Erotic Hypnosis and the Hands-Free Orgasm

If you’re feeling curious and want to have a bit of fun, try Googling “hands-free orgasm”. You’ll find a smattering of articles, but within each you’ll find a common theme: the use of erotic hypnosis.

Now, we know you may hear the word “hypnosis” and think, “Well, that’s probably not real, it sounds pretty woo-woo,” but, you’d find yourself surprised if you took your curiosity a bit further and actually delved into this practice. From many accounts, this actually seems to work to provide both greater sexual pleasure and yes, hands-free orgasms.

Are you wondering what the hell erotic hypnosis even is? Not to worry. We asked a professional hypnotist all about erotic hypnosis. This is everything you need to know.

First Things First, What is Erotic Hypnosis?

Erotic hypnosis is the personal or partnered (depending on your preferences) use of hypnotic trance states to have more pleasurable, fun, and exciting sexual experiences. It’s using your mind to create pleasure in the body. After all, we know that the brain is the biggest sex organ we have.

“Hypnosis creates real physical effects using specific suggestions and the power of the mind,” says Amy Marsh, Ed.D., DHS, CH, CI, a sexologist, AASECT-certified sexuality counselor, and professional hypnotist. You’re literally hypnotizing someone into an erotic state with the purpose of dolling out sexual pleasure.

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What Happens When You’re in an Erotically-Focused Trance State?

While you are in a trance state, it is important to emphasize that you are still capable of saying no at anytime. You aren’t, like, a zombie. Consent is sexy, always.

A trance state is defined by how our brain-waves are waving. “Our brain waves are always slowing down or speeding up,” Marsh explains. “When they slow down, we call this a trance state. When they are really, really slow, we call this sleep or unconsciousness.”

In erotic hypnosis, the subject is “coaxed” into the trance state by the person (or YouTube video) that is leading the exercise, slowing their brainwaves and relaxing them. “If a partner is playing the role of ‘hypnotist,’” Marsh says, “[They] usually give the suggestions [of] creating and deepening relaxation, as well as conducting what happens in the hypnotic ‘scene’”.

The scenes are a story, fantasy, or erotic journey on which you embark. These will look different for every person or couple (or group).

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How to Try Erotic Hypnosis

Before you go and “hypnotize” someone (or get hypnotized), look up everything you can on hypnosis before trying it. “Learn basic hypnosis skills and practice them for completely non-erotic purposes first,” Marsh says. “People need to develop confidence as well as skills, and ‘performance anxiety’ about having good ‘hypnotic sex’ will not create relaxation.”

Marsh says that it’s best to go to a professional hypnotist if you’re really serious about trying erotic hypnosis. That being said, there are plenty of online videos to try it alone or with a partner.

Trust is absolutely essential before giving this a try. You and your partner need to have a thorough conversation about the experience you want to have and the boundaries you’d like to set.

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