Sex Blogger of the Month: Sherina Nicole of All the F.U.Q.s
Our October Sex Blogger of the Month is Sherina from All the F.U.Q.s (Frequently Unanswered Questions), here are 10 questions with Sherina to help you get to know her and her blog better!
October is one of our favourite months at Kinkly! The leaves start to turn, sweater-weather returns, voting for our Sex Blogging Superheroes list opens, and all you want to do is curl up on the couch with a fuzzy blanket and your favourite vibrator (that's not just us right?).
Considering the whirlwind of a year 2020 has been, we're very excited to announce our Sex Blogger of the Month for October and spread a little happiness into the dark world we currently live in. So without further ado, our Sex Blogger of the Month is Sherina from All the F.U.Q.s (Frequently Unanswered Questions)!
Sherina is a certified sex coach from Brooklyn, New York, and All the F.U.Q.s is aimed at answering all the questions we have about sex, but are too afraid or ashamed to ask. Sherina is helping to normalize talking about sex, and we love it!
To help you get to know Sherina and her blog more, check out these 10 questions with Sherina!
Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your blog.
Sherina: Unapologetic, inquisitive, real.
Kinkly: What inspired you to start the blog?
Sherina: I learned some of the consequences of not learning yourself physically and sexually are chronic and serious. Sex is one the more vulnerable activities we practice with ourselves and with another person. Sex is often a reflection of how we approach life in general. I learned I was approaching my sex life the same way I approached my life in general – for someone else’s pleasure.
This habit was learned and it was breaking me down. I had to teach myself daily that sex could be a form of self love and pleasure by myself and with a partner, but only if we intentionally learn it to be that way. Now as a certified sex coach in Brooklyn, I’m looking to help people and couples do the same thing.
In communities of color, specifically in black culture, sex as self love and pleasure is not celebrated. There are a lot of black men and women not climaxing with orgasms, depending too much on relationships, in boring relationships, and simply not exploring their sexual abilities.
I learned that I wanted and deserved more. We all do.
Kinkly: What’s behind the name?
Sherina: All The Frequently Unanswered Questions is just that! We’ve got so many questions and curiosities around healthy sex, better relationships, masturbation, and our bodies. Sometimes we have the feeling but don’t know the right question or who to ask it to.
Google can’t help us with those!
For communities of color, it is a challenge to feel normal to ask sexual questions or without judgement. Let
All The FUQs is getting all of those questions. For those that want a 1-1 approach, I can help them through sex coaching.
Read: Hiring a Sex Coach Was the Best Thing I Did for My Sex Life
Kinkly: Who’s your target reader?
Sherina: All The F.U.Q.s was started as a black sex blog for black women and men, as well as for communities in color as a whole. We are underrepresented within the sex spaces of power and we deserve so much more.
What is great though, is that there are a lot of sex questions that everyone, of every hue has. All The FUQs covers those too.
Kinkly: What’s unique about your blog?
Sherina: I enjoy talking about situations for individuals as much as I enjoy addressing relationship challenges. Its imperative to enjoy solo sex, but at some point, if your intend to be in a relationship, it is just as important to be able to teach and learn with your partner how you can both enjoy sex, your relationship, and your time together.
My blog focuses on making sex and sexuality a conversation that has on boundaries like gender, sexuality, or relationship status.
Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?
Sherina: Foreplay, masturbation, and sex communication. They are so crucial to amazing sex, but we worry more about memorizing 20 new sex moves.
Sex starts in the mind. If you and your partner(s) are not mentally stimulated, even if you do have sex, I can guarantee it won’t be as stimulating as you want it to be.
Foreplay doesn’t only have to be at the beginning of a sex-capade! Sex is pleasure play – so it is supposed to be fun! Foreplay can be stimulating, encourage stronger orgasms, increase the number of orgasms, help with your mental and physical health, aid in sleep, and it feels damn good!
Masturbation is the introduction to sex for most of us and it is our way of first pleasuring ourselves. It is very important.