SEX POSITIONS
Get on Up! The 6 Best Vulva-Owner on Top Sex Positions
Published: AUGUST 11, 2020
| Updated: SEPTEMBER 28, 2021 09:26:54
Climb on up there and enjoy the ride with these, the best vulva-owner on top sex positions!
Most vulva-owners, at one point or another, have embarked on a quest to find the perfect, the best, the most stimulating sex positions.
One position that gets a lot of well-deserved attention for being all that and more is having the vulva-owner being on top of their partner or their favorite plaything.
But did you also know that this position can come in a vast assortment of styles and forms? So many that there’s practically one for every body-type, degree of flexibility and comfort, or physical limitation.
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This all means that although being on top may not immediately be your cup of erotic tea, a few of these on-top positions might just entice you to experiment—and, who knows, maybe even become a sexual favorite in the days, months, or years going forward.
So here of that wide selection are six of our personal favorites. Though, as with anything to do with sex, please feel free to try out others or invent your own variations.
But First, a Word About Positions
No discussion about getting your body into this or that sexual configuration is ever complete without a brief detour to talk about our bodies and the fact that certain positions simply won’t be comfortable, or enjoyable, to get into.
And there’s nothing wrong in that. Evolution has, after all, blessed us with bodies as diverse as our minds and personalities—all of which is what makes us so beautifully, uniquely human.
This means it’s ridiculous to assume that everyone can find sexual satisfaction with every position. What works for you, for example, might be painful for me, or vice versa.
Trying out new sexual activities can lead to discovering new enjoyments, but don't blame yourself or your partner if you can’t bend, twist or fold your bodies into the contortions shown in sex position guides.
Rather, find what works best for you and your partner’s pleasure. Because, when all’s said and done, that should always be the only thing that matters when it comes to sex.
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Let’s get things rolling with a classic on top position: traditionally called the Cowgirl, let's go with "The Cowperson," to recognize that anatomy doesn’t define a person’s gender.
The benefits of this position are multifold. It’s ideal, for instance, if the person on the bottom has mobility concerns, as they basically just have to lay there; though some upward pelvic thrusts can also be a welcome addition.
It also gives the person on top the ability to adjust themselves as they see fit, like rolling their hips forward, side-to-side, or, if they are comfortable doing so, squatting rather than sitting on their partner.
If there’s any real downside to this position it’s that occasionally it can be tricky to keep whatever’s penetrating inside. Again, it’s all up to the people involved but some have found by repositioning the rider’s hips they can find the optimal way to make this often extremely enjoyable position work for everyone involved.
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Though it may first appear that we’re just flipping the sexual-position script, having the person on top face away from their partner can bring its own set of potential pleasures.
Remember how we brought up how cowgirl, the non-reverse variety, that is, can every now-and-again be tricky to stay penetrated? Well, another solution beyond some pelvic readjustments is to turn things around and instead try out this reverse version.
An extra plus is that the person-on-top can rest their hands on their partner’s legs and thighs for extra security and control.
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For those who enjoy kissing or gazing into their partner’s eyes during sex, but also want to be on top, then we recommend trying out the face-to-face.
We won’t lie to you that this one can be a tad on the tricky side to get into and maintain, but we’ve found that making sure the person on the bottom is as comfortable as possible, with good back support or such, can make a world of difference.
For the person on top, meanwhile, this position can be enjoyable as it allows that aforementioned kissing and gazing but they can additionally regulate how deeply they are penetrated and where by using their hips and by lifting themselves, (or pushing themselves down,) using their partner’s shoulders.
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