Mistress

Last Updated: May 3, 2017

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Definition - What does Mistress mean?

In a BDSM scene, a mistress is a female dominant, or dominatrix, in a top/bottom relationship. The term is the female version of the term "master," which refers to a male dominant. Consenting male and female submissives may be under the control of a mistress, who will often require that they perform any tasks she requests, including sexual activities. If a submissive is disobedient or does not please a mistress, the submissive may be punished.

Kinkly explains Mistress

In BDSM literature, dominant terms, including "mistress" and "master," are capitalized when written, while submissive terms, like "slave," are not. The same is true when writing a dominant or submissive's given name. This is done out of respect and honor for the dominant.

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