Sex Blogger of the Month: Crazy Heart of The People of Kink Podcast

As part of our Sex Blogger Directory project, we feature a new sex blogger each and every month. This month, we decided to break out and do something a little different than a standard blog and feature something for people who love aural pleasures. So, this month we are featuring Crazy Heart from The People of Kink Podcast. We love this podcast because it provides amazing, sex positive information about the BDSM lifestyle. Read on to find out how Crazy Heart answered Kinkly's 10 Blogger of the Month questions!

Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your podcast.

Crazy Heart: Kinksters, stories, and education.

Kinkly: What inspired you to start the podcast?

Crazy Heart: I had been in the BDSM lifestyle for a number of years and really did nothing to help or contribute to my community. I attended parties and munches, but I never volunteered at all. About three years ago I started to see that the people around me were tirelessly working to help. I began to realize that I need to start doing something. I thought about doing workshops, but that seemed a bit out of reach and required more time than I had available. When I finally came to the idea of doing a podcast, I had to come up with a focus. There are plenty of “how to” podcasts out there. I knew that I learned from hands on experience or by listening to the experiences of others. I also felt like all the fun I have in the lifestyle would never be known. No one would ever know who Crazy Heart was. So, the idea was born to tell people’s kinky history from their earliest memory of kink to the present day. What we are doing is building a tapestry of kink in our times. We have helped so many people now. It’s amazing.

Kinkly: What's behind the name?

Crazy Heart: That is a fairly easy question. The podcast is not about me. It’s about the people that are involved in my lifestyle. The People of Kink.

Kinkly: Who's your target listener?

Crazy Heart: We really don’t have a target listener. I hear from people all of the time. Some are new to the lifestyle and some are seasoned veterans. All of them have told me that they have learned something from so many episodes. Also, the podcast is entertaining and funny. There is something there for everyone.

Kinkly: What's unique about your podcast?

Crazy Heart: I think the fact that we are not subject based. I will never run out of people to interview. We are listened to in over 130 countries around the world. There are over 3 million people on FetLife alone. No matter who the person is or where they come from, each of their journeys is different. I could talk to 10 people in one city day after day and every story would be vastly different with some things that are similar. We also are not hemmed in by one subject like rope or swinging or any of the thousands of things that happen in the BDSM lifestyle. We can talk about anyone and anything as long as their story is tied to kink.

Kinkly: What is the topic that you find yourself covering most often and why?

Crazy Heart: I ask only one question for sure on each podcast. “What is your earliest memory of kink?” The question resets their mind to the beginning. I think it’s an important question because it shows people that we all started off in very similar ways. Often, the answers revolve around seeing someone get tied up in a movie or television scene. Several people found out information from their parents' porn stash. Lots of people tied each other up while playing as a child. Most of this stuff was not considered kinky in the least. It’s taking a look back that gives people that “Ah ha!” moment on what may have flicked the switch so many years ago.

Kinkly: What was your most popular interview ever? Why do you think it drew so many listeners?

Crazy Heart: It’s hard to pin down what my most popular interview ever was. It ebbs and flows with the people that I do interview. I can say for the longest time that the most popular interview would be Princess Rayne. This was a two-part interview that had me laughing and crying. She is a friend of mine and I had no idea that her journey had been so tough. She made many mistakes in the beginning and dealt with some really tough real life situations, too. What I do know is that I never saw her the same way again. I saw her in a completely new light that made me see her as a person who had all of this bad crap happen. Yet, she came out the other side as a very good person. I think everyone knows someone like this in their life. It was relatable and real. Princess Rayne is the reason why The People of Kink is so important. There was so much to learn from her story. There was a lot of sad, but also a whole lot of happy. It was simply incredible.

Kinkly: What's the best thing about recording a sex related podcast?

Crazy Heart: I think the absolute best part of recording the podcast that it has become my passion and part of who I am now. It has connected me to my community and it has fired up my desire to do service in my community to help out in any way that I can. It has led me to stretch my comfort zone to become a presenter and to be able to stand up in front of a room full of people and smile and talk. I have never felt more alive in my life. It is everything to me and I cannot imagine my life without The People of Kink.

Kinkly: What's the worst thing about it?

Crazy Heart: There is not anything really bad about it. If I had to pick one thing I think it would be that it tends to separate me from people. They want to prop me up as a community leader and that’s not what I really want. I think that it’s natural for people to do this. People generally look to leaders to guide them. I don’t think that’s my job. My job is to do the best that I can and help out when I can. I do my best to portray myself as equal to them because I am.

Kinkly: OK, now for the good stuff: Give us your best tip for great sex.

Crazy Heart: I’ve been pretty lucky to have done some wild and crazy things in my sex life. At times, it just seems “normal” to accept when people try and compare it to someone who is not kinky. What I have learned during play and sex is that I need to be deeply connected to that person. You have to take the time to get to know them in as many ways as you can. That takes time and care. You have to talk to each other and be very honest. You can’t be afraid to say what you want and need. Once you get to the sex, you need to go slow and steady and build it up. Don’t be scared to say “dirty” things to each other. Most of all, let things go in a natural way. It’s like a dance. You can’t plan out a dance when you're dancing. You just go with the flow, turning when you need to turn. Sex and play are exactly the same. Be natural and go with the flow. Don’t fight it and don’t try to force it. Just let it be.