Attraction Varies for Everyone
Like with any partner, the reasons for attraction vary from person to person. Age was never a driving force for me. I have a high sex drive which makes 30-somethings a much better match for me as far as stamina is concerned. Their refractory period is usually shorter. Seriously, few things are hotter than a guy who is ready to go another round.
Younger guys are active, open minded and appreciate my life and my sexual experience. They tend to be established in their careers - enough so that they aren't intimidated by my success. Ditto for ambition. I'm confident and focused. I know exactly what I want out of life.
I've met many men my age (and older) who feel freaked out by strong, fiercely independent women. I don't need a Prince Charming. I need someone who is kind, playful and who can fuck like a beast. In most cases, I forget about the age gap. It feels like we're true equals. I've found that younger men tend to have their lives in far better order than men who are older. Without fail, they also have far less baggage. Some of my most mature relationships took place with men younger than me.
It's Not About Validation
I don't need a younger man to validate me ... or any man for that matter. I'm more than comfortable in my own skin. The fact that I unapologetically enjoy the company of younger men doesn't warrant criticism or commentary. It's not all that scandalous. If the tables were turned, few people would give it a second thought.
French President Emmanuel Macron, whose wife, Brigitte, is 25 years his senior, pointed out: "If I had been 20 years older than my wife, nobody would have thought for a single second that [we] couldn't be legitimately together."
These scenarios may not fit into society's so-called perception of "normal." Screw that. As long as a relationship is consensual, legal and you're happy, who cares what people think? Just, please: don't call me a cougar.