There’s a whole lot of misinformation out there about squirting. Research is scant (hello, medical research gender bias!), and there’s still a lot of debate on the difference between squirting and female ejaculation. It’s super easy for some women to open the floodgates, while others just ... can’t. Fortunately as understanding – and interest – in the female body increases, people are taking a closer look at this hotly contested topic.

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It’s important to keep in mind that although squirting is a lovely sexual phenomenon, it’s by no means superior to any other type of orgasm, despite every unrealistic message porn has taught us. Plus, orgasm should never be the greatest achievement of any carnal encounter anyway. If it happens, fantastic. If it doesn’t, fine. There’s way too much pressure on making the Big O happen.

I like to think of squirting as an experience to be enjoyed if and when it happens, versus a results-based goal. I’ve met women who are deeply ashamed because they do squirt, as well as plenty of women who feel less-than because they can’t. Plus, many men still hold the belief that if they can’t make a woman squirt, then maybe they aren’t good enough in bed. That simply isn’t true.

The takeaway? There are a whole lot of unknowns surrounding squirting and just because someone can't squirt, does not mean that person does not enjoy sex. But if you’re curious about squirting, before you go chasing waterfalls, you may want to test your below-the-belt knowledge.