Why would anyone with a penis want to limit their erections and ability to orgasm? Because control can be hot and creating sexual tension can have explosive results.
Looking for the ultimate guide to a chastity kink? You're in the right place!
What is a chastity kink?
Does the idea of powerful orgasms interest you? What about your sex drive being the center of attention? What about regular erotic teasing that amps up your sex drive and keeps you wanting even more?
Congrats! You have a general idea of why people like the idea of a chastity kink!
Merriam-Webster defines chastity as "abstention from all sexual intercourse", and that's, essentially, what it is. (Though, for most chastity kinksters, the focus is on the orgasm itself - not "sexual intercourse")
By indulging in lots of teasing while never going "all the way" to orgasm, you amp up the sex drive, keep those juicy, intimate feelings flowing 24/7, are more likely to be ready for sexual play at a moment's notice, and have stronger, more intense orgasms when you finally do cum!
All the fun isn't just relegated to the chaste person, though. The lovers of chaste people can have a great time too. Not only does it keep the chaste partner amped up and more likely to be up for sex whenever the lover wants to do it, but many lovers also report that the chaste person offers up more time and energy to the relationship itself.
For some couples (myself included!), chastity play also can keep a low-level current of sexual energy going throughout your busy, day-to-day lives! Even if you don't have time to indulge in an entire quickie, there can be some verbal teasing and kissing that offers a great "excuse" for short bursts of intimacy between tasks.
Plus, lots of foreplay and teasing can lead to begging and moaning - a "bonus" that partners of chastity lovers can be really into!
Giving the Chastity Kink a Try: A Look at Types of Male Chastity
Curious about exploring a chastity kink?
Well, just try it!
While chastity cages are the focus of this article, you do not need a chastity cage to explore a chastity kink. Chastity cages, also known as cock cages, penis cages, dick cages or male chastity devices, are an additional accessory you can add to the fun of chastity, but even at their heart, chastity cages are only as effective as the person wearing them. There will always be ways to cheat - especially if you're playing safely!
With that in mind, if the idea of chastity appeals to you, simply stop having orgasms. That's it! Continue to tease yourself and your sex drive, but don't give in to that final explosion.
The exact rules you set for yourself will vary based on what sounds fun to you. This could include:
- All the hands-on masturbation you'd want - but no orgasms.
- No hands-on masturbation at all - but you'll allow any orgasms that happen through penetration alone.
- All the touching you'd like Monday through Saturday, but no orgasms until you log on to a specific website on Sunday evening.
- No touching of yourself - with or without toys.
- No orgasms achieved by masturbation - but orgasms via your kink alone are allowed.
- No touching at all without permission from your partner.
- All the touching you could possibly want, but orgasms only happen with permission from your partner.
- You're only allowed touching for an hour leading up to when your partner would like to have sex. This might look like heading into the bedroom an hour early to "prep yourself" before your lover comes to bed.
- When you and your lover are together, you're not allowed any orgasms, but you're allowed free reign when you're traveling.
- Any other option you can think up!
Like everything else about sex, your chastity kink will look unique to you, your desires and your relationships.
Your chastity period might last two hours, or it might last two years. You might play with a male chastity device, and you might play without. You might involve a partner, hired keyholder, or long-distance lover, or you might not. You might find a platonic chastity kink buddy to support one another, or you might not.
Your chastity kink play is as unique as you are! Feel free to get creative with it!
Read: Orgasm Denial?! It's More Fun Than You Might Think
Chastity Cages 101
Some kinksters choose to add a chastity cage to their play. This adds a physical "reminder" of their situation in addition to making it physically more difficult to touch yourself.
What is a chastity cage? What are they designed to do?
![Three chastity cock cages from Lock the Cock]()
Left to Right: Lock the Cock's Holy Trainer V5, Sevanda Golden Cage and Cage of Shame.
Think of a chastity cage like a "jail" for the penis. It's a small contraption that encircles the penis shaft and makes it difficult for the wearer to touch the penis and get an erection. These two things, working together, can make it much harder for a penis-owner to orgasm.
For penis-owners who have spent their entire lives stroking up and down the shaft in order to facilitate orgasm, the inability to stroke up and down can make it very difficult to orgasm.
However, it doesn't make it impossible. Where there's a will, there's a way, and when it comes to achieving orgasm, it turns out people have a lot of will. Wand massagers placed on the chastity cage can be orgasmic for most, and some cage-wearers find that they can have prostate orgasms via penetration while locked up. For long periods of denial, even the ability to stroke the penis through the cock cage with a single finger can be enough to make orgasm happen. (If you think that'd be you, you'd probably want to avoid cages with lots of holes and opt for a full-coverage cage like the Holy Trainer V5!)
Where there's a will, there's a way, and when it comes to achieving orgasm, it turns out people have a lot of will.
Like I said, there will always be ways to "cheat" into an orgasm with a chastity device. Some couples use this to their advantage, and the locked partner may be "allowed" orgasms - but only if they're achieved while the penis cage is strapped on. It's just all about how you want to play!
How do chastity cages work?
The term "chastity cage" generally refers to a type of chastity device we call a "ball-trap cage." These cages have two main parts. There's a long tube that covers up the penis shaft. That tube is connected to a circular ring that anchors underneath the scrotum, pressed up against the person's body. This "anchors" the tube in place by trapping the balls in-between the tube and the circular ring. As long as the scrotum isn't able to fully slide through the circular ring, the chastity cage will stay on the penis.
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(Pictured: Holy Trainer V5 in Nub size from Lock the Cock)
Most ball-trap devices are then locked with a lock and key. This locks the circular piece to the penis tube piece, and ensures they can't be pulled apart unless the lock is cut off or the key is used.
And that's it! That's how people get "locked" into chastity!
There are other styles of chastity devices in addition to ball-trap cages. Chastity belts encircle the entire hips to help holster a chastity cage in place.
For most kinksters, a ball-trap device is where they'll start their kink journey - and almost all of them stay there. They offer less interruption to the rest of the body, are available in a multitude of sizes, colors, and designs (including custom ones!), and are the most affordable.
What does using a chastity cage as part of your chastity kink feel like?
Who better to tell you about chastity cages than my partners, who both enjoy orgasm denial and chastity cages?
One partner (who prefers wearing a metal cage like the Cage of Shame from Lock the Cock) said:
"When you first get into a chastity cage, it's mostly just ... present. You can feel the weight of it and the pressure of it around your bits. Even if you're wearing underwear, it's just impossible to forget.
For everyday wear, after a week or so, it doesn't feel as "present" anymore. I'd say it's like wearing heavy boots. The first couple of days you wear them to work, you're really aware that they're heavier than your last shoes, but once you get used to them, they simply ... are.
It isn't an overwhelming, constantly-on-your-mind sensation once you're used to it until you have to interact with it or think about it. Once you do, the heaviness and the compression of the device feels really nice. It's sorta like that comforting feeling of a weighted blanket, only it happens to have orgasms and my partner's pleasure attached to it too.
When you really start to "feel" the cage is when you try to get hard - especially when sleeping. When you get nighttime erections, it's just plain pain. It wakes you up, suddenly, out of your sleep to massive amounts of discomfort. It's probably the worst part about wearing a chastity cage for multiple days.
During the daytime, those same erections don't feel so bad. It's hot to feel the hardness pressing up against the constraint of the cage as long as it's a good cage. When I have a bad cage on, I can feel it really pulling away from my body as my dick gets hard, which can tug really painfully on the rings underneath my sack. When it's the right cage for me, though, it's heavy constriction that feels pleasant without the puke-y sensation of heavy tugging on my balls. It's like getting hard into my tightly-squeezing hand - only that hand happens to be made of metal bars.
Wearing a cage also changes a bit about how the whole package moves. Like when going to pee, I'd normally just move the shaft, and it'd be able to move on its own. When you have a cage on, everything is connected to each other, so just attempting to move the shaft will always lead to an all-encompassing feeling that transfers to movement in the balls too. Everything in the downstairs just kinda moves together in a way that doesn't happen without a cage."
The other said:
"It's kinda like a corset for your penis. If you have the wrong size, it can be painful, but if you have the right one, it's like a constant tight hug around the entire thing. It's like a kinky secret you and I share that no one else knows anything about. I love the feeling of being under control, but I could skip putting the cage on and off. It's a big pain in the ass because my dick has a mind of its own and always wants to get hard while doing it. "
What does a chastity cage feel like? It's like getting hard into my tightly-squeezing hand - only that hand happens to be made of metal bars.
Does a chastity cage hurt?
It can, but it doesn't have to.
As you could have guessed by some of what you've read so far, the fit of your chastity cage determines how comfortable you're going to be.
If your cage is a poor fit, it's probably going to be painful. It might pinch skin, or it might pull away from the body and strangle the testicles. It might droop away from the body, making it easier to "ball tap" yourself by simply sitting down. It might cause rashes or rub the skin off.
A cage designed for your body will typically be pain-free. With the right size against your skin, a bit of lube can usually alleviate any rashes or rubbing.
Expect a feeling of heaviness and pressure, but a chastity cage shouldn't hurt. If it does, zero in on what's causing the pain and work to rectify it. In many cases, getting a smaller penis tube for your cage is the answer.
The fit of your chastity cage determines how comfortable you're going to be.
Can you get hard in a chastity cage?
Yes and no!
Your penis can begin the physiological process of getting erect, but with a properly fitting cage, it simply won't have the room to expand. That's one of the big points about rigid chastity cages: they're crafted to prevent full erection.
When the process of getting erect happens, the flesh of the penis will squish out into any open areas it can find (like between the metal bars of your cage). Imagine what a penis would look like while trying to expand out around the metal bars of Lock the Cock's Cage of Shame, pictured below.
![Lock the Cock's Cage of Shame chastity cage]()
Since the penis won't have enough space to get fully erect, though, it will simply reach the "peak" hardness it can get in the cage, spend awhile throbbing, and then the erection will subside.
You'll likely feel this process - especially as the penis fills all of the space available within the cage. The throbbing will be the familiar, turned-on throbbing you're used to, but there will be more pressure and constriction around the shaft than you're used to.
With a poor-fitting chastity cage, you may be able to get mostly erect. In doing so, it will likely push the cage away from your body, providing a vice-grip on the testicles with the base ring. This can be extremely, extremely unpleasant, which is why getting your sizing right is so important.
Can you pee in a chastity cage?
Yep, you can. Most cages are designed to let urine drip through a hole in the tip of the chastity cage. If a cage is properly fitted and aligned, the cage's tip is more likely to be aligned with the urine drain hole in the tip of the chastity cage. In other cases, the penis may be slightly off to the side of the drain hole, and the urine will end up draining out the tip of the cage like a funnel.
Almost everyone who wears a chastity cage needs to sit down to pee. The inability to position the penis exactly where you want it can make the resulting urine stream extremely unpredictable.
While not recommended for beginners, some chastity cages, like the Sevanda Golden Cage, pictured below, are equipped with an optional urethral tube to streamline the urination process.
![Lock the Cock Sevanda Golden chastity cage with urethral tube]()
How to Choose and Buy a Male Chastity Cage for Your Chastity Kink
Let's get this out of the way: you're probably going to buy more than one male chastity cage.
Getting a perfectly-fitting cock cage on the first try is a bit like finding a needle in a haystack. Even if you do all of your due diligence and take measurements six times, you'll likely find that your body has a preference for something slightly smaller or larger than what you originally choose.
That's a good thing! It's like cooking a new dinner dish and finding that you'd like to try putting more spices in it next time. You've learned something to make your future experiences better.
This is why most kinky experts don't recommend breaking the bank on your first chastity device. While going for the lowest-priced chastity cages usually aren't recommended, a mid-tier chastity device will give you a pleasant chastity kink experience while simultaneously ensuring you don't feel too much guilt when you want to try something new.
When choosing your penis cage, I'd recommend:
- Thinking about your lifestyle and choosing what type of cage you'd like
- Taking your flaccid measurements on five different days to determine chastity cage sizing
- Reaching out to the manufacturer/retailer if you have any questions
- Purchasing your cage
Using the sizing guide that Lock the Cock provides can be a tremendous help in ensuring you're taking the correct measurements.
Chastity Cage Materials
If you can make a "cage" out of the material, someone has probably made a chastity cage out of it. However, unless you're going into rare, expensive materials, the most likely materials you'll see will be metal, TPE/TPR, silicone and plastic. Each material has its own benefits and issues.
Read: Sex Toy Safety: A Guide to Materials
Metal Chastity Cages
Pictured: Put a Ring on It from Lock the Cock
Next, we have the rigid material of a metal male chastity cage. These are probably the most common types of chastity cages that you'll see. Factory production has drastically reduced their costs, allowing them to be much more affordable than the previous generation of metal cages had been.
