SEX POSITIONS
Shallow Penetration Sex Positions for Big Penis Sex
Published: JULY 12, 2022
| Updated: JULY 21, 2022 10:31:18
Monster dong got you down? Not everyone's a size queen. If big penis sex is making things uncomfortable, these positions will keep things sweet and shallow!
"Penis size doesn't matter as much as you think it does."
You'll read that over and over in most articles at Kinkly - and they're right! There's a lot more to sexual compatibility (and pleasure!) than simply the girth or length of the penis. Most people seeking long-term relationships don't select someone to marry based on penis size. I know, it's true! (Would make a really weird reality show though!)
Despite all of this, the notion that "bigger is better" still reigns as a frequent discussion point. The thought that a large penis is desired by every receiver is prevalent, but the truth is, there can be downsides to a massive dick.
As someone who's had sex with large penises - and someone who has friends with those "coveted" shafts, however, this isn't the truth for many. I, personally, have had to turn down any possibilities of intercourse when a partner revealed a larger-than-average size, and my friends constantly recount the trials of sex with a larger penis. Some of those being:
- Regularly hurting their partner. As most people are having intercourse for pleasure - and want everyone involved to enjoy it! - the fact that the penis can easily hurt the receiving partner is usually a problem. Going too deep - or even the girth of the penis for shallow positions - can cause a receiving partner pain.
- An inability to completely relax. If length is the concern for pain, the penis-owner may be unable to "let go" during sex - because if they do, they might accidentally go too deep and hurt their partner. This can hamper a person's enjoyment of intercourse.
- Difficulty/inability to go in to the hilt. Especially with longer penises, sliding fully inside may never be an option. Feeling the sensation of a partner's hips pressing against their own when fully slid inside may not be something that's possible.
- Inability to penetrate - at all. Especially if the penis-owner is working with a wide girth, it may be difficult to penetrate their lover at-all. Especially if the penis-owner is with a new partner, the receiving partner may not not be able to receive even the tip of the partner's girth without pain.
Adequate lubrication and foreplay are key to making vaginal or anal penetration enjoyable, but that may not be enough for your partner. In addition to penetration challenges, some people find the sensation of a penis pushing against their cervix really uncomfortable or even painful.
If you're working with a larger-than-average shaft (or your partner is!), though, you can "reduce" some of the pain points associated with intercourse with your choice of sex positions. Just like sex positions can help a penis feel larger, your choice of sex position can also help a penis feel smaller.
It's all about penetration depth and how close your bodies are able to get to one another!
Shallow Penetration Sex Positions for Big Penis Sex
![Coital Alignment Technique, a variation of missionary position]()
Think of the Coital Alignment Technique position as a modified version of Missionary position - and as a bonus, it's designed for hands-free pleasure for a clitoral-owning receiving partner!
Line up like Missionary position - but instead of angling for the penis to slip inside with a horizontal movement, the idea is to make the penis point straight down towards the floor underneath the receiving partner. Once you achieve that, each movement will cause the length of the shaft to slide along the vulva and clitoris for sensation during each thrust.
Since the majority of the shaft length is left outside of the body, this can be a great shallow penetration sex position while it simultaneously adds more pleasure!
Spice It Up: As clitoral stimulation is the name of the game here, a vibrating cock ring, like the Fun Factory NOS or We-Vibe Pivot, might be a good fit for this sex position. Just make sure that the shape/size of the ring works well for both of you; the unique angles the Coital Alignment Technique provides make for a lot of friction and pressure on the receiving partner, and you want to make sure your vibrating cock ring is adding to that!
![Kneeling Fox Sex Position. Both partners are kneeling, one behind the other, facing the same direction. Partner in back is penetrating partner in front with arms around their waist.]()
Help ensure the penis never goes too deep by minimizing the penetrating partner's movements. The Kneeling Fox makes it simple - and makes it pretty darn comfy too! With both partners kneeling and the receiver controlling the depth and speed, Kneeling Fox can be a good fit for big penis sex.
There's nothing saying that long thrusts must the focus of Kneeling Fox either. The receiver may consider grinding or flicking their hips to facilitate movement without needing to slide down fully into their partner's lap.
Plus, it leaves the penetrating partner's hands entirely open - which can be great for reaching around to pleasure the receiver!
Spice It Up: If you both are up for a new type of adventure, the Kneeling Fox can be a good position to experiment with ballsex. Made possible by the Balldo, this unique sex toy adds dildo-like qualities to the testicles - and makes it possible to connect with a lover in a new way!
Read: Ballsex: Having a Ball with Your Balls!
![Galley Sex Position. The penetrating partner sits down with their legs straight in front of them. The receiving partner gets on all fours on either side of their partner's hips in front of the penetrating partner - but at a 45-degree from the penetrating partner's torso.]()
Using the same logic as the Kneeling Fox, the Galley Position puts all of the depth in the receiving partner's court - and reduces how much movement the penetrating partner can do. By setting the receiving partner at an off-set angle (compared to Cowgirl), this can reduce penetration depth - but still provide all of the sexy visuals that the Reverse Cowgirl position is known for!
Plus, the angle of the Galley Position puts the receiver's penis/clitoris right above the penetrating partner's thigh. If the angles work for you, the receiving partner can grind against the thigh for even more added sensation.
Spice It Up: Want to get a bit kinky? The Galley Position lends itself really well to spanking and impact play. For impromptu fun, use your hands for a bit of spanking - or bring in a few paddles or floggers to make everything seem more "official".
Read: The Ultimate Guide to Spanking and Impact Play
![TV Dinner Position. The receiving partner sits at the very back of a dining chair with their legs spread apart. The penetrating partner straddles the dining chair and snuggles in close to penetrate their partner.]()
Let's get real creative here with the TV Dinner sex position. This intimate, face-to-face sex position removes a lot of the close, hip-on-hip contact because the penetrating partner must straddle a chair. This can help reduce penetration depth - and can even make the sex position inaccessible for those of shorter penis lengths.
As the ability for strong, deep thrusting is removed while straddling a chair, the TV Dinner sex position also encourages smaller micromovements which can help reduce any accidental penetration depth pain.
Spice it Up: Sitting on top of a flat surface means sit-on vibrators can easily come into the picture with the TV Dinner position. Slip the vibrator underneath either partner to easily add additional stimulation - and make everything feel better! Consider the Wild Flower Enby 2, Orion VibePad 2, or Rocks Off Ruby Glow.
![Spider Sex Position. Heterosexual partners are face to face, one sitting, one lying down, with legs wrapped around each other.]()