Since the season of roses and heart-shaped everything has finally come to end, we can now focus on more important things: Sex blogging! Our Sex Blogger of the Month for February is Lexi of Off the Cuffs!
You may know Off the Cuffs from their weekly podcast, but their blog is a fantastic place to head to for sex toys reviews, and insightful and adventurous conversations about BDSM and kink. Off the Cuffs was also chosen as one of our top Readers' Choice and top Sex Toy Review Blogs of 2019 in our Sex Blogging Superheroes list!
Here are 10 questions with Lexi to help you get to know Off the Cuffs better!
Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your blog.
Lexi: Funny, informative and honest.
Kinkly: What inspired you to start the blog?
Lexi: I had been working for the Off the Cuffs podcast for a while and last summer we decided to revamp our website. I had suggested to Dick, the host of the show and my partner, that we start a blog as part of the site. He was already really busy working on the podcast so he said if I thought it was a good idea, I should run it. So I did!
Kinkly: What’s behind the name?
Lexi: It’s sort of a chicken or the egg situation, because the blog is an offshoot of Off the Cuffs, a Kink and BDSM Podcast. It just took on the same name.
Kinkly: Who’s your target reader?
Lexi: Anyone with an interest in learning more about sex toys and/or kink. The podcast covers more about kink and the blog is a more of a broad sex-ed platform, focusing on sex toys, something a lot of every day people still have trouble talking or asking questions about.
Kinkly: What’s unique about your blog?
Lexi: I think it’s unique because we write about everything with the lens of kink and BDSM, even when we are talking about standard sex toys. Everything can be perverted by us and that makes it fun.
Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?
Lexi: The majority of our posts have been product reviews so far, but I find that in most posts I like to talk about the kinky things you can do with them. In the near future, I want to start doing more posts about accessible toys as my partner is disabled and I am always looking for things that will make our sex lives easier and more fun.
Kinkly: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it drew so many readers?
Lexi: We recently published a post by Off the Cuff’s co-host 'minimus maximus' about being autistic and how that affects the way he engages in BDSM. The post had both the most views and most engagement, because a lot of people found it very relatable and hadn’t read anything like it that could articulate how they felt about their own relationship to kink.
Kinkly: What’s the best thing about writing a sex blog?
Lexi: Getting to try the cutting edge of pleasure technology to see if it’s actually good and helping people make informed decisions about what to get. I love it when my friends come to me asking for help picking out a new toy.
Kinkly: What’s the worst thing about it?
Lexi: Time management. I have a list of posts I need to write and people I have to email and all that, and just teaching myself how to be disciplined enough to get it all done!
Kinkly: OK, now for the good stuff: Give us your best tip for great sex.
Lexi: The same thing that probably any other sex blogger or educator would give you: good communication. It may feel like everyone says it, but that should go to show how important it is. The reason it’s such broad advice is because everyone communicates differently and everyone wants different things, and figuring out what those things are is going to help you to have a more fulfilling sex life.