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Kayla Lords

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Professional writer, sex blogger, erotic author, sexual submissive, and kinkster, Kayla writes more than is probably healthy over at A Sexual Being and overshares about the kinky and mundane side of her BDSM relationship. Her mission: to make BDSM, specifically Dominance and submission, less scary, less weird, and much more real and attainable for anyone willing to learn more.

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ARTICLES BY KAYLA LORDS

From a little tap to a burning slap, there's plenty to learn, try and enjoy in the world of impact play. Get the lowdown on spanking, whipping, flogging and more.

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You’re going to love the new Texture Butt Plugs from b-Vibe and Zoe Ligon.

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Bring back the sexy and the spark to your sex life with the Be.One couple vibrator from Fun Factory. Every touch will hold a new surprise and plenty of pleasure.

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Sharing our sexual experiences, in ways that allow us to feel safe and empowered, provides information and insight in a world where the majority of us never learned medically-accurate sex education.

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Are you tired of the same old masturbation stroker? The CalExotics Optimum Power Masturball may be the stroker you didn’t know you needed until now.

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Satisfyer created a truly unique experience for all bodies, alone or partnered, with the Multifun 3 vibrator.

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If other sex toys have failed you in the past, it’s time to try something new. The SONA 2 Cruise from LELO is an excellent way to connect with your body, get the sexual pleasure you crave, and orgasm like never before.

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This toy is more than a sex toy - it can help heal your body from injury or past trauma, making penetration pleasurable again.

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Ever wished you had more hands and more sex toys for your penis during prostate massage, masturbation, or sex with your partner? Simul8 by Nexus is here to solve those problems for you!

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What happens when you add electro-stimulation to a masturbator? All kinds of sensations you've likely never experienced before.

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Curious about giving up control? Here's a guide to help you cater your experience with submission.

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Love power and clitoral stimulation? Surprise! This little finger vibe fits the bill.

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If the first version was so great, why change it? Or asked another way, how did Aneros improve on prostate perfection? They took vibrating pleasure to the next level.

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This upgrade of an already-awesome plug promises to offer whole new levels of pleasure. Get to know b-Vibe's vibrating Snug Plugs!

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Kegels used to be kind of boring, but not anymore. Mystim's new e-stim Geisha Balls line will change your sighs of boredom into screams of pleasure.

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Prostate massage is all the rage. This new option from We-Vibe promises quality design for maximum pleasure.

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I’ve never quite gotten over my shyness, but he’s the Dominant, I’m the submissive and this is our agreement. When he says masturbate, I do.

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If you're interested in anal play, this high-quality, body-safe anal training kit from b-Vibe is like Anal 101.

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Blush's recent Earth Day promotion of Gaia and Eco showcase the first vibrators (that we know of) that really have environmental impact in mind.

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Surprised to think that kinky and vanilla relationships have anything in common? Well, they have more in common than you think!

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While there’s a documented link between good mental health and BDSM, kink can help our mental health too - but it's no substitute for therapy.

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Maybe if we heard more of the positive benefits and spent less time pretending we’re not all wanking away, more of us would be healthier in our sexual activities and views.

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Masturbation is fun if it's just you, but it's even more fun with your partner. Here's why.

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Faking your orgasms? You're not alone. Here's why you should stop faking it.

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Everyone likes to have some staying power. Here's how to improve yours.

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Sub frenzy is a rush experienced by newcomers to BDSM that often means a lack of judgment on the part of the sub. Here are 5 ways that can cause problems.

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A squirting orgasm can be a mind-blowing experience, but it's one that's often misunderstood - and it isn't for everyone. Here's what you need to know

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Are D/s relationships all that different from vanilla relationships? Spoiler alert: no.

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The soft touches from your partner while you have sex. The burn of desire between your legs. Good sexual energy creates sensations. Sensation play takes them to the next level.

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When my partner proposed bondage, I was skeptical. What I learned is that the act of being restrained - in a hogtie with leather cuffs or to the bed while he forces orgasms from my body - is simply another form of submission.

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Bondage requires a certain amount of education before you jump in. So let's start with the very basics: terminology.

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If previous bath-time adventures failed to live up to your sexy expectations, try some of these tips before throwing in the towel.

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During orgasm, the part of our brain that takes care of self-control, fear, and anxiety completely shuts down. But anxiety is still a complex problem.

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Handjobs are vastly underrated sexual acts, and some of us don’t try too terribly hard to get any better at them. We can do better!

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Edged orgasms are a sexy way to play while hitting on multiple kinks!

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Thanks to porn, fantasy-filled erotica, and a lot of our own screwed up ideas about sex, there are plenty of myths out there about kinky sex. It’s time to bust those myths and get back to what really matters: having hot-ass sex.

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Not all D/s relationships are the same. Often DD/lg gets a bad rep. Here's what you should know.

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No matter how you experience them or how rough you like it, forced orgasms are all about pleasure. Learn more about this kinky form of power control here.

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Once we realize that sexual education is a lifelong pursuit, we can move past the awkward questions, fears of what’s “normal,” and faked pleasure to find something deeper and more meaningful - or at the very least more orgasms and better sex.

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My personal road to kinky town started with the first stroke of a fingertip - and my very first orgasm.

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Masochists like all types of pain, right? Wrong! You don't have to like all types of pain to be a masochist.

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You may be surprised at how a BDSM dungeon operates. We go inside and provide a look at what goes on behind closed doors.

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Hardcore kink is great for those who enjoy it, but there's a softer, gentler side to BDSM too.

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What traits do real dominants have in common? Kinkly finds out! Here's a hint - it's not all about sex.

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Ready to talk about kink with your partner? Swallow your fears and get some tips for expressing your kinkiest desires!

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You won't get hairy palms or erectile dysfunction, but there are a few good reasons to evaluate your self-love habits - and whether they have any real-world repercussions.

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No, BDSM isn't abuse. No, not all submissives are women. No, it's not all about sex. BDSM is filled with myths. Learn the facts.

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Interested in BDSM? Want your partner to become your Dominant? Here's how to ask.

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Wanna be tied up? There are lots of fun and interesting options beyond rope. Get some ideas here.

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As with all things kink, there are no real standards when it comes to collars. Collars are different for everyone. Learn more about them here.

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Violence as abuse and the appearance of violence in kink are completely different things. Here's how one feminist came to terms with kink and violence.

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Does using terminology like Daddy or being a little in the world of BDSM mean that someone has an inappropriate interest in children? No. Kinkly tells you what it's really about.

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A new word has debuted for female masturbation - klittra. Opinions are mixed on whether we need a word for it. All that really matters is we're talking about female masturbation in a positive way.

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What do you really know with BDSM? It's more like a kinky buffet than one size fits all!

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Creativity isn't just useful in being kinky. It's sometimes necessary for getting a kink-fix, too when your regular, vanilla life gets in the way.

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Not all spankings are created equal. Find out about the different types of spankings that can be used with your consenting partner.

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Living life as a submissive isn't what most people expect - and it isn't all about sex. Learn more here.

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Interested in getting into the BDSM lifestyle? Find out what BDSM means, what it entails, and get some tips on how to get started in the lifestyle.

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