The cervix tends to be less talked about when it comes to sexual pleasure. The clitoris and the G-spot are more well known when it comes to pleasure (Though still lacking in comparison to knowledge on how to pleasure a penis. We're working on that.).

That being said, the cervix deserves to have its moment in the spotlight! Cervical orgasms are said to be stronger and more full-bodied than clitoral orgasms.

However, the cervix’s highly sensitive nature can mean that banging it during sex can equal more pain than pleasure. This can put people off having their cervix’s stimulated, but done right, deep penetration can result in extreme satisfaction and earth-moving orgasms.

Here are a few tips to help you reach those cervical orgasms.

What Is The Cervix Anyway?

The cervix is the lower part of the uterus, at the end of the vagina. It’s around two inches long and has a hole called the ‘os’ that dilates during childbirth to allow the baby to pass through.

There’s a bit of a myth out there that the cervix can be ‘penetrated’ during sex, but it actually remains closed most of the time. What you may feel during intercourse is a penis or dildo pushing up against the cervix. We need deep penetration to reach the cervix, so any sexual positions that allow for that will help.

Read: Go Deep! The 8 Best Sex Positions for Deep Penetration

Cervical Warm-Ups

Being one of the body’s lesser known pleasure points, the cervix can be a bit slow to warm-up. Diving in there and having fast sex can cause pain, so if you’re planning on trying to go for a cervical orgasm, taking it slow and having lots of foreplay is essential.

Xanet Pailet, sex and intimacy educator and author of Living An Orgasmic Life suggests that one way to reduce the likelihood of pain with penetration is to start with "lighter, gentle, circular touches on the cervix."

This is also a good way to tap into the sensations you are feeling and notice if the position you’re trying is a good one for accessing the cervix. Every body is different, so as you try these three positions, see which one works best for you.

1. Missionary with Pillows

Xanet Pailet says having the cervix owner’s hips up on a few pillows, or placing their legs over their partner’s shoulders can help to increase the depth of penetration so the cervix can be reached.

slow climb sex position

2. Doggy Style

Pailet says this can be a good position to reach the cervix, for some people. However, if you have a tipped uterus the angle may not be quite right. Feminine sexuality empowerment coach, Mangala Holland, points out that in this position hard pounding can be uncomfortable so if this is the case, there may need to be more foreplay or a slower approach.

doggy style sex position

3. Cervix-Owner on Top

Mangala Holland recommends that the cervix-owner goes on top, like in the cowgirl position. This position can also be helpful as it allows the cervix-owner to control the speed and pressure, exploring the cervix at their own pace.

diagram of cowgirl sex position

A Note on Periods

The cervix changes position at different points of the menstrual cycle. During menstruation and just afterwards it is lower, and as ovulation approaches, and during ovulation it rises higher up. Trying certain positions at different times of the month may feel different because of this.

Read: Seven Sexy Facts to Help you Reach Cervical Climax

How to Tell if You’re Actually Having a Cervical Orgasm

It can be tricky to isolate where exactly you’re feeling an orgasm during sex. Orgasms are often a blended mix of clitoral, G-spot, and cervical pleasure. One way to get familiar with the different sensations is to experiment alone using your fingers or an insertable wand.

This can also be helpful if penetration is painful despite trying these tips. It could be that your cervix has experienced trauma from being banged hard during previous sex, pap smears, or medical interventions. Trying a self-pleasure practice where you gently listen to your body and take it slow can help.

People who’ve experienced cervical orgasms report them as being full-body experiences, where the sensations of pleasure spread beyond the vagina. They can feel like waves of pleasure that keep breaking, rather than the sudden peak and fall of a clitoral orgasm.

Read: Masturbation Tips: How to Stimulate the Cervix

A Different Kind of Sex

There’s no sex position in the world that is going to guarantee you a cervical orgasm every time. As sexologist and founder of Self:Cervix, Olivia Bryant, says,

"It’s not just a matter of mechanics, if I touch the cervix with my penis in this way she’s going to have an orgasm. It just doesn’t work like that. It’s far more complex. With a woman or a person with a cervix you have to open her entire emotional body, her heart needs to be open. She needs to feel safe in the connection in her self, so there’s a whole bunch of emotional psycho dynamics going on."

For Bryant, the way to increase the likelihood of having a cervical orgasm is a completely different way of having sex. She recommends pushing against the cervix, but without pulling out the penis, and slamming it back in – as in the "friction-based model of sex."

Bryant says that the problem with conventional 'in-out, in out' style sex is that the person with the cervix may be "slightly vigilant that some pain is about to happen."

This kind of state doesn’t allow for the relaxation and expansion that makes cervical orgasms most likely to happen.

In the place of friction, Bryant teaches sensitivity; waking up the nerve endings in the cervix (or for a partner in their penis) so that the slightest, gentlest movement is experienced as intense pleasure.

This kind of mindful presence opens up the body for expansive orgasmic states that happen without any pumping. It takes patience, but often a cervical orgasm happens when you give up seeking them, and simply learn to be.

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