Every month, Kinkly staff takes the time to sift through the sexy blogosphere looking for blogs to promote and share. For October, we're featuring the The Black Pomegranate to help keep you warm during the incoming cold nights! We love The Black Pomegranate because of its inclusive and educating nature - not to mention its kink! Here are Ms. Pomegranate and Mr.BLK's ten answers to our ten questions!
Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your blog.
Black Pomegranate: Kinky, quirky, and inclusive.
Kinkly: What inspired you to start the blog?
Black Pomegranate: Ms. Pomegranate was a successful writer and blogger for several years before turning her attention to sex education and kink. After a couple of years in the public kink scene, she saw that important conversations about consent, relationships, and risk-aware play techniques weren't always available in the community.
Taking matters into her own hands, Ms. Pomegranate began to blog about the sex positive issues that were important to her on Persephone's Bedroom to share her knowledge as a polyamorous BDSM practitioner.
Later, Ms. Pomegranate invited me (Mr.BLK) to blog about BDSM skills like rope and impact play. By this point, Ms. Pomegranate and I had presented sex and kink education classes in the mid-Atlantic region. And that's how Black Pomegranate was born. We combined our knowledge and wrote about the social and sexual issues that we were passionate about.
Kinkly: What's behind the name?
Black Pomegranate: I've been Mr.BLK (pronounced Mister Black) since I entered the public kink scene. Ms. Pomegranate has an amazing pomegranate tattoo and became known as "the lady with the pomegranate tattoo," which is where her name came from. At a kink conference in 2015, we were coming up with ideas for a blog name and realized that black pomegranates are actually a rare fruit. So, that's how the blog name came into existence.
Kinkly: Who's your target reader?
Black Pomegranate: The target reader for our site is a person who is intellectually and sexually curious about the intersection of sex, kink, and BDSM. It's someone who wants to learn about kink skills and community and who also wants inspiration to create their own pleasure and consent-focused sex positive story.
Kinkly: What's unique about your blog?
Black Pomegranate: The Black Pomegranate has its focus on the worlds of BDSM, kink, and leather. So, everything we write about is an organic extension of that. For a good portion of the year, Ms. Pomegranate and I are either teaching or organizing events in various communities. This allows us to reach a lot of diverse people. If we write about body positive rope, it's based on our experience as rope performers. If Ms. Pomegranate writes about inclusion, she's speaking from her experience as a leader and title holder in the leather community. Since there are two people writing on this blog, we have a wide and eclectic range of topics, from sex toys and relationship dynamics to race and gender.
For us, writing about BDSM is an amazing platform that allows us to express ourselves and connect with others.
Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?
Black Pomegranate: Consistently, our most popular posts have been the "Five Myths" series. In it, we debunk popular myths surrounding kink topics like whips and needle play as well as the sexual myths around things like masturbation. For us, writing "Five Myths" posts are our way to demystify sexy things and hopefully make them more approachable for our readers.
Kinkly: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it drew so many readers?
Black Pomegranate: "Five Myths About Rope Suspensions" is our most popular to date. The post dealt with a lot of the misinformation and body shaming which keep far too many people from enjoying the beauty of partial or full rope suspensions. The message of the post, which stressed the importance of body positivity and inclusion, resonated with many of our readers. It continues to serve as an inspiration for our body positive rope classes.
Kinkly: What's the best thing about writing a sex blog?
Black Pomegranate: Being able to give advice to someone who may be reluctant to explore kink only to learn later that our writing helped someone have a safer, consensual and pleasurable BDSM experience. Ms. Pomegranate likes to say "you belong here," meaning there is a place for everyone in sex positive communities. Writing a sex blog is a great way to welcome people in.
Kinkly: What's the worst thing about it?
Black Pomegranate: Since we tend to review a lot of BDSM gear, we like to test a lot of products in authentic play situations and scenes. With kink gear, it can take several uses to develop an opinion about a product. So, it can be a challenge to fit the time in for comprehensive testing into a schedule of travel and teaching. The upside is that the reviews that take longer to produce are often the best ones.
Kinkly: OK, now for the good stuff: Give us your best tip for great sex.
Black Pomegranate: Think (and kink) outside of the box. Don't make sex about achieving a preconceived idea. Instead, center sex on consent, pleasure, accessibility, and communication. There are a multitude of ways to enjoy sex, sexuality, and intimacy as an individual or with partners. Don't limit yourself.