Heat it Up or Keep Your Cool: 5 Fabulous Ways to Explore Temperature Play

If you live in a climate where winter months mean ice and snow and the inclination to hibernate in front of a cozy fire, adding a bit of extra warmth to your sex play is probably going to sound pretty good right about now.

Of course, summer temperatures can drive even the most aroused among us to avoiding intimate body contact with our partners. After all, you're already sweating just from sitting on the couch - having sex is just going to make it worse. These are the times to use the heat to your advantage and select sex toys that will cool you both down as things start to heat up.

The joy of temperature play is that you can incorporate cool sensations to help keep you from bursting into flames when it's hot, AND warm things up when it is snowing and blowing outside. It isn't hard to see why a lot of people enjoy spicing things up with this orgasmic addition to their sex lives.

Finding ways to incorporate temperature play into the bedroom doesn't have to be difficult; in fact, you may already have toys in your home that can be warmed or chilled. Even if you don't own any sex toys, a quick look around the house might prove profitable for your sexual adventure. Get creative - and heat things up (or stay cool!) - with these tips.

Lubricant

One of the simplest ways to begin your experimentation with temperature play is through your lubricant. Most lubricant comes in a water-friendly bottle. Now, just fill up a tall glass with ice cold or extremely hot water. (Avoid boiling temperature!)

Now, drop your sealed lubricant bottle right into this tall glass of water! As the bottle sits in the water, the lube will begin to take on the temperature of its surroundings: i.e. the water. For the smoothest experience and just in case your bottle has a leak you don't know about, I recommend ensuring the water level in the glass hits below the lid and cap of your bottle. Watering down your sex lube is not the goal here!

Now, when you remove the bottle of lube, you'll have a few pours from it at its new, temperature-changed feel.

(Protip: You can use this method for massage oils too!)

If you prefer to go the chemical route for lubed temperature play, there are now quite a few sex lubes that include warming or chilling ingredients. Menthol, for example, is a common additive to sex lubricants to achieve a cooling effect.

Unlike simply changing the temperature of your familiar lube ingredient formulation, however, some people may be sensitive to the heating/chilled chemicals. This means your body may react too strongly to the ingredients - or it may cause a burning in your sensitive bits instead of the refreshing temperature change you were expecting.

I always recommend doing a spot test on your wrist before playing with a new temperature play lubricant, and even then, the effects on your wrist will not directly translate to how soft, mucous membranes may react to the lubricant.

At the same time, chemically-inducing temperature play has a much longer lifespan than simply warming or chilling the bottle. When you want your temperature play to last the entire scene, this can be a huge bonus.

So, you'll have to weigh your pros and cons about which method works best for your needs.

Hot N Cold Temperature Vibrator

There aren't too many vibrators on the market designed just for temperature play, but we found one for you: the Deia Hot & Cold. This vibrating temperature play toy can either heat or chill - it's entirely up to you! Its long, slender design works great for external temperature play, but it transitions just as effortlessly to penetration as well.

One of the neat things about the Deia Hot & Cold is that it also vibrates. Unlike the temperature sex toys of old (most that have been discontinued at this point!), the Deia Hot & Cold partners its temperature-changing abilities with 10 vibration settings. So, you can have the temperature you want - with the pleasurable vibrations that make that temperature play feel even better. Mix and match the temperature settings with the vibration options for 32 different sensations - all in one, single toy.

I also kinda love how the Hot N Cold vibe can transition between uses too. In the winter, when you want warming, it delivers. In the summer, where a hot toy is the last thing you want, it can deliver a refreshing chill. It's a year-round win.

While some sex toys are starting to come out with warming features, they aren't necessarily designed for temperature play. Most warming vibrators are specifically crafted to warm a toy up to body temperature for a welcoming experience when the toy is first picked up. By contrast, a temperature play vibrator, like the Deia Hot N Cold, can chill and heat, and its unique offering is crafted to be swapped up during sex.