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How to Use a Magic Wand: Secrets from the Sexperts

Published: OCTOBER 28, 2023 | Updated: NOVEMBER 14, 2023
Looking for some creative way to use this old standard? We had a few experts weigh in.

We like to call the Magic Wand the grandmama of sex toys. It's been around forever. It's no-nonsense and doesn't mess around. Figuring out how to use a Magic Wand doesn't require reading a huge manual and watching several tutorials. There's a reason it's a classic that's beloved by sexperts and amateur enthusiasts alike!


While we at Kinkly love sextech innovations like long-distance capability and patterns that sync to your playlist or link to your favorite adult content, there is something downright blissful about a toy that provides major pleasure at the press of a button.

There are no "rules" on how to use a Magic Wand. The straightforward design lends itself really well to a plethora of creative uses. We approached a handful of our favorite sex educators and experts about using a Magic Wand and we think these ideas are seriously buzz-worthy.

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A Classic Favorite

Remi Newman Headshot

The Magic Wand was my first sex toy. I was 19 years old. It was loud and powerful - often too powerful, so I would use it over my underwear or the sheet, to provide a barrier between my excitable clitoris and the deep and fast forceful rumbling machine. And the noise, I would wrap both myself and my commanding companion in the covers to stifle the mighty roar of the wand, so as not to alert or alarm nosy roommates.

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That thing lasted me 20 years. I always left it plugged in next to the bed and, as I moved from city to city, apartment to apartment, I brought my faithful Magic Wand. The only reason I had to retire it was that the cat chewed the cord. I should have seen it coming. Should have noticed kitty taking an interest, thinking this was a new toy.

That thing lasted me 20 years. I always left it plugged in next to the bed and, as I moved from city to city, apartment to apartment, I brought my faithful Magic Wand.

By this time, there were new versions out. I upgraded and my new wand came with me on my journey as a sex educator. I would tell class participants it has two speeds: powerful and super powerful and if you’re looking for reliability and durability, the Magic Wand is it. Just keep the kitties away from the charging cord.


~Remi Newman, MA, sexuality educator

Hits the Internal Clit

Suzannah Weiss Headhsot

Hold the wand over your inner labia, right below your clitoris, without making direct contact with the clit. This stimulates the inner clitoris - the invisible part that extends inside the body. It may be possible to get to orgasm with this type of stimulation alone, and it may feel like a deeper, fuller, or just different kind of orgasm.


~Suzannah Weiss, certified sexologist, sex educator, and sex/love coach

Image of the female anatomy from the outside, including the clitoris, vaginal opening, urethral opening,

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It's For People With Penises Too

Laura Rose Halliday headhsot

The Magic Wand has been a staple of my sex toy collection for years. And with the various attachments, it’s truly a versatile toy for both individual and partnered play.

In fact, if I want to get my partner in on the action, the Magic Wand is my go to!

For most men, the Magic Wand is way too intense to apply directly to the penis head. If you run it along the underside of the penis, though, it delivers waves of pleasure without too much intensity.

I just have my partner lie back, and I begin right above the testicles. This way the vibrations travel throughout the perineum too. I then slowly run it up the underside of the penis, and sometimes I double back if there’s a spot he seemed to particularly enjoy.

With the right attachments, I can even use the Magic Wand internally on myself OR my partner.

Squirting is… kind of my thing. With the G Tip or Curved Blue attachment, I can use the Magic Wand to bring me to a squirting finish over and over and over again.

You can also use the Magic Wand on your male partner to target the prostate, also known as the P-spot. The level of pleasure this can bring to your partner is out of this world. After all, they call it the male G-spot for a reason. Soon, he’ll be begging you to get your Magic Wand out for play time.

~Laura Rose Halliday, founder of School of Squirt

Don't Forget Partner Play!

stylized headshot Ally Iseman

I love recommending to my clients a few different options when using the Magic Wand with a partner - it can be pressed externally against the anal region or taint for some added stimulation during vaginal penetration or against the lower abdomen to increase internal mutual stimulation on the G-spot and penis. Partners can also use it for a proper massage, complete with happy ending! The wand can also be placed against the base of the penis on a low setting during oral or vaginal penetration for some added vibrations for all to enjoy.

Since I work with individuals and couples interested in non-monogamy, I also like to include group play options like a wand train or having two partners pressing their genital or anal areas against the same wand together simultaneously while a third manipulates the settings.

~Ally Iseman, sexual wellness guide for couples and individuals interested in non-monogamy and leadership board member for The Play.

Sex Toy Mounts for the Magic Wand

Wand massagers have been a cornerstone of my pleasure for years now, but using a sex toy mount with my Magic Wand made me fall in love with its powerful vibrations all over again.

I can just lazily stuff it into my Liberator Axis, and the foam shape does all of the hard work of holding the vibrator in place for me. It has pretty much changed doggy style sex for me, overnight. Not only do I get hands-free clit vibrations from the Axis holding the Wand in place, but it supports all of my body weight too.

And we've had just as much success with pegging too! A penis pressed up against the Magic Wand in the Axis leads to a fast orgasm - especially with some of our favorite pegging dildos.

~Mistress Kay,

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Introducing the Magic Wand Micro

Any day's a good day to celebrate the Magic Wand, but this month Vibratex, the makers of Magic Wand, have just launched the Magic Wand Micro, a tiny, adorable version of the Magic Wand you can carry in your pocket. This mini vibe packs a punch, is fully rechargeable and can be used for three hours on one charge. For a limited time, get $20 off your Magic Wand Micro and a collectible pin from Magic Wand!

Magic Wand comparison chart showing the magic wand original, magic wand plus, magic wand rechargeable and magic wand mini

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