Let's talk about orgasms. Not just one orgasm - but multiple orgasms. A common buzzword in the world of sex, "multiple orgasms" or "multi-orgasmic" are probably things you've heard about before.
But what are multiple orgasms - and how can you select a sex toy to help you experience them?
Just like it sounds, multiple orgasms are just, well... that! "Multiple orgasms" is defined by having multiple orgasms within a single sexual session. What multiple orgasms looks like to you is going to be just as unique as your body is.
Some people are able to experience orgasm-after-orgasm, mere seconds after each other, with continued stimulation. Other people need minutes (or even a half an hour!) between their multiple orgasms to allow the body to "come down" from their last orgasm a bit before ramping into the next one. Some people's multiple orgasms might include squirting or ejaculation - while non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms are also a fit for other people. Like most things in sex, every body is different - and everybody enjoys orgasms differently too!
The defining characteristic of "multiple orgasms" is just that it needs to happen within a single sexual "session". This means that the body doesn't become fully unaroused or go into its natural refractory period. As long as you're keeping that arousal up, you can be having multiple orgasms hours later! (Though we're not sure we'd recommend that. It sounds amazing - but exhausting!)
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While you can try to undertake this process with a partner, we highly recommend making this a solo venture. Having a partner involved can make you feel rushed, or even when your partner has the best of intentions, they may stop stimulation right before a critical moment - if only because their hands are beyond tired. Once you start to make headway in your multiple orgasm adventure, you can always invite them in!
So, let's get started with how to have multiple orgasms:
An important key to achieving multiple orgasms is great, extended foreplay. In fact, a lot of people find it near-impossible to enjoy multiple orgasms without great foreplay beforehand. Engage in fantasies, pursue your favorite arousal triggers, and lavish the experience. Slowly build yourself up to the strong arousal we need for the next phase. Masturbate, fantasize, watch videos, read, or whatever you tend to do to get yourself into a very aroused state.
If you have a favorite sex toy, now is the time to pull it out! Don't have a favourite? May we recommend the LELO SONA 2 Cruise? This dreamy vibrator uses sonic waves that stimulate deep into the clitoris. It's the perfect tool for vulva-owners looking to ride the multiple orgasm wave.
Like we said, strong arousal is really important for delving into multiple orgasms. After all, you want to start from the peak of arousal before attempting to "ride the waves" of orgasm after orgasm. Whatever your strongest point of arousal is, we recommend you start there before hitting your first orgasm.
Orgasm number one, here we come!
This is the most vital part of having multiple orgasms. If you have a single orgasm and stop stimulation, your body will naturally start to wind itself down. If you're hoping to experience additional orgasms, you need to ensure that you continue the sexual touching and stimulation.
That being said, a lot of people find stimulation after orgasm to feel too intense - especially with direct stimulation to the penis or the clitoris. If that's the case, try to move the stimulation to a less-sensitive spot. Consider rubbing broad circles around the entire vulva or playing with the testicles or inner thighs.
Broad vibrators, like the LELO GIGI 2, can work fantastically for going from targeted stimulation to broad wide-area stimulation. Give your body a couple of minutes to recover from the post-orgasm severe sensitivity - and then you can dive back into the stimulation!
Once you're back to stimulation, your body might naturally crawl back to the point of orgasm. If it does, that's awesome! If you're not feeling it, that's okay too! We highly recommend continuing a high level of mental arousal as you try this process too.
Whatever you normally use to facilitate arousal, we suggest you stick with it. Find your favorite porn videos. Enjoy your favorite fantasies. Target your most-pleasurable spots. This is the time to ensure your brain stays focused on luxuriously sensual sex to build you back into another orgasm.
The build-up may lead to another orgasm. If so, yay! Feel free to rinse and repeat as much as you'd like. If not, see some of our additional tips below.
Keep in mind, if you're still new to attempting to try multiple orgasms (instead of just leaving it as a single orgasm!), your body might take awhile to figure out what's going on. Humans are extremely adaptive - including with sexual activity. So if you're body is used to "orgasm then nap-time", it might take a bit to train it otherwise. Don't become frustrated as you slowly start your journey.
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You could try to use any old sex toy you have lying around for your multiple-orgasm journey, but we always recommend a bit of care when selecting a toy for this type of play. Having multiple orgasms takes a lot of reliable stimulation, a longer timeframe than just one orgasm, and the ability to switch intensities on the fly.
Here are some tips we recommend for sex toys for multiple orgasms.
Your ideal sex toy for multiple orgasms should reliably get you to orgasm. (Makes sense, right?) Whatever that toy looks like will depend on your personal preferences.
Is it a g-spot vibrator like the LELO MONA 2? Is it a vibrating sleeve like the LELO F1s? Just make sure the toy you choose can reliably - and somewhat easily - get you to orgasm.
Ideally, you also want a sex toy that offers incremental sensation. This means you can ramp it up to achieve that orgasm - but then take it down to a lower intensity right after orgasm as you build into another orgasm. Luckily, most modern sex toys are built with multiple speeds or intensities.
Need help picking one out? All LELO vibrating and moving sex toys offer multiple levels of stimulation. Before you dive into pleasure, make sure you learn how to easily control those levels of intensity too! There's nothing more frustrating than being unable to control your toy in those pivotal movements!
On the other hand, a sex toy that's TOO powerful might not be a good fit either. If you can orgasm within seconds of touching the toy, you're going to find yourself overstimulated (and probably really uncomfortable!) as you try to wring more orgasms from your body. Finding a toy that's extremely pleasurable on its highest setting while teasingly erotic on its lowest is the happy medium we're going for.
Depending on how long your masturbatory session might take, battery life can quickly become an issue. A toy with a 20-minute battery life might not be a great fit for a long, extended, multiple-orgasm session - and there's nothing more frustrating than a vibrator that dies right before your next powerful orgasm.
We recommend finding a vibrator with at least an hour's charge (LELO toys all go an hour or longer!) to ensure that your drawn-out session isn't interrupted with a dead battery. Don't forget to charge your vibrator to full before starting your session!
Does your body squirt? Are you concerned about accidentally squirting - and potentially ruining a sex toy? This type of anxious thinking is only going to get in the way of your pleasure journey. With a whole world of waterproof sex toys out there, you don't need to worry about such things. Just make sure your sex toy can handle any liquid output.
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After trying the above steps with a multi-orgasmic vibrator, are you finding some difficulty in achieving multiple orgasms? First off, it's a-okay if your body doesn't "do" multiple orgasms. There's nothing wrong with you. Every body isn't programmed the same. If your body doesn't fall into multi-orgasmic ways, don't take it out on yourself.
As a lot of mainstream media touts "multiple orgasms" as the highest level of achievement, we know it can be hard, but your body is unique in its own ways, and for some people, multiple orgasms aren't in the cards - or are just plain unpleasant if you can achieve them.
However, sometimes your body IS capable - but it needs to work past your pre-trained masturbation methods into something that works best for you.
While it seems unnecessary, having some self-exploration - especially of the sexual kind - can really help with achieving multiple orgasms. Turns out, our brains are an integral part of the multi-orgasmic process. If your brain is worried about time, concerned that it won't be able to do it, or so solely focused on achieving another orgasm that you aren't able to enjoy the sensations, you can literally "orgasm block" yourself. That's no fun!
Instead, we recommend practicing patient self-exploration instead of making multiple-orgasms the goal. Explore your body. Find new spots. After you orgasm, if you feel like continuing, see what happens if you keep touching. We know it sounds counter-intuitive, but don't make the focus of your session on achieving multiple orgasms; it can actually work against you.
We know that we recommended sticking to "tried and true" methods before, but if you find that the "tried and true" methods aren't reliably providing the multiple orgasms you're looking for, you might need to branch out. Some people find that some unexplored types of stimulation provide just the type of pleasure they needed to really "push themselves" into new ranges of orgasm.
Some people especially find that deep penetration (or quick, targeted thrusts) might help push their body into multiple orgasms. A targeted, automated g-spot toy, like the LELO MONA Wave, or p-spot toy, like the LELO LOKI Wave, can be fantastic options to explore.
When approaching climax, a lot of us tense up and even forget to breathe! Some Tantric practitioners, teaching multi-orgasmic bliss, highly recommend focusing on breath and relaxation throughout your orgasm - and the stimulation afterwards. Next time you masturbate, pay attention to what brings the waves of pleasure throughout your body as you enjoy it. You'll notice that it likely lines up with tensing and releasing of the pelvic floor muscles. This is absolutely normal!
If your body is already tensed up (from attempting to achieve multiple orgasms or just from continued pleasure), it doesn't allow your body to "tense up and release" any further. For a lot of people, this muscle movement is a vital part of the process. So while it sounds counter-intuitive (yet again!), we recommend breathing, relaxing, and focusing on keeping your body relaxed to allow the orgasmic process to take hold all over again.
Want more advice on how to achieve multiple orgasms? Check out LELO's Guide on Multiple Orgasms!
While multiple orgasms can be amazing and some people swear by them, we, again, want to reiterate how important it is to be okay with not having multiple orgasms. Some people's bodies weren't designed that way - and some people just don't enjoy it. There's a mainstream cultural focus on multiple orgasms being the "pinnacle" of sexual experience - especially for people with vaginas - and we think it needs to stop. However your pleasure happens - with an orgasm, no orgasm, or lots of orgasms - it's still your pleasure, and that's what we need to focus on. Your pleasure is unique to you - and that's what makes sex so amazing.
So get out there, keep masturbating, and make us proud by enjoying whatever form your pleasure takes!
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Mistress Kay has a fondness for all things sexual. With a house that's quickly running out of room for all of her reading and vibrating pleasures, she spends her free time reading, writing, and learning about the sexual universe with her partners. She can be reached at Kinky World.
