When you're tired and overwhelmed, sex can become one more thing on your to-do list. But it doesn’t have to be. Nor does it have to be taxing or further exhaustive. Remember, once upon a time, when sex was fun? After all, that’s how you ended up with those never-ending bundles of energy you call children - by having great sex!
The good news is, you can still have great sex as a tired, overworked parent. Part of how sex gets relegated to the back of the closet and forgotten about is because you’re tired. The time since you last had exciting sex may have blurred that memory, and innovation got lost in transition. However, trying something different and sneaking it in while the kids are busy/sleeping/away can reinvigorate some of the excitement that sex once held for you. Treat sex as special time between you and your partner. Plan for it. Anticipate. Make it happen. While planned sex doesn’t always sound exciting, if you think of it more like a trip you’re getting ready for, it might remove some of the stigma. Plus, when all is said and done, you might not be so tired once you’re finished.
That said, when you're squeezing in some loving at the end of a hard day (or week), the last thing you may want is a fussy sexual position. Here are some ideas for hot sex between tired partners.
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The Spoon Sex Position
The spoon is a great position for when one or both of you is tired! You both lie on your side, with him entering from behind. The overall position does not require a huge amount of energy to pull off, and it's very comfy and cozy. It is a great way to just be close, to feel each other. With a bit of tweaking, it is also a great rear entry position for deep penetration.
The Scissor Sex Position
The scissor sex position is another position that keeps things pretty relaxed. In this one, she lies on her back, him on his side for entry. With one of his legs between her legs, scissor sex can provide friction for her clitoris. Bonus!
The Tabletop Sex Position
If she is the really tired partner, she can lie on the bed or a table for what we call the Tabletop position. He stands in front of her to penetrate. This works great if the bed height and his height aren’t at odds. If he is much taller, try bolstering her butt up with pillows. Also great for a different sensation/angles of penetration, based on his height and her feet/leg positioning. If she needs external stimulation for orgasm, she will have to manually stimulate herself or grab a toy to help out.
The Reverse Spoon Sex Position
The reverse spoon is similar to the spoon, but with a bit of a different approach. In this one, both partners lie on their sides, but with his feet behind her head. This is another good option that is comfortable, relaxing and intimate. If there is a foot fetish involved, this provides access to the feet during sex as well.
The Lazy Doggy Sex Position
The lazy doggy, or flat doggy, is much like traditional doggy style, but for those with less energy. In this one, he enters from behind, but rests his weight on top of his partner during sex. This positions provides a great angle for deep penetration. She may need a bolster under her hips for best results, and less energy spent.
Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Reverse cowgirl is one of the most popular sex positions out there - and for good reason. It's easy, but it provides great stimulation for both partners. Takes turns doing the work here so you can both relax and enjoy the ride.
OK, this one isn't a sex position, exactly, but if you both are too tired to handle intercourse, here’s an option where you can both still get off together. All you need to do is to get comfy, get naked and start touching each other in ways that you enjoy. If you want more tips, read Double the Fun! 5 Hot Tips on Self Touch for Two.)
Take a Bath Together
Bathing together can be very intimate - with or without the orgasm. Either way, it is a great way to decompress and relax together to get in the mood. Spend time in the bath just touching each other. Got a favorite waterproof toy? You could try some edging instead of allowing each other to reach orgasm, or maybe you go all out. The choice is yours. You could also try the wet ride position, as shown below. Enjoy!