with at-home STD testing. Knowing your status is sexy!

myLAB Box at-home STD test kit
Buy: Gift cards start at $25.00 at myLAB

"Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment" by August McLaughlin

Health and sexuality writer August McLaughlin healed her eating disorder when she embraced her sexuality. In this book, the host of the wildly popular Girl Boner podcast talks slut-shaming, prude-shaming, sexual empowerment and what it means to be a “good girl."

Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment by August McLaughlin
Buy: $16.50 on Amazon

Little Feminist Box of Magnets

When we're older, it's so hard to unlearn all the negative messaging we've been taught. Cheer on your future confident kid and say yes to equality with these fridge cuties.

Little Feminist Box of Magnets
Buy: $12.00 at Maisonette

Sephora eGift Card

For transgender women, gender fluid or transitioning friends, fragrance, makeup, skincare and hair products are a thoughtful gift.


Sephora Gift Card
Buy: Any amount at Sephora

Personalized Collar Stays

These little collar stays can be a sexy secret between the two of you that will surely make boardroom formal functions less boring.

Personalized Collar Stays: to keep you stiff when we're apart
Buy: $17.95 on Etsy

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Ryn Pfeuffer

Ryn Pfeuffer is a versatile print and digital writer specializing in sex, lifestyle, and relationship topics. Over the past two decades, her work has appeared in more than 100 media outlets including Marie Claire, Playboy, Refinery29, The Globe and Mail, The Washington Post, WIRED, and Thrillist.

She adopted a pseudonym and was AVN’s (Adult Video Network) first female porn reviewer – while penning children’s books at the same time. More recently, she is the author of 101 Ways to Rock Online Dating (2019). She lives in Seattle with her rescue dog, Mimi. You can find her on Twitter @rynpfeuffer or IG @ryn_says