3. Look for and Play With All Kinds of Inspirations
Our familiar fantasies are fine and dandy, and more times than not get the job done to excite us, but sometimes they just feel kind of stale: the same activities, characters, situations over and over again.Yawn!
Livening them up, though, can be quite simple. To begin with, allow yourself to creative play with the world around you.
No, I’m not particularly talking about imaging your boss taking part in a balls-to-the-wall bondage and discipline themed orgy session (shudder) because that can sometimes lead to weird and distracting feelings afterward, but instead to have fun with things like your choice in media.
Like a particular book, movie, book, show … whatever? Then try to picture a character, or characters, in them frolicking in all kinds of erotic ways. But not just any frolicking, mind you, but rather push your imagination by making them be true to their character by asking yourself questions like:
“-—would Tony Stark be a top or a bottom?”
“—would Mrs. Maisel act this way or that way in bed?”
If the result is really hot for you, then you might even want to try your hand at writing it up as erotic fan fiction. Not to send anywhere but just as a way of using the act of putting pen to paper, or words on a screen and so give your imagination a different voice.
Read: How Writing Erotica Helped Me Overcome Low Libido
4. Indulge in Erotic Entertainment
Another great way to get your erotic imagination all hot and bothered is to try sampling erotic media you previously haven’t considered checking out.
For example, try spending some quality time with vintage videos (from the age before silicone), hentai and/or manga, kinky films, queer/bi/straight—whatever orientation you aren’t at the moment—content, explicit trans media, or even (gasp!) pick up a steamy erotic novel. For the last, if you want some hints as to some good ones I can make some personal recommendations (wink, wink).
As with many things in life you don’t know what you might like until you give it a shot, so do the same with adult entertainment. While some of them might have you scratching your head, or even eliciting a bored yawn, others might open doors to all kinds of new erotic fantasies, which then might lead to activities you might even want to try out.
Read: One-Handed Reading: 5 Reasons to Read Erotica
5. Imaginative Exercise and Erotic Self-Knowledge
Remember that your imagination is like a muscle: the more you use it, play with it, the stronger and easier to use it will get. So let it out whenever you can and see where it takes you.
Yes, sometimes it can get weird, especially around sex, but this is also how you can get sometimes down into aspects of your sexuality you might not consciously have known about yourself.
Again, this doesn’t mean you’re A, B, or C because you find the thought of certain erotic activities to be a turn on, but if you do find yourself coming back to some things more often than others it might be worth doing some self-exploration, and deep thoughts, about them.
If you do find yourself being concerned, by all means, seek out professional help if anything to give you someone to talk to about them and what you might be feeling about them.
Again, fantasies are just that and because you might have erotic thoughts about doing something it doesn’t mean you actually want to make them happen in the real world.
But if you do find yourself becoming inspired, please take some time to look into what this reality might actually involve, should you want to go down that path. Your erotic imagination, after all, might end up becoming rich, wildly detailed, and extremely alluring but there are just some things that can’t, or should never happen in reality.
However, there still could be ways to take parts of your newly awoken erotic imagination to try out but, again, it only should be considered after spending a considerable amount of time understanding what this might actually involve.
Read: What It Means If You Fantasize During Sex
6. Free Your Mind
Your brain—your mind, to be more exact—is truly is your greatest sex organ and by having fun with ideas like these plus many others you can absolutely strengthen your erotic imagination, and so bring even greater heat to your already hot sex life.
Not only that but by doing so you might also find entirely new aspects to your sexuality, ones that could open brand new vistas to consider and even actively explore … should you desire to, of course.
Your imagination, after all, knows no limit and by using it to fantasize about sex you might very well develop close-to-limitless erotic possibilities.