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Orgasm denial is a kind of sex play that involves maintaining a high level of arousal for an extended period of time without experiencing orgasm. This physical and psychological practice is often used in conjunction with BDSM or dominant/submissive relationships.
Anyone of any gender or orientation can participate in orgasm denial as either the top or bottom. During orgasm denial, the dominant partner will actively bring the submissive partner to the brink of orgasm and then abruptly stop or change stimulation. This can be repeated as many times as the partners desire with orgasm only happening under certain circumstances—or not at all.
Orgasm denial can happen in many different ways including stopping stimulation before the climax can occur, touching other erogenous body parts that stimulate and bring pleasure, but do not result in orgasm, using restraints to limit the submissive’s ability to touch the dominant or themselves and using chastity devices, such as cock cages and chastity belts.
While it may seem contradictory, orgasm denial is actually a method that heightens pleasure through obedience and submission. Pleasure is drawn out over time and becomes the focus, as opposed to orgasm. Continued orgasm denial play can actually result in stronger, more intense orgasms.
Orgasm denial is also known as erotic sexual denial.
Orgasm denial may seem to be focussed on the extended pleasure of the submissive, but it also offers intense pleasure for the dominant. Orgasm denial is an advanced form of power play that offers significant benefits to all players.
While the submissive may not orgasm, the dominant can orgasm as many times as they want, as well as deriving pleasure from tormenting and controlling the submissive. The dominant can add elements of objectification, humiliation and pain to help the submissive diminish orgasmic sensation.
One of the keys to successful orgasm denial play is open and clear communication between everyone involved. Consent is paramount and starts well before the scene or any touching happens. Orgasm denial requires consistent communication to not only ensure the submissive doesn’t inadvertently climax, but also to ensure everyone is still achieving the pleasure they desire.
To avoid undesired orgasm or uncomfortable feelings, a safeword or signal should be agreed upon to ensure play is stopped at the right moment.
Orgasm denial is sometimes confused with edging, but they are somewhat different. The goal of orgasm denial is to, potentially, completely stop an orgasm from happening. Edging, on the other hand, is merely a delay of orgasm. Both acts can last for significant amounts of time and involve similar practices. However, edging is meant to result in orgasm.
While orgasm denial can be used as power play, it can also be used as a training tool for things like increasing tolerance for stimulation, learning how to control orgasms, learning how to orgasm on demand, and learning how to be a more pleasing partner.
The techniques learned can be applied to other sexual experiences and scenes. The dominant can remove stimulation just before orgasm, or possibly squeeze, slap or bite their partner’s clitoris or penis to change the focus of sensation. Each orgasm denial scene can increase the likelihood of increasing sexual sensation in the future.
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