Kinky

Kinky is typically seen as the opposite of vanilla. However, even people who classify themselves as vanilla may dabble in kinky sex. For example, a vanilla couple might experiment with kinky sex by tying one another up during foreplay. This may seem very tame for members of the BDSM community. However, as it is outside the normal sexual activities of the couple and many others, it is still a form of kinky sex.
While many people wouldn’t consider themselves kinky, they can benefit from exploring kinky sex.

Experimenting with kinky sex is a great way to shake up your sex life and get to know more about what you like and dislike in the bedroom. If you want to try kinky things, talk openly with your intimate partner or partners first. Outline what you hope to do and why and make sure you gain consent before diving in. Remember that consent can be withdrawn at any time, so continue communicating through your experimentation to ensure everyone is comfortable.

Enjoying some kinky sexual practice doesn’t necessarily make someone a kinky person. Similarly, people may self-identify even if they don’t enjoy a wide variety of kinky sexual practices. Individuals can make up their own minds whether the adjective kinky feels right for them.

Some people believe that all people that engage in kinky sexual habits should be considered queer. However, this belief has come under fire from others who believe the term queer should be reserved for LGBTQ+ individuals, not those who are cisgender and heterosexual who engage in sexual habits that fall outside the norm.

While some BDSM activities can be considered kinky, such as experimenting with bondage, humiliation, and flogging, some members of the BDSM community reject the kink label. They note that practicing BDSM involves an exchange of power between the dominant and submissive, which is lacking in kink.