When we decided to start featuring a new sex blogger each and every month, we were a little worried we'd eventually run out of options. But we just keep running into great blogs - both old and new. As we move into cooler fall temperatures, we're excited to name Venus O'Hara as our Sex Blogger of the Month. Venus plays a cool, sexy professor in her sex toy review videos, but her blog and social media show the real life of a full-time sex blogger. We asked Venus our 10 questions. Here's what she had to say.
Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your blog.
Venus O'Hara: ‘Fetishism,’ ‘sex toys,’ and ‘no filter.’ It began as a photo blog with a fetish glossary, which featured over fifty different kinks. Then I incorporated sex toy reviews into it. I am the sole featured model on my website. It’s my intention to promote a natural body image. There is no filter, no diets, no plastic surgery and no Photoshop[ped images] on my site.
Kinkly: What inspired you to start the blog?
Venus O'Hara: I’d been toying with the idea for a while, but I was concerned about what other people might think. It all started as an innocent weekend hobby when I was working in the export department of a printer in Barcelona. Most of my clients were erotic art publishers in London and Paris. I targeted these sectors specifically as a kind of joke at first. Then, as time progressed, I began to love being around my clients more and more. They tended to be open-minded people who were able to talk at length about sexuality and keep a straight face. I found it extremely refreshing when I compared it to the restrictive Catholic education that I’d received.
I began modelling for one of my clients in London and I enjoyed the experience so much that I organised my own fetish and erotic shoots in Barcelona. I left the printer and started working in luxury real estate instead. I was still a fetish model on the weekends and I began to build my online presence in 2008-2009. It was then - during the financial crisis - that I hit rock bottom in my personal and professional life. There were funerals, zero property sales, and even a rat infestation in my apartment. I gave serious consideration to what might come next and realised that I had nothing to lose. I left my job and venusohara.org was born.
Kinkly: What’s behind the name?
Venus O'Hara: I studied fine arts at university and became obsessed with the image of the red-headed Venus. Her representation was so very different from the accepted model of beauty peddled by mass media - the 'fake everything' look that includes hair, tan, nails, lips, tits, and asses. I related to the more natural Venus so much that I began to think that I might have been born a few centuries too late. My name reflects a combination of the Venus with a surname that invokes a Celtic goddess.
Kinkly: Who’s your target reader?
Venus O'Hara: I don't have a target reader. I'm always grateful that anyone takes the time to read my work. I like to put a smile on people’s faces, turn them on, and make them feel better understood. As far as fetish photography is concerned, I’m only too aware that a lot of people are closeted about their preferred kinks. I often feel like it’s an opportunity and a privilege to open up the mainstream appreciation of fetishistic art and ideas. I adore the idea of someone finding my blog via Google, seeing what I’m doing, and thinking "Wow! Someone understands me." As far as sex toys are concerned, I want to raise orgasmic awareness and educate people as to how to maximize the potential of their toys. I only review toys that I use myself.
Kinkly: What’s unique about your blog?
Venus O'Hara: It’s my objective to represent sexuality as part of a healthy lifestyle, something natural and fun. My mission is to liberate and educate people about sexuality through art, humor, and my own experiences. I use words and images, but never Photoshop.
Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?
Venus O'Hara: I produce sponsored content only. So, the featured topics depend upon the needs of my clients. The next sponsored post that I'm preparing is a review of a couple’s tantric massage session. This is for an erotic massage center located in Barcelona. I will receive a body-to-body massage from a naked woman and then write about the experience. I can’t wait! Most of my posts are sex toy reviews at present.
Kinkly: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it drew so many readers?
Venus O'Hara: My ‘Womanizer’ reviews have been the most popular by far. I guess it comes down to good SEO. It wasn’t intentional as it’s not my favorite sex toy. This is because I have a hidden clitoris. I found that the experience of using the Womanizer was a little too intense for me to be enjoyed on a regular basis. It felt like I was being mugged for an orgasm. Personally, I prefer indirect stimulation from a deep, rumbly, vibrator.
Kinkly: What’s the best thing about writing a sex blog?
Venus O'Hara: The best thing about it is that it’s fun, I’m making a valuable contribution to our world, and I’m encouraging sexual empowerment in general. In my mind, having a clitoris is like having a Ferrari between your thighs. Sadly, many have never found the key to start the ignition. That has to change. I want women to know where their key is, so they can rev up their engines and enjoy their sexual potential. Orgasmic independence can lead to better decision-making in your personal life, and to better self-esteem in general.
I also love being freelance. I'm my own boss. I have a "no-alarm life" and I lead a very healthy lifestyle on the Mediterranean.
Kinkly: What’s the worst thing about it?
Venus O'Hara: The worst aspect is being judged by people who don’t know me. It’s harder to meet people because I find that they’re often intimidated by my profile as a sex toy tester. My vast collection of buzzing objects has also been known to cause impotence in men. Some of them are very wary about ending up as the subject of a future article. There are also some companies that expect me to work for free. I don’t believe in working for free and I don’t think that being paid for a review makes the end result any less authentic. How am I going to change the world if I'm worried about filling my refrigerator or paying my rent? Just because it's fun doesn’t mean that it isn’t real work.
Kinkly: OK, now for the good stuff: Give us your best tip for great sex.
Venus O'Hara: My best tip for great sex would be to have sex with people who really turn you on, sometimes in ways that are not easy to rationalize. The carnal attraction might be emotional, physical, or something else. Having sex should never be a perfunctory "in-out, in-out, shake it all about" experience. Great sex is 90% down to the energy between the people doing it, and 10% technique.