The scenes are a story, fantasy, or erotic journey on which you embark. These will look different for every person or couple (or group).
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How to Try Erotic Hypnosis
Before you go and “hypnotize” someone (or get hypnotized), look up everything you can on hypnosis before trying it. “Learn basic hypnosis skills and practice them for completely non-erotic purposes first,” Marsh says. “People need to develop confidence as well as skills, and ‘performance anxiety’ about having good ‘hypnotic sex’ will not create relaxation.”
Marsh says that it’s best to go to a professional hypnotist if you’re really serious about trying erotic hypnosis. That being said, there are plenty of online videos to try it alone or with a partner.
Trust is absolutely essential before giving this a try. You and your partner need to have a thorough conversation about the experience you want to have and the boundaries you’d like to set.
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“Know soft and hard limits, boundaries, triggers, and consent issues. Talk about why you want to explore erotic hypnosis, what will make it fun. Talk about what will ruin enjoyment and destroy trust,” Marsh explains.
Write scripts for the scenes you want to explore so that both of you are on the same page. Keep your sessions short so as to not overdo it while you’re becoming more skilled. Everyone should feel safe and comfortable throughout the experience. Be willing to stop anytime someone wants to stop.
Marsh says that it’s key to remember that hypnosis is a learned skill that takes practice. You probably won’t slip into an erotic state the first time you try it. “You need to learn and practice how to create a hypnosis experience for someone and you need to learn and practice how to experience it yourself,” she says.
But Wait, What About the Hands-Free Orgasm Stuff?
You definitely can have an orgasm through your mind alone if you commit to this practice. If you don’t experience orgasm, that’s OK. You can also find yourself experiencing erotic pleasure and relaxation.
“Many erotic hypnotists enjoy creating and experiencing hands-free orgasm through the power of suggestion,” Marsh says.
Throughout the erotic scene, your brain connects to the rest of your body, sending waves of pleasure through you. Just like in physical sexual play, you’re taken through an erotic scene that culminates with orgasm.
It won’t happen with everyone, as every person's body is different, but it’s a practice that can increase sexual excitement. And, if we’re being completely honest, it’s just plain fun.
Additionally, knowing more about erotic hypnosis makes it accessible for everyone. Marsh says that sex educators and sexologists could really benefit in their work with clients by educating themselves on the power of hypnosis in sexuality.
“I don't advocate that we DO erotic hypnosis with our clients ourselves. This would be unethical,” she says. “But without informed sexologists and sex therapists to talk about this as an option, erotic hypnosis stays pretty much in the realm of kinkdom”.
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