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Halloween: When Fetishes Come Out to Play In Public

Published: OCTOBER 30, 2013 | Updated: JANUARY 14, 2022
These costume ideas have kinky potential - and no one needs to know you're going home to play for real.

If you've never been to a swinger party, you'll just have to take my word for it: Swinger Halloween parties are easily the most anticipated parties of the year. This holiday is definitely not just for kids! In fact, I’ve had more fun with Halloween as an adult. Swingers know how to do Halloween. In fact, we sort of do it year-round. For those of you who don't, donning a costume can be the perfect way to let your wild and sexy side out in public. The only difference is that at Halloween, you don't have to feel self-conscious doing it. Want some costume ideas with kinky potential? Here are a few of my favorites.


Costumes for Couples

Dressing up as a couple isn't just fun - it's sexy.

Devil and Angel

You get to decide which one of you is the angelic one and which one plays the devilish role. If you’ll be going to a party where the guests already know your personalities, why not switch it up and let the "naughty" one be an angel for the night. If you simply can’t decide, it might be best to do a mish-mash so that you both end up with elements of each character.


Super Hero and Heroine

Superheroes are strong, smart and sexy! Plus, they wear things like briefs and spandex. Browse online for creative costuming ideas. For males, think Superman, Batman, Spiderman, Aquaman, or the Incredible Hulk. Females get to turn up the sex appeal with characters like Wonder Woman, Electra, Cat Woman or Poison Ivy. Or, if you’re a true comic book geek, why not pay tribute to one of your favorite, lesser known characters?


Rock Stars

Nobody has more sex than rock stars, right? Indulge your rock star fantasies on Halloween. It all starts with the hair, of course, so consider whether you want to splurge on a wig for the biggest effect. Tight jeans, short skirts, and revealing tops are a great start, but don’t forget about accessories: fishnets, bandanas, jewelry, and of course some very sexy shoes. Finish off your look with extravagant, intense eye make-up (for both him and her).



Have you fantasized about leather, whips, and chains? If you haven’t yet had the courage to try out your BDSM fantasies in real life, why not let Halloween be your excuse? It’s a sly way to safely try on a new role - and you can always pretend that it’s "just" a costume. Only you and your partner need to know that you’re going to go home and try it out for real. Leading your date around on a leash can be extremely arousing!

Costume Fun for Foursomes

If you’re going out with friends, why not think about coordinating a group costume? Here are some of the best ones we've seen over the years.

Fred, Wilma, Barney and Betty


These classic Flintstone characters are instantly recognizable with looks that are easy to recreate. Of course, swingers love to mix up the pairings on these couples too.

Gilligan’s Island

Find six of your closest friends and figure out who best fits each character’s personality. Gilligan, Skipper, Mr. and Mrs. Thurston Howell, Ginger, MaryAnn and The Professor. These are easy costumes to pull together from a thrift store and the combinations are endless!


Winter, Spring, Summer, and Fall

I’ve never actually seen this done, but I would love to give it a try! I’m thinking sexy, earthy costume pieces that embrace the mood of each season. Imagine a male autumn warrior with his muscled arms and windblown hair wearing an autumn leaf-inspired loincloth! Or how about a sensual winter ice princess with white eyelashes and silver icicle earrings, wearing a fur-lined bra and panties?

When Accessories Come Out to Play

Halloween might be the one time of year when we can really bring our fetishes out to play in public, but it's also a great time to build up your supply of sexy accessories so you can have fun every month of the year. Think about how you might incorporate some of these items into your playtime: feather boas, fishnet stockings, platform heels, long gloves, fingerless gloves, corsets, short skirts, wigs, handcuffs and whatever else you can think of.

Oh, and when you have random sexy stuff hanging around, you may find that it occasionally comes in handy when a friend needs something for her own Halloween costume. But whenever I offer to share, I always set this simple rule: If I let you borrow my [insert naughty, sexy item here … thigh-high fishnet stockings, animal fur handcuffs, leather chastity belt], just say thank you - and don't ask me why I have it!

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