An MMM threesome is group sex involving three people who identify as male. This type of threesome involves male-male sexual activity between some or all of the people involved. It is sometimes called a MMM threeway, a gay threesome, a gay threeway, a male-only threesome, or a male-only threeway.
Who enjoys MMM threesomes?
Like an FFF threesome, which is also a same-sex threesome, MMM threesomes usually involve same-sex attracted participants, including gay or bisexual men. Bisexual men who enjoy MMM threesomes may also enjoy MMF threesomes, which involve two people who identify as male who interact sexually and someone who identifies as female. While it has a similar makeup, this threesome differs from a MFM threesome, where the male-identifying participants only interact sexually with the person who identifies as female.
“People might enjoy MMM threesomes for the thrill of novelty and the excitement of exploring new dynamics in a safe, consensual setting. It's a chance to fulfill fantasies and experience increased physical and sensory stimulation from multiple partners,” added Chris Pleines, a dating expert and founder of DatingScout. “Additionally, it can be about the attraction and chemistry between the participants, which adds to the overall enjoyment. For some, it's also a way to boost confidence and explore different aspects of their sexuality. Like any adventurous aspect of life, it's about stepping into new experiences, finding joy in the unexpected, and learning more about oneself in the process.”
MMM threesomes can also appeal to people with different fetishes or sexual interests. For example, someone with voyeuristic tendencies may like watching other people have sex during a MMM threesome. These threesomes can also appeal to exhibitionists who want to have sex in front of others. Zelophiles, who become aroused by jealousy, may like MMM threesomes because there’s a large chance that they may feel jealous or inspire jealousy in others.
How to Find an MMM Threesome
There is usually no shortage of people advertising their desire for MMM threesomes on queer dating and hookup apps and websites. However, these people may not have the qualities people seeking threesomes look for, such as a commitment to consent and a clean health record, so it's important for people to vet their candidates carefully.
Some people say they have more success if they search for a third with an open-minded partner or friend with benefits. They can then approach people they’re interested in in gay bars or other queer social settings.
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How to Plan a MMM Threesome
While the best MMM threesomes often unfold organically, talking to all participants beforehand can help make the experience more satisfying. It’s a good idea for partners interested in MMM threesomes to talk about their desires privately before bringing a third person into the conversation.
Talking as a couple first helps partners understand one another and their needs without any coercion from a third party. During this chat, partners might talk about their reasons for wanting a threesome, how they imagine this threesome might play out, and their hard and soft limits. They might also reconfirm their commitment to one another to minimize jealousy. A single person might have a similar conversation in their head before entering an MMM threesome so they know what they want and can advocate for it.
Before the threesome, all participants should share their sexual preferences, including whether they are a top, a bottom, or versatile. This conversation helps people figure out the dynamics of their threesome and whether they are compatible. They should also clearly state their boundaries, discuss safe sex practices, and give consent. Talking about the threesome on a date can help participants feel more comfortable with one another and ensure they’ve got good chemistry.
MMM Threesome Positions
The following positions are well suited to MMM threesomes:
- The circle jerk: Three people stand facing one another in a circle and masturbate to try to orgasm together. They may also touch one another’s penises.
- Side-by-side: Lying down side by side, all participants can perform hand jobs and oral sex.
- The daisy chain: Participants arrange themselves in a circle and perform fellatio or analingus on the person to one side while receiving oral stimulation from the person on the other side.
- The twerk train: Three people stand close facing the same direction, so the middle person can top the person in front while bottoming the person behind them.
- The bridge: One person performs fellatio on another person, who performs fellatio on the third.
- Doggy with a bone: A variation on doggy style, two people on all fours have anal sex while the bottom performs fellatio on the third standing in front.
- Man sandwich: One person lies on their back and anally penetrates someone who straddles him, before the third person straddles the second for anal sex.
- Who’s the boss?: A dominant person instructs the other participants to either pleasure him or one another.
- Kneel before the throne: A seated person has one partner sitting on their lap and another kneeling at their feet. The kneeling person may perform fellatio on both seated participants, or the person sitting on the lap may receive fellatio while getting anally penetrated by the person they’re sitting on.
MMM Threesome Safety
Clear and ongoing consent helps people enjoy an MMM threesome safely. It’s important to establish clear boundaries and ensure all parties agree to the threesome. Establishing a safeword and signal can help anyone withdraw their consent if they feel uncomfortable during the threesome.
Using condoms is the best way to avoid transmitting sexually transmitted infections during an MMM threesome. Participants should change condoms whenever they change partners during the threesome. If possible, ensure everyone gets tested beforehand to minimize the risks. Using a lubricant compatible with the condoms can increase pleasure and reduce the risk of anal tears.
Finally, Pleines recommends that people “Be ready for any emotional rollercoasters, maintain everyone's privacy like a secret pact, and stay sober to keep judgments sharp. Lastly, a bit of aftercare, like a gentle landing after an exciting flight, helps wrap things up smoothly.”
