It’s the merriest time of the season! We're all about sex toys here at Kinkly, and we've created a number of gift guides around them. But, well, sex toy gifts aren't a fit for everyone - and not everyone is into sex. So, here are 24 non-sex-toy gifts to give to your most sex-positive friends. Enjoy!
Reclaim the c-word with this fierce glittery vinyl clutch designed by Julie Mollo, designer, and stylist for Katy Perry.
Buy: $28.00 at Babeland
Fighting the patriarchy is exhausting. Speak your mind with these super soft cotton panties.
Buy: $22.00 at Kidd Bell
This coloring book is packed with 125 pages of fun activities and hunky penis-havers just waiting to be colored in.
Buy: $14.00 at Amazon
This statement-making sweater is a must-have for every sex-positive fashionista.
Buy: $198.00 at Rachel Antonoff
Show off your love of the Fab Five with this cute mug that pays homage to the guys who make the world a better place, one episode at a time.
Buy: $10.86 at GiftGang
Snuggle up and rest your head on these boob print pillowcases. They're made of fancy 230-thread count Pima cotton so you can bet you'll have sweet dreams.
Buy: $32.00 at GRAVEL & GOLD
Here’s one of my fave vulva stocking stuffers for my feminist besties.
Buy: $12.00 at People I’ve Loved
Instead of chasing after the Golden Snitch (à la Harry Potter), get your hands on this Golden Snatch necklace. Or, as I like to call it, the Flying Fuck. Whatever you call it, this flying vulva is a fab, empowering conversation piece.
Buy: $43.00 at ScrewUJewelry
Best-known as the “Mother of Masturbation,” Dodson has fought to liberate female sexuality for more than four decades. Her books, "Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove" (1974) and "Sex for One; The Joy of Self-Loving" (1987) are feminist classics. Her Bodysex workshops, where she teaches women to overcome sexual shame and connect with their orgasm, are legendary. This soft, stylish tee embodies Dodson’s mantra that masturbation is a meditation on self-love.
Buy: $40.00 at BettyDodsonDesigns
Make sure your presents are opened first with this hilarious, bootylicious wrapping paper.
Buy: $8.00 at Witchsy
Pronouns are just as important as learning someone’s name. Using them correctly is a mark of respect and makes for good communication. Own yours (he/she/they) with this cute color wheel-style pin.
Buy: $10.00 at Babeland
Sex-positive icons, such as Samantha Jones ("Sex and the City") or Abbi ("Broad Street") have made it easier to talk about vibrators as a pleasure. Author and academic Lynn Comella raises sexual consciousness in her book "Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure." Her cute totes, designed by Ryan Olbrysh, are a must.
Buy: $18.00 at Happy Orange
For the fearless feminist in your life who isn’t afraid to tell it like it is (while acknowledging their privilege and not undermining other people’s experiences, of course) – this ring is for them.
Buy: $525.00 at Barney’s
There’s nothing I love more than women supporting other women. I mean, we’re all in this together, right? Empower your favorite gal pal with this cute crew and propel her forward. We’re way more powerful as a kickass collective.
Buy: $79.00 at Brunette The Label
Remind the favorite feminist in your life of what a badass she is with stickers like, “I Am Deliberate and Afraid Of Nothing,” a feminist uterus or a “The Future Is Female.”
Buy: $3.00-$3.50 each at LittleWomanGoods
This 28-page book, focused on the magnificence that is female masturbation, takes 12 real-life confessions of the way women masturbate and illustrates it in striking line drawings. Basically, this book is all about the eye candy of female pleasure.
Buy: $4.76 at TheOysterKnife
I can’t pick favorites when it comes to Lust’s Pussy Power Collection. From the “Kink Is The New Black Tee” to her “Monogamy – It’s Overrated” tote, everything from the feminist porn director’s store is pretty fucking amazing. For sexy visual gift recipients, give a subscription to XConfessions, which is some of the best user-inspired, woman-produced porn on the web right now.
Buy: $38.25 and up, at ErikaLust
Safer sex is sexy sex. An easy way to break the ice on those safer sex conversation is with these straight-to-the-point condoms. Consent is essential. Model good behavior and healthy sexual habits with this fun take on contraception.
Buy: 99 cents each at SayItWithACondom
Most people can wrap their brain around vanilla sex. But the world of kink and fetishes is rife with myths, misconceptions and straight-up confusion. This book helps to demystify the world of bondage and is a great starting point for anyone wanting to explore pleasure and play with restraints.
Buy: $16.95 at Amazon
It's not the sexiest of a topic, but STDs are on the rise. Not everyone is comfortable going to their local clinic, so give the gift of knowledge with at-home STD testing. Knowing your status is sexy!
Buy: Gift cards start at $25.00 at myLAB
Health and sexuality writer August McLaughlin healed her eating disorder when she embraced her sexuality. In this book, the host of the wildly popular Girl Boner podcast talks slut-shaming, prude-shaming, sexual empowerment and what it means to be a “good girl."
Buy: $16.50 on Amazon
When we're older, it's so hard to unlearn all the negative messaging we've been taught. Cheer on your future confident kid and say yes to equality with these fridge cuties.
Buy: $12.00 at Maisonette
For transgender women, gender fluid or transitioning friends, fragrance, makeup, skincare and hair products are a thoughtful gift.
Ryn Pfeuffer is a versatile print and digital writer specializing in sex, lifestyle, and relationship topics. Over the past two decades, her work has appeared in more than 100 media outlets including Marie Claire, Playboy, Refinery29, The Globe and Mail, The Washington Post, WIRED, and Thrillist.
She adopted a pseudonym and was AVN’s (Adult Video Network) first female porn reviewer – while penning children’s books at the same time. More recently, she is the author of 101 Ways to Rock Online Dating (2019). She lives in Seattle with her rescue dog, Mimi. You can find her on Twitter @rynpfeuffer or IG @ryn_says
