To get into the Handcuffs sex position, the dominant/giving partner stands close behind the submissive/receiving partner. The receiving partner bends over at the waist and puts their hands behind their back, so the partner can hold them at the wrist. We recognize that the actions of standing as the dominant partner and receiving as the submissive partner may be wholly inaccessible to some people as a result of disability or chronic illnesses.
Holding by the wrist (or hand, if that is more comfortable) provides support during thrusting and mimics handcuffs, giving the position its name. The giver is also in total control of their “prisoner” from this point on. From this position, the giver can enter—either vaginally or anally—and thrust as deeply and as rapidly as they like. This position may also be difficult to achieve if the giver is unable to thrust or move their body in a way that facilitates thrusting.
Leaning forwards or backward will change the angle of thrusting, or the giver may stop thrusting entirely as they see fit. While the receiver can say what they like or give instructions, they are really at their partner's mercy.
It’s a good idea to agree on a safe word before having sex in the Handcuffs sex position, so the submissive person can stop the play if it’s painful or not enjoyable. It is also a good idea to talk about access needs, pain levels, and ability levels with both parties before trying this position. Leaning forward for extended periods of time can be really painful for partners with various disabilities, and this could hurt their bodies in the long term.