What about the Stigma?
Phone sex work isn't for everyone, but it can be a great opportunity for many women (and yes, it's still mostly women). One thing that hasn't changed much, though, is the potential to be judged by family or even friends once they find out the kind of work you do.
Empress mentioned that while her friends have no issues with her work, she hasn't told her mother, even though they have a very open relationship. Her fear isn't that her mom would judge or berate her, but that she might believe the worst stereotypes of what phone sex is and what it involves.
Queen revealed that while those she told about her phone sex work understand that it's just work, it made dating more difficult for her. In her work, she finds that many clients are more lonely than horny (though there's plenty of that too) and thinks people could stand to have more empathy for each other all the way around.
Goddess also experienced relationship issues with this kind of work. Partners can get jealous, even those who initially encouraged their partners to pursue phone sex work.
What Phone Sex Operators Want You to Know
There are plenty of things the average person doesn't know about phone work of this type. Goddess has used this type of work to practice setting boundaries, and used this experience to better manage her real life relationships.
Empress tells us that she encounters people who think phone sex work is sleazy, and done by young women with low self-esteem. They'd likely be surprised to know that phone sex operators are often highly educated, well read women from all walks of life. Other things phone sex ops wish people knew about their work include:
- It's real work. All customer service work is difficult, but phone sex requires next-level people skills.
- Taking this kind of work is not an act of desperation, self-loathing, or "sluttiness." (Not that we think there's anything wrong with being slutty.)
- The erotic fantasies of strangers can be fascinating, unexpected and quite funny.
Perhaps the most surprising thing about phones sex work is not that it's still happening today, but that it's empowering more and more women all the time. Making good money at work that you have control over is one thing, but even just having the freedom to refuse service or to set clear boundaries is more than most customer service workers get to do. Despite society telling women they should be ashamed to be part of the sex industry, technology is helping women find secure work in a lucrative field. That's a win for everyone!
